debbiemc

tina this is really interesting, is that what you did?

if it saves thousands then i'm certainly up for it. the kids really want to go, and the less stress everyone goes through the better.

i know their dad loves them, but they are of an age they can make choices for themselves and i think my ex is being very selfish and thinking about his own need. he hardly has anything to do with our daughter as it is. but, i know this dosent mean he dosent love her.

i know if the bootwere on the other foot, i'd feel the same, but, would think of the kids before myself. after all, whats the saying, 'our kids are only leant to us!'

debs x

meelie

Yep, once your child is out of the country its out of the CSA's jurisdiction. I arrived on 1st July and obviously informed them I was leaving the UK and I got my last payment on the 7th july. Best thing I did, contacting the CSA as it gave me leverage on my ex and caused him a lot of problems (he separated from his second wife briefly because of it). If I hadn't used the CSA he wouldn't have given permission, but then he's an ***ole.

debbiemc

just an update.......... have parted with a cheque for £750 and recieved a 1st court date for 7th of november!

am chuffed, not about the money, but the date as its only 3 weeks away. apparently the caffcass workers will be there so have been advised to make myself known. fingers crossed my ex wont show up!

well, i feel like things are moving now, i've been quite low this past few weeks, but all my stuff has been certified and sent off now and alan collett put me onto a good agent so its full steam ahead now.

i'll let you know what happens on the 7th, if you're interested that is.... till then ta ta for now.

debbie

tiredwithtwins

hiya debs, have just sent you a pm

sue x

ub40fan

Hi Debbie

Hope things go well for you on the 7th.

Shirley

herrchook

Good luck Debbie, hope it goes your way. Fingers crossed for you.

tinaj

Good to hear you are going ahead with doing it yourself. Fingers crossed it all goes good for you. X

Mel

hello debbiemc,

my cousin who is starting the process for migration to Australia is also separated from her husband. She is doing the application by herself as she just can't afford to employ the services of a migration agent.

would you mind if i request for a template for the stat dec. that the ex-husband has to sign? We just want to know what should be the complete details needed to be put in the stat dec.

hope you sort your problem with your ex soon.

best regards.

debbiemc

thanks everyone for the good wishes. i just feel better knowing things are starting to move now.

tina, i'm not doing it myself afterall, i just didnt want to risk it, so have got a top notch solicitor as advised, the best in the field apparently, bloody ought to be, £160 ph plus vat!!!!!! the £750 was just the deposit!! she reckons if it goes the whole way, the total costs will be £5K :scared:

thanks again everyone and i'll keep you posted

debs x

debbiemc

firstly, welcome to expats and thanks for the good wishes.

i cant find the thread where i downloaded the form but if you send a pm to andrew63 and ask hiom nicely , i'm sure he'll give you the web address.

hope your cousins has better luck than me!

debbie