changed our minds
Mar 31st 2006 | 2:13 am
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Re: changed our minds
Originally Posted by moneypen20
If you are happy with the decision, then it's the right decision. I think I would have gone ahead with the reccie though just to really make sure or just to have a damn good holiday especially if you lost that amount :scared:
Check properly about if you can continue at a later date. I have no idea because I am a spouse visa, but does the TRA have an expiry date
I hope you don't leave it too late and then worry about the "what if's", but you can only do what's best for you.
Take care.
Check properly about if you can continue at a later date. I have no idea because I am a spouse visa, but does the TRA have an expiry date
I hope you don't leave it too late and then worry about the "what if's", but you can only do what's best for you.
Take care.
Not sure if TRA has an expiry date either - but I believe that you can up-date them over the space of 1-2 years. When you apply for Visa they will probably ask for an up-date.
Mar 31st 2006 | 2:13 am
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Re: changed our minds
Originally Posted by Sue Atkinson
Yes we changed our minds about moving to Oz. We had the TRA confirmed, flights booked and paid for at the end of May for our reccie trip. Talked and talked about it until we talked our way out of it. We cancelled the flights (lost 1200 pounds - thanks lastminute.com!!)
We have no definate idea why we didn't continue with the move (already cost us in excess of 2'500 pounds). I think that our lives here in the UK are pretty good but it was hubby's job that was a bit insecure that we thought we'd make the move. We then thought of the huge up-heavel, leaving behind family & friends, finding where we wanted to live, not knowing any one etc.. and basically decided that we'd tough out the job situation and see what happens.
I do like the UK (generally) and going somewhere else at this stage in my life (age 42) wasn't the answer. Perhaps we panicked when job situation wasn't good but moving to Oz and starting all over again - I don't think I could - don't think I am a whimp as have travelled loads and been to Oz for visits before.
We may continue with Visa application at the end of the year, visit then, get the stamp then we have 5 years to decide (I think thats all correct). I sound a bit woolly don't I?
Any body else bottled it ???
Sue
We have no definate idea why we didn't continue with the move (already cost us in excess of 2'500 pounds). I think that our lives here in the UK are pretty good but it was hubby's job that was a bit insecure that we thought we'd make the move. We then thought of the huge up-heavel, leaving behind family & friends, finding where we wanted to live, not knowing any one etc.. and basically decided that we'd tough out the job situation and see what happens.
I do like the UK (generally) and going somewhere else at this stage in my life (age 42) wasn't the answer. Perhaps we panicked when job situation wasn't good but moving to Oz and starting all over again - I don't think I could - don't think I am a whimp as have travelled loads and been to Oz for visits before.
We may continue with Visa application at the end of the year, visit then, get the stamp then we have 5 years to decide (I think thats all correct). I sound a bit woolly don't I?
Any body else bottled it ???
Sue
Whatever the decision you make- im a believer that it's always the right one.
I think anyone who doesn't have second thoughts and weigh up the options (at any stage in this process) can't be right in the head - lol.
The only major negative I can find - is that I will miss my friends and family, won't know how hard that will be till I get there.
Jobs - Houses etc... well they can be replaced....
Good luck - it must have been hard to post this
Mar 31st 2006 | 2:14 am
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Re: changed our minds
Originally Posted by Sue Atkinson
Thanks
Not sure if TRA has an expiry date either - but I believe that you can up-date them over the space of 1-2 years. When you apply for Visa they will probably ask for an up-date.
Not sure if TRA has an expiry date either - but I believe that you can up-date them over the space of 1-2 years. When you apply for Visa they will probably ask for an up-date.
Mar 31st 2006 | 2:20 am
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Re: changed our minds
Originally Posted by rammygirl
Yes
We were approved on Skilled Independent about 8 years ago and never took it up- somehow when the news came we were flat not jubilant (or possibly just scared!) we had good careers and would have had to start again with 2 young kids it all seemed a bit daunting-also we had more family then (several have since sadly died).
BUT DO WE REGRET THIS>>>>>>>>>>>>YES YES AND YES!!!
We should have been brave and gone at least to get Citizenship.
We are now faced at our ages 44 &42 with applying for temporary residence on Business Skills visa with 2 teenagers who are making our lives hell over it.
