Child support agency and Oz
Jul 14th 2008, 11:20 am
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Wow! I feel as though i wrote this thread myself! Exact same position.
I have a 12 yr old whose mother is a catatonic headcase! And thats putting it mildly.
I pay almost £400 per calendar month through the CSA and have no hope of keeping this up if i want to pay for him to come over.
I am having to consider cancelling the UK CSA order and waiting for them to review my AU circumstances and then possibly chasing me for a new order.
I happily paid for 10 years on a private agreement but she got greedy and wanted more so called the CSA. She has never worked a day in her life, yet manages to wear all the gear and visit the salon at least once a week! My son sees little or nothing of the money i send.
She calls and laughs at me on the phone trying to rub in how well she is doing while she screws the benefits agency and has her other half living with her as well!
10 years is a long time to live to learn with nutters like this, but i still feel like losing it when i think about it! :curse:
I have a 12 yr old whose mother is a catatonic headcase! And thats putting it mildly.
I pay almost £400 per calendar month through the CSA and have no hope of keeping this up if i want to pay for him to come over.
I am having to consider cancelling the UK CSA order and waiting for them to review my AU circumstances and then possibly chasing me for a new order.
I happily paid for 10 years on a private agreement but she got greedy and wanted more so called the CSA. She has never worked a day in her life, yet manages to wear all the gear and visit the salon at least once a week! My son sees little or nothing of the money i send.
She calls and laughs at me on the phone trying to rub in how well she is doing while she screws the benefits agency and has her other half living with her as well!
10 years is a long time to live to learn with nutters like this, but i still feel like losing it when i think about it! :curse:
We're definately not going to be able to afford it when we move. We've gone through a bad time financially in the past and when we were late with one payment she rang us. OH told her that if she made things difficult then we were going to declare ourselves bankrupt and then she would get not a lot. Its very hard, we'd like to sit his son down and explain everything, but she won't let him have any control over his life. He just gets very upset. He wanted to join the RAF but she won't let him as he might have to fight. Its quite sad to see how she controls him. We once had a solicitors letter because we had the cheek to take him for a haircut without her permission. Hopefully one day he'll rebel.
Tracyxx
Jul 14th 2008, 11:25 am
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Re: Child support agency and Oz
Wow! I feel as though i wrote this thread myself! Exact same position.
I have a 12 yr old whose mother is a catatonic headcase! And thats putting it mildly.
I pay almost £400 per calendar month through the CSA and have no hope of keeping this up if i want to pay for him to come over.
I am having to consider cancelling the UK CSA order and waiting for them to review my AU circumstances and then possibly chasing me for a new order.
I happily paid for 10 years on a private agreement but she got greedy and wanted more so called the CSA. She has never worked a day in her life, yet manages to wear all the gear and visit the salon at least once a week! My son sees little or nothing of the money i send.
She calls and laughs at me on the phone trying to rub in how well she is doing while she screws the benefits agency and has her other half living with her as well!
10 years is a long time to live to learn with nutters like this, but i still feel like losing it when i think about it! :curse:
I have a 12 yr old whose mother is a catatonic headcase! And thats putting it mildly.
I pay almost £400 per calendar month through the CSA and have no hope of keeping this up if i want to pay for him to come over.
I am having to consider cancelling the UK CSA order and waiting for them to review my AU circumstances and then possibly chasing me for a new order.
I happily paid for 10 years on a private agreement but she got greedy and wanted more so called the CSA. She has never worked a day in her life, yet manages to wear all the gear and visit the salon at least once a week! My son sees little or nothing of the money i send.
She calls and laughs at me on the phone trying to rub in how well she is doing while she screws the benefits agency and has her other half living with her as well!
10 years is a long time to live to learn with nutters like this, but i still feel like losing it when i think about it! :curse:
We have the problem that the Ex is under the illusion we are loaded because we both work full time.
My OH went bankrupt as a result of trying to provide for his kids. Once everything is paid he has approx £300 per month for himself including paying for the kids when we have them.
She claims, single person council tax, working family tax credits, child allowance, free school meals etc plus she also works but not to affect her benefits.
Our agreement is outside of the CSA so she doesn't pay tax on it. She pays little tax anyway as she won't work anymore than she has too.
So in effect we pay for them directly and indirectly via the government!
Cx
Jul 14th 2008, 11:28 am
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Re: Child support agency and Oz
Hi
We're definately not going to be able to afford it when we move. We've gone through a bad time financially in the past and when we were late with one payment she rang us. OH told her that if she made things difficult then we were going to declare ourselves bankrupt and then she would get not a lot. Its very hard, we'd like to sit his son down and explain everything, but she won't let him have any control over his life. He just gets very upset. He wanted to join the RAF but she won't let him as he might have to fight. Its quite sad to see how she controls him. We once had a solicitors letter because we had the cheek to take him for a haircut without her permission. Hopefully one day he'll rebel.
