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I was on my bed with my laptop (on expats) and I leant over to turn the TV over and forgot to move my hand which felt the full force of my hip joint and popped.

Tendon now fu*cked.

Knuckle nice and red, fluid surrounding joint and it clicks when I bend it.

Its been a couple of weeks now, as long as its done by my holiday.

And heaven forbid I couldnt type.

Ive managed 2 hours of TRA tonight and just as I was having thoughts of Glen and Alan, i thought 'Stop right now'.

Because Im dreaming about the pair of them now, and its not funny. I cant look at Alan now. Its all getting very muddled. (blushing)

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I think you do sound a bit harsh - after all it`s good to support each other through the highs and lows. I think everyone has got abit fed up with the process at one time or another and having a bit of friendly back up doesn`t do any harm. :rolleyes:

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Nicely said GJ.
You were a lot more restrained than I would have been. We all need some moral support at times. Chin up Rooksie.

Good on yer,
RT.

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I agree it's a bit harsh and until you're in the same position of waiting and waiting for a decision, how can you know what it feels like? Its good to have somewhere you can have a moan or a rant and people will understand where your coming from. After all, these visas in most cases will have cost thousands of pounds and your whole life revolves around getting that visa or not.

Jo

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Are you after the offer of death by titties :rolleyes:

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I agree, but I think sometimes it goes over the line of really wanting help or support, and goes into the realms of attention seeking.

I'm not against giving people support, but maybe people should ask for it when they really need/want it, rather than acting like the boy who cried wolf.

I suspect there's nothing I can say now which will stop me being in the 'bad books', so I won't try and explain further. All I'm suggesting is, when people are posting on a forum full of supportive people, maybe they could ask for support when they really need it, leaving some room for others who may be having just as hard a time.

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I am in that position. Good luck to everyone else who is, but I do know how it feels.

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All I can say is your a sick sick woman!! You definately need that holiday :D

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Whilst I understand that yes, we agree to put ourselves up for this process, that doesnt mean we cant talk about it on here for cyber support from our online pals.

Its an isolating process and discussing it doesnt mean moaning about it.

Any process can be thought of as daunting, and each person has the right to discuss it as they feel the need.

Someone chooses to have a child, well their choice, do they have the right to complain about the whole process?

Someone chooses to train to be a nurse, their choice, should they shut up?

I think its healthy to talk about feelings.

If someone is stressed, then its not healthy to bottle it up and if they get the support they need from this site, then Im all for it.

Not all skills assessments are straight forward as you can ask Rooksie.

I was on the foreign office website today trying to get info from my husbands country - Algeria.

Ive been trying for months to locate his family but due to terrorism and political unrest, the Foreign Office have advised against ALL travel to Algeria.

So a huge chunk of his life cannot be proved, so now we have to get a letter/stat dec to verify this.

More importantly, he doesnt know if his family are dead or alive. He spoke to a friend today who is risking going back for his own reasons and will try to see whats happening about my husband, but its a huge risk for this guy to take and Abdel is terrified to go back there.

So as you see, not all skills assessments are clear cut and I couldnt manage without the support I get from people on here.

I am sorry however if I appear to moan because I dont mean to.

But I know one thing, I cant do it alone.

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I don`t think your "the bad guy" it`s just nice to be able to give support and I`m sure when you are having a bad time of it the support will be there for you too. I don`t think there was any attention seeking meant here as Rooksie didn`t start the thread it was started as a friendly gesture. :)

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Your situation sounds difficult, and I wish you the very best of luck in overcoming it. It sounds as though you have some very real issues to resolve, and I sincerely hope you do so.

I also think, this post should put in perspective some of the petty things people complain about, and let us focus on people who really need the support.

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Surely if you are in the same position, then you would understand. If you knew someone was upset about something, would you wait for them to ask for support or offer it first? I would offer first, rather than wait to be asked. Not many folks will actually ask for support when they need it most.

Friends are there to help out in anyway they can and if it means realising someone is down and trying to cheer them up, then I see nothing wrong with that, or is it just me?

Jo

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Right now, I think we should round up all the men folk and make them do the full monty for us.

Wmoore where are you babes.

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Oh please no!! I`ve just had something to eat :D

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Jo, I completely agree. Have a think about what I said, rather than think of me as being 'negative'

I agree most people are reticent about when they really need help, so it may be better to spend time encouraging and supporting everyone on a forum like this, rather than those who ask for help and attention all the time, whether they really need it or not.