Feeling Low in Perth
Oct 3rd 2006 | 6:08 pm
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Re: Feeling Low in Perth
Originally Posted by iPom
I got a spider bite which did the same for me Amanda... I wonder which bug bit you?
Good to hear that your flatmate has been re-bitten by the travel bug... Other people's negativity can really bring you down.
Good to hear that your flatmate has been re-bitten by the travel bug... Other people's negativity can really bring you down.
Oct 3rd 2006 | 6:48 pm
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Re: Feeling Low in Perth
You're better off with the biting bugs than the negative people, you can get over a bite (well usually) but negative whingers can be the difference between you making a great new life or being thoroughly miserable.
Next time you hear the slightest murmer of negativity turn round and run a mile, oh and vitamin B1 is good for keeping the biting things at bay.
Lynn
Next time you hear the slightest murmer of negativity turn round and run a mile, oh and vitamin B1 is good for keeping the biting things at bay.
Lynn
Oct 3rd 2006 | 7:11 pm
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Re: Feeling Low in Perth
Originally Posted by movetoperth
You're better off with the biting bugs than the negative people, you can get over a bite (well usually) but negative whingers can be the difference between you making a great new life or being thoroughly miserable.
Next time you hear the slightest murmer of negativity turn round and run a mile, oh and vitamin B1 is good for keeping the biting things at bay.
Lynn
Next time you hear the slightest murmer of negativity turn round and run a mile, oh and vitamin B1 is good for keeping the biting things at bay.
Lynn
Oct 9th 2006 | 10:50 am
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Re: Feeling Low in Perth
Originally Posted by amanda34
Yup, even going to throw a housewarming in a couple of weeks........although it will at this stage be only work colelagues, I am hoping by that point she will have gone on with her travels rather than me having to ask her to leave.
If she hasnt moved out, then tell her that one of your friends is coming over for a month or so and give the big hint.
Good luck in settlling, youve got the right attitude.
al.x
Oct 9th 2006 | 10:56 am
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Re: Feeling Low in Perth
Originally Posted by amanda34
Hi guys,
I kind of realised what one of my issues was. I actually had let a girl I met on the plane stay with me as she was travelling, staying here for a couple of months, then going off travelling. She really hated the hostel.....so said as I had a spare room, she could stay there until she went off travelling.
I don't really think that has helped me as she has been quite negative and miserable since being here. I have a fabulous job with fabulous people, I have a gorgeous apartment which is like a spot of heaven, a five star spa and yes, I am going to be adjusting, but then I realised that this girl who was staying with me was constantly complaining and moaning about Perth, about my apartment (she screamed how she hated the bathroom the other day as the mirror made her look ugly), she equally complained she didnt like my drinking glasses so wanted to go out and buy some etc etc....so think that made me feel better when I realised it was actually her negativity that was making me feel weird.
I spoke to her and said she didnt seem happy and as she was a traveller maybe she should move on, as obviously I am making a life in Perth, but she is visiting (I know before anyone tells me, she deserved a foot up her behind.....I am not soft, but do think she is very miserable and maybe a touch homesick so dont want to be too hard on her). So hopefully she will be off travelling in a week so I can feel settled myself.
A few of you have messaged to invite me places, which is sooooo appreciated......it would be great to have some drinking buddies here so Saturday nights wont be eating my weight in chocolate whilst watching a drab movie for too much longer.
I do feel good about being here, I knew I always did really, there was just something and it was half that settling in feeling and half other persons negativity
I kind of realised what one of my issues was. I actually had let a girl I met on the plane stay with me as she was travelling, staying here for a couple of months, then going off travelling. She really hated the hostel.....so said as I had a spare room, she could stay there until she went off travelling.
I don't really think that has helped me as she has been quite negative and miserable since being here. I have a fabulous job with fabulous people, I have a gorgeous apartment which is like a spot of heaven, a five star spa and yes, I am going to be adjusting, but then I realised that this girl who was staying with me was constantly complaining and moaning about Perth, about my apartment (she screamed how she hated the bathroom the other day as the mirror made her look ugly), she equally complained she didnt like my drinking glasses so wanted to go out and buy some etc etc....so think that made me feel better when I realised it was actually her negativity that was making me feel weird.
I spoke to her and said she didnt seem happy and as she was a traveller maybe she should move on, as obviously I am making a life in Perth, but she is visiting (I know before anyone tells me, she deserved a foot up her behind.....I am not soft, but do think she is very miserable and maybe a touch homesick so dont want to be too hard on her). So hopefully she will be off travelling in a week so I can feel settled myself.