Think very carefully you may not get another chance!
Rammygirl
We were approved on Skilled Independent about 8 years ago and never took it up- somehow when the news came we were flat not jubilant (or possibly just scared!) we had good careers and would have had to start again with 2 young kids it all seemed a bit daunting-also we had more family then (several have since sadly died).
BUT DO WE REGRET THIS>>>>>>>>>>>>YES YES AND YES!!!
We should have been brave and gone at least to get Citizenship.
We are now faced at our ages 44 &42 with applying for temporary residence on Business Skills visa with 2 teenagers who are making our lives hell over it.
Think very carefully you may not get another chance!
Rammygirl
At the moment I feel okay about things. Husband is younger than me only 34 so time is sort of on our side - perhaps that's why I feel okay. If we were both 42 then perhaps our decision would be to go and see. I don't think it is the end of the application but at this moment all seems okay for us in UK. We will think about things again at the end of Summer - this is when his job may have to change.
Sue x
Mar 31st 2006 | 2:20 am
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Re: changed our minds
Originally Posted by Sue Atkinson
Any body else bottled it ???
Sue
Sue
You are far from being a bottler! You have followed your heart, even though it meant a financial loss. You have shown plenty bottle in your decision, you have done what is right for you. You love your home, if only more people did.
My cousin in San Diego, California recently lost the equivalent of £4,000 on a house deposit in Las Vegas by cancelling the move, their new house in Vegas would have been much better than in San Diego (expensive), but their lives would have been crap (endless suburbia in the middle of a desert, a bit like Perth
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Mar 31st 2006 | 2:21 am
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Re: changed our minds
Originally Posted by mick_newcastle
Just like to say good luck with things Sue -
Whatever the decision you make- im a believer that it's always the right one.
I think anyone who doesn't have second thoughts and weigh up the options (at any stage in this process) can't be right in the head - lol.
The only major negative I can find - is that I will miss my friends and family, won't know how hard that will be till I get there.
Jobs - Houses etc... well they can be replaced....
Good luck - it must have been hard to post this
Whatever the decision you make- im a believer that it's always the right one.
I think anyone who doesn't have second thoughts and weigh up the options (at any stage in this process) can't be right in the head - lol.
The only major negative I can find - is that I will miss my friends and family, won't know how hard that will be till I get there.
Jobs - Houses etc... well they can be replaced....
Good luck - it must have been hard to post this
Thanks Mick for this and the info about TRA
Sue x
Mar 31st 2006 | 4:18 am
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Re: changed our minds
Originally Posted by HiddenPaw
Australia has good and bad, just like the UK. Maybe you just have to expect that life in Australia will be 'different', as opposed to 'better'. I mean, of course that we all hope it will be better as I'm sure few of us are striving to change our lives for the worse, but remember for every tale of doom and gloom, there is something fabulous to be discovered and enjoyed.
Aus isn't perfect but that doesn't mean it's hell on earth either. What was your catalyst for emigrating?
Aus isn't perfect but that doesn't mean it's hell on earth either. What was your catalyst for emigrating?
We live in Plymouth Devon and find the area very rough, we have considered moving closer to the sea in a nice area but we are about £200,000 short and on the Gold Coast we can afford a 4 bed house in a good area 10 Min's from a great beach.
the above is all we expect from Australia any more would be a big bonus so hopefully we won't be disappointed
Mar 31st 2006 | 4:41 am
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Re: changed our minds
hiya all
to all those who made the decision to go your very brave
to all those who made the decision to stay your very brave.
I admire anyone who can come to a decision and stand by it no matter what.
Ive had days, week, when ive worried, argued with myself and cried about whether to go or stay.
I finally made a decision to go a month or so ago. unfortunately my sons future lies here in the uk for now. He will be staying with his older brother and his nana..yes a very difficult decision on both our parts. I will be there by myself with no job, friends or family..but i no in my heart that if i stayed here without trying i would live to regret it!
as others have stated its a very personal decision a i wish everyone the best of luck wherever they end up.
regards
lolly
to all those who made the decision to go your very brave
to all those who made the decision to stay your very brave.
I admire anyone who can come to a decision and stand by it no matter what.
Ive had days, week, when ive worried, argued with myself and cried about whether to go or stay.
