BRICKY ADE

I'd be really afraid if we where just going to land somewhere that we'd never been and didn't know anyone :scared:[/QUOTE]


yep...thats us !!! so it is normal then, for me to be shiteing meself ???

Bix

Expect a lot.....lose a lot.

Expect little..... stand to gain a lot.

Pleasant surprises are better than dissappointments.

Nicky & Dave

Absolutely natural to be feeling what you're feeling. Probably the biggest decision of your lives moving to the other side of the world - so really it's unsurprising to have doubts. I'd be more worried if you didn't have any!

Like you, I've been there too - even to the point where I decided I didn't want to emigrate and the whole thing was off, but that passed and I've now come full circle. We had planned to leave end Nov but we've got full asking price on our house from a cash buyer who wants to move asap so we're in the same situation as you - everything happening very quickly and all becoming very real!

I can only offer the same advice to you that I'm trying to follow myself, and that's to take it a step at a time and not to feel overwhelmed by the situation. I try not to dwell on the things I'm leaving behind so I rather focus on what I believe we will gain by moving to Oz. Like you, this is something that we have waited a long time for - and we are so lucky. It's an opportunity that many, many people will never have. After all, it doesn't have to be forever so we're going to go and give it our best shot!

Keep positive and best of luck with the move,

Nicky

Fionast

I'm having the wobbles too. Thoufh I definately want to go I'm starting to panic. It has eased a bit now the house is on the market and the shippers are giving us quotes and I'm feeling a bit more organised but at the same time I feel I am on a Kamikazi water slide where I have to take the plunge and face my fears so that I can experienc ethe wonderful feeling at the end of the ride.

It's a mixture of fear of the unknown, nerves, excitement, anticipation and knowing that there are so many people to say goodbye to. Some days I'm quite calm and it doesn't seem like a huge deal while others like today I'm in a complete jumble of feelings.

I think this has been highlighted by 2 recent deaths in our family 1 of which was my uncle in canada. My mum was getting pressure put on her in the weeks before to go over. I was telling her it that it was my Aunts decision to emmigrate and also my grans to emmigrate out to her and that they can't expect her to drop everything to go over and help out. There decision their consequences. The same as it's my decision to go to Oz and i can;t expect people to come running to me.

I hadn't realy thought of it before and it's been praying on my mind. At the end of the day though I am going because I want to because it's the right thing for both of us and any kids we may have, I'm just a bit more prepared for dealing with things on our own.

Fiona

egghead4

just read your comments, which started me thinking about how we will feel if granted a visa. where abouts on the sunshine coast are you heading. I pretty much agree that this is a great area to live and raise a family. what jobs are you going to be looking for? I hope everything works out for you, best of luck
bec+egg

Dimwit

Completely understand what you are going through. We got our visa granted last Thursday and now it is very real not just a case of keep talking about the possibility of living on other side of world. So much to sort out but I keep telling myself that it is the start of a new chapter in our lives and one big adventure. When we started this whole process about 18 months ago I held onto an image of celebrating Christmas day on the beach instead of in freezing London and now we are going to be there this Christmas...

So many people never get this opportunity so we must make the most of it after all whats the worst that can happen? It doesn't work out so you come back to UK.

Stay strong and focus on what you stand to gain from the move and what sort of life you want to have this time next year.

Best of luck

Sam

Davelynd7

Hi again everyone!!

We both just wanted to say BLESS YOU ALL - we were overwhelmed by the many 'support' messages and 'wise words' from you all.

...Sat here reading them (both blubbering.... what wusses eh?!!) and we just feel it's restored our faith that there ARE plenty of nice people out there......!!

Hubby is now back on track - (busy doing his cost of living budget, and watching the hifx rates...! Im writing page 43 of our 'to do list'...!!!!! ha ha
so far more positive now.

As they say - every day's a lesson, so lets enjoy the ride, eh?

Good luck to you all in whatever your current situations are ("here or there")

Cheers! Lynda & Dave

bleugh

i'm flying out at the end of October, start work 2nd week of November........2.5 months left, i still havent put the house on the market, i'm leaving an okish job and an ok lifestyle to jump into the unknown

the way I see it, i'm lucky to have made a little money on the house, i'm fundementally not happy here in the UK, i'm itching to at least try something different......so, why not! at the end of the day, it's only money........worst case, i've had a long (expensive) holiday the other side of the planet :-). if it all goes wrong, big deal, I can come back and start again.................I'm finding it hard to let go though

Speargun

Hey Im sure lots of us our in the same boat....many worries of starting everything new....giving up a perfectly good job and making ourselves jobless ...if you are having doubts grab a Wiggles CD and "wiggle those wobbles away!" Look to the future not what you are going from?

TeresaG

I'm sure what you are feeling is completely normal. I've seen lots of similar posts to yours and I'm sure that we all go through this at some point.

We are only just starting out with it all and we constantly wonder if we are doing the right thing.

Speargun

Hey I must say and for what its worth - IM CONVINCED you are doing the right thing! Unfortunately this country is "going to the dogs" as one of my vendors put it - personally in the not to distant future I think Australia will be even stricter and let much fewer people in. Australia isnt without its problems but they pale in comparison with ours. Its refreshing to see that even the little things like the place is clean (Generalisation granted) but people are proud of their country and want it to stay that way.

Hopefully when (Eventually!) I do get a visa!, and I live in their Country Ill abide by Australias laws and beliefs and feel very privilaged to live there- something else that seems to be wrong with some of the immigrants to the UK!

Itll be worth it!

stuckinblighty

wobbles ? WOBBLES ?? I have the bleedin' wobbles every day.Some days are better than others,Some days i want to leave NOW ,other times i think i must be completely nuts :scared:
My missus doesnt seem to show any emotion either way She just wants 'out of here'.Her stock reply is that she'll worry about it when the visa comes thru'.Well i'm not like that cos i'm panicing now and i ain't even passed the TRA stage yet !!
At the moment i see it as a challenge to get my hands on an aussie visa..the move is a million miles away but i know if it does all come good i'll be absolutely bricking it
Anyway.... heres to everyones big move

Lee

elizabeth charnock

[Congratulations guys! The worst part is definately over!
I can certainly empathise with your husband as it is very difficult being in limbo for two whole years, the uncertainty must have been unbearable at times!
If it is any consollation, this is a pretty common experience and many migrants (myself included) have gone through this process, that doesn't make it any easier I know, but what I mean to say is you are not alone (though I'm sure at times it will have felt that way)

Try not to get despondent, it is finally happening for you, this is what the past two years have all been about isn't it?

You won't be dissapointed, the Sunshine Coast is beautiful!
When you arrive why not get in touch with us at www.bulmss.org.au we may be able to help you with the ressetlement process.
Good luck and Bon Voyage!

Beth

elizabeth charnock

Here, Here!

Australia isn't the land of milk and honey it once was, unfortunately and it isn't without its problems let me tell you! One only has to visit any public toilet to be greeted by the needle disposal bins to be reminded that heroin addiction and poverty amongst the lower social classes is rife!
However having said that Australia rewards hard work and for those of you who are prepared to embrace it as your homeland I promise you you will be rewarded.
When you live in a country as beautiful as Australia , you can forgive it its flaws!
Take Care
Beth (www.bulmss.org.au)

Davelynd7

Just become even more despondent - our buyers have pulled out,
So never mind 'wobbles' now were just back to square 1 again.... Hopeless!