A few of you have messaged to invite me places, which is sooooo appreciated......it would be great to have some drinking buddies here so Saturday nights wont be eating my weight in chocolate whilst watching a drab movie for too much longer.
I do feel good about being here, I knew I always did really, there was just something and it was half that settling in feeling and half other persons negativity
Glad you got to the root of your sadness - it doesn't help when those around you are negative! Anway, will be arriving in Perth on Thurs afternoon, so can't wait! Been real busy packing over the past week, so I've been missing out on here. Going Sailing on Saturday afternoon with a group of friends too; can't wait! I'll call you when I land.
Regards,
Ed
Oct 9th 2006 | 10:58 am
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Re: Feeling Low in Perth
Originally Posted by HellasAU
Hi Amanda,
Glad you got to the root of your sadness - it doesn't help when those around you are negative! Anway, will be arriving in Perth on Thurs afternoon, so can't wait! Been real busy packing over the past week, so I've been missing out on here. Going Sailing on Saturday afternoon with a group of friends too; can't wait! I'll call you when I land.
Regards,
Ed
Glad you got to the root of your sadness - it doesn't help when those around you are negative! Anway, will be arriving in Perth on Thurs afternoon, so can't wait! Been real busy packing over the past week, so I've been missing out on here. Going Sailing on Saturday afternoon with a group of friends too; can't wait! I'll call you when I land.
Regards,
Ed
Wow, bet your so so so excited.......I had lost the buzz as my visa took longer than expected which was a hsame, hope yours is still there.
Speak to you when you get here.....
Oct 9th 2006 | 11:01 am
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Re: Feeling Low in Perth
Originally Posted by alkristensen
Have you seen the film single white female LOL:scared:
If she hasnt moved out, then tell her that one of your friends is coming over for a month or so and give the big hint.
Good luck in settlling, youve got the right attitude.
al.x
If she hasnt moved out, then tell her that one of your friends is coming over for a month or so and give the big hint.
Good luck in settlling, youve got the right attitude.
al.x
Especially when I approached the subject of her clearly not being happy here and whilst I am she was killing my mojo to say the least......she said she loved it here and then later that day started talking about SIX MONTHS........how she would be over the moon to have somewhere like this to stay for SIX MONTHS......she was only supposed to be here a couple before moving on travelling.
Single white female.....yup....but one I dont charge rent to.
No good deed goes unpunished as some really smart person once said
Oct 9th 2006 | 9:04 pm
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Re: Feeling Low in Perth
Originally Posted by amanda34
Yes my new boss kind of said the same thing as you :scared:
Especially when I approached the subject of her clearly not being happy here and whilst I am she was killing my mojo to say the least......she said she loved it here and then later that day started talking about SIX MONTHS........how she would be over the moon to have somewhere like this to stay for SIX MONTHS......she was only supposed to be here a couple before moving on travelling.
Single white female.....yup....but one I dont charge rent to.
No good deed goes unpunished as some really smart person once said
Especially when I approached the subject of her clearly not being happy here and whilst I am she was killing my mojo to say the least......she said she loved it here and then later that day started talking about SIX MONTHS........how she would be over the moon to have somewhere like this to stay for SIX MONTHS......she was only supposed to be here a couple before moving on travelling.
Single white female.....yup....but one I dont charge rent to.
No good deed goes unpunished as some really smart person once said
There are some people who consider the world owes them a living: you seem to have picked one up. It is one thing to be invited to spend a night with someone while you find somewhere but when you are imposed upon indefinitely it is definitely antisocial at best.
Oct 11th 2006 | 7:15 pm
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Re: Feeling Low in Perth
Yep, tell her that your dad is coming to stay and that you need the room!
Oct 11th 2006 | 10:23 pm
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Re: Feeling Low in Perth
Originally Posted by johnnie7au
Yep, tell her that your dad is coming to stay and that you need the room!
You really don't need someone like that taking advantage... from what you have said, she is staying rent free in a nice house, probably being fed for free and still she moans and makes your life miserable... i would definetly follow this advice and say someone is comign to stay and you need the room, not an unusual occurance for someone having just moved to Perth... either that or find out what her worst phobia is and make her life a nightmare until she bogs of and makes someones elses life a misery, moving to the other side of the world is stressful enough without having a sponging moaning annoying cheeky freeloader taking advantage.