Tracyxx
We're definately not going to be able to afford it when we move. We've gone through a bad time financially in the past and when we were late with one payment she rang us. OH told her that if she made things difficult then we were going to declare ourselves bankrupt and then she would get not a lot. Its very hard, we'd like to sit his son down and explain everything, but she won't let him have any control over his life. He just gets very upset. He wanted to join the RAF but she won't let him as he might have to fight. Its quite sad to see how she controls him. We once had a solicitors letter because we had the cheek to take him for a haircut without her permission. Hopefully one day he'll rebel.
Tracyxx
What goes around comes around, sounds like she will end up a lonely woman!!
Every dog has their day and all that!!!
Cx
Jul 14th 2008, 2:11 pm
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Well it took me a long time to understand what went on between my mum and dad but the truth always comes out and as adults they make up their own minds about who did what.
What goes around comes around, sounds like she will end up a lonely woman!!
Every dog has their day and all that!!!
Cx
What goes around comes around, sounds like she will end up a lonely woman!!
Every dog has their day and all that!!!
Cx
Before anyone gets on their soapbox about what I just said I'm trying to make a point, I don't condone kids doing that, but its part of growing up.
Back to the point of the original post - what is the worst they can do to you in Oz? You can only afford what you can afford right? I wouldn't worry about it.
tracy
Jul 14th 2008, 10:17 pm
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I suggest you try to keep her sweet, as she "could" if she found a new partner willing to have the kids adopted by them if you fail to maintain contact and some kind of maintenance payments (very harsh I know, but could happen). If you leave the country and are unable to prove contact & payments made then she can claim you've abandoned them.
I'm not sure how you could get kids over for 2 months as only get 6 weeks in summer and would she be willing to pack kids up and put them on a plane (alone)??? and not see them for 6 weeks?
I fully understand how difficult will be but please be careful how you proceed.
Hope you can post your experiences of how it all goes once you're allover in Aus, as I know there are lots on here with the same issues and worries
I'm not sure how you could get kids over for 2 months as only get 6 weeks in summer and would she be willing to pack kids up and put them on a plane (alone)??? and not see them for 6 weeks?
I fully understand how difficult will be but please be careful how you proceed.
Hope you can post your experiences of how it all goes once you're allover in Aus, as I know there are lots on here with the same issues and worries
Jul 15th 2008, 7:41 am
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I suggest you try to keep her sweet, as she "could" if she found a new partner willing to have the kids adopted by them if you fail to maintain contact and some kind of maintenance payments (very harsh I know, but could happen). If you leave the country and are unable to prove contact & payments made then she can claim you've abandoned them.
I'm not sure how you could get kids over for 2 months as only get 6 weeks in summer and would she be willing to pack kids up and put them on a plane (alone)??? and not see them for 6 weeks?
I fully understand how difficult will be but please be careful how you proceed.
Hope you can post your experiences of how it all goes once you're allover in Aus, as I know there are lots on here with the same issues and worries
I'm not sure how you could get kids over for 2 months as only get 6 weeks in summer and would she be willing to pack kids up and put them on a plane (alone)??? and not see them for 6 weeks?
I fully understand how difficult will be but please be careful how you proceed.
Hope you can post your experiences of how it all goes once you're allover in Aus, as I know there are lots on here with the same issues and worries
Don't think it would ever come to her declaring abandonment, he is a very supportive parent and wants to be with them as much as possible. They will be coming out with their Gran in the summer and she seems ok with that. They are already coming out for Xmas with the grandparents for 4 weeks!!!!
I just wish the system was more fair!
Jul 15th 2008, 11:43 am
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I think one day he will want to live with us. She smothers him. Vets all his friends and he's not even allowed on a bus incase he gets hurt. Never rode a bike and we had to teach him to tie his shoe laces when he was 13 cause she'd always done it for him!! Hubby wants to drag him to amsterdam when he's 17, let him see what a bit of life is like. He should be behind the school drinking cider and smoking fags on the sly at 16, not worried about what his mummy thinks.
Before anyone gets on their soapbox about what I just said I'm trying to make a point, I don't condone kids doing that, but its part of growing up.
Back to the point of the original post - what is the worst they can do to you in Oz? You can only afford what you can afford right? I wouldn't worry about it.
tracy
Before anyone gets on their soapbox about what I just said I'm trying to make a point, I don't condone kids doing that, but its part of growing up.
Back to the point of the original post - what is the worst they can do to you in Oz? You can only afford what you can afford right? I wouldn't worry about it.
tracy
WTF!!! My son was 16 last week and i let him travel by bus alone for the first time a month ago. Keep kids as kids for as long as possible I believe..
Jul 15th 2008, 11:56 am
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Hey wandathecat, so keeping back the money for the week that he's visiting us worked out well!!!!!!! OH very upset with what son said, apparently his mummy needs that money, its her maintenance. When he's up here with us we have to pay for his bed and board here and to her aswell even though he's not there!!!
