I went straight to stage 4 (well sort of, never had any problems really) although I did have a very minor setback after my son visited.

Hi,

Im on my way to Joondalup/Wanneroo area. I have read a couple of culture shock processes and I think this is the worst case scenario one. I hope i miss 2 and 3 and go straight to 4

I believe it's just how I am. I have never let things get on top of me, and things that bother most just don't bother me and if they do then I just go somewhere quiet and chill out for a bit. Then I hit my problems/worries head on and get over it.

I should have been an Aussie (laid back by nature )

There are a few of us about

Didn't go through any phases luckily - but have spent a lot of my life abroad.

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informative post that ...cheers.

Dave
Oldhamer (still)

been there and done it many of times.

The MBTTUK forum has plent of stage 2's in, you can read it a mile off. they need help

Must say hello - we're in Roley

and I reckon we just went to satge 4 too.

This whole thing reads like some inevitable roadmap that every single person goes through. Have you considered the possibility of it being something so simple as a case of people simply saying "I have it better here, this is great!", or, "all things considered,my life was better in the UK". There may never be a "Recovery Phase or At-Ease-At-Last Phase" if your life in your new country is a total dissapointment compared to what you had, and you could waste years hanging around in the belief that some new phase will come along, when it just won't. I hope it does for you and everyone else, but it's not guaranteed. Why should it be?

At this stage the newcomer either gets stronger and stays, or gets weaker and goes home (physically, mentally or both).

PMSL at that. "You must be mentally weak if you realise you had an even better life back in the UK". Yeah, right.

yeah but some actually convince themselves of this, those that dont like their new ex-pat life, and hanker for the UK,

makes me laugh and I am addicted to reading their drivel, its really interesting to read, how they romantise a whole life in the Uk from a couple of memories they had years ago, theirs one or two in particular, its hysterical to read and upsetting at the same time.

For quite a lot of people it is not a case of convincing themselves of anything, and I can see how your post could be quite distressing to people genuinekly suffering from homesickness. Australia does not suit everyone, and for some people life in the Uk was/is better than here for many many reasons. A lot of people don't yearn for the UK because of a "couple of memories" but because that is where their friends are, their families, and a lifestyle they enjoy more than the one they have here.
And before you say "then they should go home" - its not always as easy as it sounds.
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You need to realise that BE exists to support everyone, not just those who are settled in their new lives. If you connot be a little more sympathetic and supportive then please don't bother posting, certainly on threads like this.

Thank you for saying what I was thinking Pollyana.

I for one don't have a single romantic hankering for the UK, the only things I truely miss are friends and close family.

With regards to the last few posts I reckon thats one of the biggest things why people go home.
I know I will miss my friends and family, maybe not immediately but over time.

Its a shame that family and friends cant all emigrate at the same time - that must be brilliant for some on here that have done that.

We only have one life and Its about living it, some think being with family is more important than living a better life for themselves Everyones different and until you have tried it you will never know!, but at least you have had the opportunity of finding out, emigration is obviously not for everyone.

I hopefully will be taking my children with me (court next week) - who are my family, I love my mum and dad and will miss my friends but will make my own family over there and although it will be difficult at times I want to make it work.

I want to work hard and play hard.

Dave

Very interesting post... I am the same, will miss my dear friends and my other family, but was of the mind that I will have the people i *need* to have with me.. my husband and my 2 young children.. then my Mum wisely pointed out that I ought to make sure that I realise that one day when my kids are older they might want to move themselves back to England (she said it nicely.. not in a b1tchy way)..

Certainly gave me food for thought and realisation of the shoe being on the other foot!

Em x

Thx for the post!
I'm among those who went through 2 and 3.(not sure if i'm done with them)
And though it is really better here for many reasons home is home (all my family except oh is there) and i still miss it, even though i have a great home in a new country
I'm on my 14th month and only now started feeling a bit adequate
before i felt very much out of place.