I finally made a decision to go a month or so ago. unfortunately my sons future lies here in the uk for now. He will be staying with his older brother and his nana..yes a very difficult decision on both our parts. I will be there by myself with no job, friends or family..but i no in my heart that if i stayed here without trying i would live to regret it!
as others have stated its a very personal decision a i wish everyone the best of luck wherever they end up.
regards
lolly
Mar 31st 2006 | 4:59 am
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Re: changed our minds
Originally Posted by lollyno1
hiya all
to all those who made the decision to go your very brave
to all those who made the decision to stay your very brave.
I admire anyone who can come to a decision and stand by it no matter what.
Ive had days, week, when ive worried, argued with myself and cried about whether to go or stay.
I finally made a decision to go a month or so ago. unfortunately my sons future lies here in the uk for now. He will be staying with his older brother and his nana..yes a very difficult decision on both our parts. I will be there by myself with no job, friends or family..but i no in my heart that if i stayed here without trying i would live to regret it!
as others have stated its a very personal decision a i wish everyone the best of luck wherever they end up.
regards
lolly
to all those who made the decision to go your very brave
to all those who made the decision to stay your very brave.
I admire anyone who can come to a decision and stand by it no matter what.
Ive had days, week, when ive worried, argued with myself and cried about whether to go or stay.
I finally made a decision to go a month or so ago. unfortunately my sons future lies here in the uk for now. He will be staying with his older brother and his nana..yes a very difficult decision on both our parts. I will be there by myself with no job, friends or family..but i no in my heart that if i stayed here without trying i would live to regret it!
as others have stated its a very personal decision a i wish everyone the best of luck wherever they end up.
regards
lolly
Mar 31st 2006 | 5:05 am
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Re: changed our minds
Originally Posted by sean trethewey
Don't mean to be rude but how old are your sons?
not rude unless u gonna give me an ear bashin...lol
eldest is 28 and living with his long time partner the youngest is nearly 14
and yes it will be very very hard..the youngest is travelling over at christmas with his nan for at least 6 weeks..then he can make a informed judgement..and hopefully will be to stay with me.
regards
lolly
Mar 31st 2006 | 5:10 am
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Re: changed our minds
Originally Posted by lollyno1
not rude unless u gonna give me an ear bashin...lol
eldest is 28 and living with his long time partner the youngest is nearly 14
and yes it will be very very hard..the youngest is travelling over at christmas with his nan for at least 6 weeks..then he can make a informed judgement..and hopefully will be to stay with me.
regards
lolly
eldest is 28 and living with his long time partner the youngest is nearly 14
and yes it will be very very hard..the youngest is travelling over at christmas with his nan for at least 6 weeks..then he can make a informed judgement..and hopefully will be to stay with me.
regards
lolly
Best of luck to you.
Mar 31st 2006 | 5:20 am
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Re: changed our minds
Originally Posted by possoms
But dont forget there are lots of people who are out there living a good life who dont post on this forum.
The only way to find out if its for you, is to go find out for yourselves.
The only way to find out if its for you, is to go find out for yourselves.
Mar 31st 2006 | 5:31 am
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Re: changed our minds
hi again
my son did validate and he still says no...wants to finsih his education. the main reason for going it alone is i think i will have to go country as I think thats the best place for job prospects..im a primary school teacher. I dont think he will make many friends..probably have the same life over there as here..stuck in front of computer 24/7
(if we are country based)
My plan is to do two years..apply for PR then if he wants to come and stay for good..as with eldest i will be able to help them as much as possible.
I know the visa process is very very difficult with highs lows and all that but making the final decision,either way, must be the hardest thing anyone has to do!!!!
regards
lolly
my son did validate and he still says no...wants to finsih his education. the main reason for going it alone is i think i will have to go country as I think thats the best place for job prospects..im a primary school teacher. I dont think he will make many friends..probably have the same life over there as here..stuck in front of computer 24/7
(if we are country based)My plan is to do two years..apply for PR then if he wants to come and stay for good..as with eldest i will be able to help them as much as possible.
I know the visa process is very very difficult with highs lows and all that but making the final decision,either way, must be the hardest thing anyone has to do!!!!
regards
lolly