Bloody ex-wife money grabbing lazy b***h!!!:curse:
Jul 15th 2008, 10:21 pm
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For those of you that know your exwifes are being fraudulant(having someone else live with them without declaring it)why dont you dob them in?
Maybe ive simplified it ,but they are committing an offence.
donna
Maybe ive simplified it ,but they are committing an offence.
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Jul 16th 2008, 1:24 am
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Wow! I feel as though i wrote this thread myself! Exact same position.
I have a 12 yr old whose mother is a catatonic headcase! And thats putting it mildly.
I pay almost £400 per calendar month through the CSA and have no hope of keeping this up if i want to pay for him to come over.
I am having to consider cancelling the UK CSA order and waiting for them to review my AU circumstances and then possibly chasing me for a new order.
I happily paid for 10 years on a private agreement but she got greedy and wanted more so called the CSA. She has never worked a day in her life, yet manages to wear all the gear and visit the salon at least once a week! My son sees little or nothing of the money i send.
She calls and laughs at me on the phone trying to rub in how well she is doing while she screws the benefits agency and has her other half living with her as well!
10 years is a long time to live to learn with nutters like this, but i still feel like losing it when i think about it! :curse:
I have a 12 yr old whose mother is a catatonic headcase! And thats putting it mildly.
I pay almost £400 per calendar month through the CSA and have no hope of keeping this up if i want to pay for him to come over.
I am having to consider cancelling the UK CSA order and waiting for them to review my AU circumstances and then possibly chasing me for a new order.
I happily paid for 10 years on a private agreement but she got greedy and wanted more so called the CSA. She has never worked a day in her life, yet manages to wear all the gear and visit the salon at least once a week! My son sees little or nothing of the money i send.
She calls and laughs at me on the phone trying to rub in how well she is doing while she screws the benefits agency and has her other half living with her as well!
10 years is a long time to live to learn with nutters like this, but i still feel like losing it when i think about it! :curse:
Just a thought for those of you affected by this - is custody/migration not a feasible option?
Jul 16th 2008, 7:51 am
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Either way, if she was to be found fraudulant then who will they look too for even more support.........!
Jul 21st 2008, 2:05 pm
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Wow! I feel as though i wrote this thread myself! Exact same position.
I have a 12 yr old whose mother is a catatonic headcase! And thats putting it mildly.
I pay almost £400 per calendar month through the CSA and have no hope of keeping this up if i want to pay for him to come over.
I am having to consider cancelling the UK CSA order and waiting for them to review my AU circumstances and then possibly chasing me for a new order.
I happily paid for 10 years on a private agreement but she got greedy and wanted more so called the CSA. She has never worked a day in her life, yet manages to wear all the gear and visit the salon at least once a week! My son sees little or nothing of the money i send.
She calls and laughs at me on the phone trying to rub in how well she is doing while she screws the benefits agency and has her other half living with her as well!
10 years is a long time to live to learn with nutters like this, but i still feel like losing it when i think about it! :curse:
I have a 12 yr old whose mother is a catatonic headcase! And thats putting it mildly.
I pay almost £400 per calendar month through the CSA and have no hope of keeping this up if i want to pay for him to come over.
I am having to consider cancelling the UK CSA order and waiting for them to review my AU circumstances and then possibly chasing me for a new order.
I happily paid for 10 years on a private agreement but she got greedy and wanted more so called the CSA. She has never worked a day in her life, yet manages to wear all the gear and visit the salon at least once a week! My son sees little or nothing of the money i send.
She calls and laughs at me on the phone trying to rub in how well she is doing while she screws the benefits agency and has her other half living with her as well!
10 years is a long time to live to learn with nutters like this, but i still feel like losing it when i think about it! :curse:
OH has told his ex he will pay her direct when we get to OZ and pay direct into her bank account so we have proof he has still been paying with out CSA.
Jul 22nd 2008, 5:29 am
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Your ex-wife could contact the Australian CSA and they could chase you for payment. (Your ex would have to find out about this first though.)
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Jul 22nd 2008, 6:03 am
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Someone I know was recently given some cash by a relative, this person is a single parent of three and on benefits, receives CSA for one and irregular amounts from other two dads, someone has grassed her up and she has to attend an interview, this has all happened in the space of a few weeks.
I agree dob in benefit fraudsters, make sure you have plently if info and details about the person and what type of benefit fraud they are commiting together.
If you have a current order for contact you may want to consider getting it amended before you go to OZ as doing this from Oz will be extremely expensive. If you have agreements already wit our ex regarding contact once you have moved then it would be relatively easy and quick to get the court to make an order.
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Jul 22nd 2008, 6:05 am
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Kids need to learn common sense. If they are not given the tools to do this then they end up as useless adults. I believe kids should allowed to be kids for as long as possible but at 16 a young person should have enough tools to do certain things and travelling on public transport is one of them.