changed our minds
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changed our minds
Yes we changed our minds about moving to Oz. We had the TRA confirmed, flights booked and paid for at the end of May for our reccie trip. Talked and talked about it until we talked our way out of it. We cancelled the flights (lost 1200 pounds - thanks lastminute.com!!)
We have no definate idea why we didn't continue with the move (already cost us in excess of 2'500 pounds). I think that our lives here in the UK are pretty good but it was hubby's job that was a bit insecure that we thought we'd make the move. We then thought of the huge up-heavel, leaving behind family & friends, finding where we wanted to live, not knowing any one etc.. and basically decided that we'd tough out the job situation and see what happens.
I do like the UK (generally) and going somewhere else at this stage in my life (age 42) wasn't the answer. Perhaps we panicked when job situation wasn't good but moving to Oz and starting all over again - I don't think I could - don't think I am a whimp as have travelled loads and been to Oz for visits before.
We may continue with Visa application at the end of the year, visit then, get the stamp then we have 5 years to decide (I think thats all correct). I sound a bit woolly don't I?
Any body else bottled it ???
Sue
We have no definate idea why we didn't continue with the move (already cost us in excess of 2'500 pounds). I think that our lives here in the UK are pretty good but it was hubby's job that was a bit insecure that we thought we'd make the move. We then thought of the huge up-heavel, leaving behind family & friends, finding where we wanted to live, not knowing any one etc.. and basically decided that we'd tough out the job situation and see what happens.
I do like the UK (generally) and going somewhere else at this stage in my life (age 42) wasn't the answer. Perhaps we panicked when job situation wasn't good but moving to Oz and starting all over again - I don't think I could - don't think I am a whimp as have travelled loads and been to Oz for visits before.
We may continue with Visa application at the end of the year, visit then, get the stamp then we have 5 years to decide (I think thats all correct). I sound a bit woolly don't I?
Any body else bottled it ???
Sue
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Re: changed our minds
Nope! I came over here on my own at age 18, no family here only an Australian boyfriend. It was hard of course but I'm glad that I did it! There have been plenty of times when I have thought about packing it all in and leaving but I have stuck with it and it gets better every day
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Re: changed our minds
Hi Sue,
I also came here myself aged 46!! Please continue with your application as you just can't apply after 45.
I have had an experience that only few can 'enjoy', fulfilled a lifetime ambition, met more people from all walks of life and cultures and now feel the adventure is almost over (three and a half years).
I have my citizenship but need to go back 'home' to remind myself of what I left for, the hardest part is missing friends and family, but hey it's a great holiday destination!
Something must have made you want to come, you have probably got cold feet now, think it over and you may change your mind again. Fate will put opportunities in your path and if it's meant to happen it will!
Dani
I also came here myself aged 46!! Please continue with your application as you just can't apply after 45.
I have had an experience that only few can 'enjoy', fulfilled a lifetime ambition, met more people from all walks of life and cultures and now feel the adventure is almost over (three and a half years).
I have my citizenship but need to go back 'home' to remind myself of what I left for, the hardest part is missing friends and family, but hey it's a great holiday destination!
Something must have made you want to come, you have probably got cold feet now, think it over and you may change your mind again. Fate will put opportunities in your path and if it's meant to happen it will!
Dani
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Re: changed our minds
Originally Posted by Sue Atkinson
Yes we changed our minds about moving to Oz. We had the TRA confirmed, flights booked and paid for at the end of May for our reccie trip. Talked and talked about it until we talked our way out of it. We cancelled the flights (lost 1200 pounds - thanks lastminute.com!!)
Check properly about if you can continue at a later date. I have no idea because I am a spouse visa, but does the TRA have an expiry date
I hope you don't leave it too late and then worry about the "what if's", but you can only do what's best for you.
Take care.
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Re: changed our minds
Yes
We were approved on Skilled Independent about 8 years ago and never took it up- somehow when the news came we were flat not jubilant (or possibly just scared!) we had good careers and would have had to start again with 2 young kids it all seemed a bit daunting-also we had more family then (several have since sadly died).
BUT DO WE REGRET THIS>>>>>>>>>>>>YES YES AND YES!!!
We should have been brave and gone at least to get Citizenship.
We are now faced at our ages 44 &42 with applying for temporary residence on Business Skills visa with 2 teenagers who are making our lives hell over it.
Think very carefully you may not get another chance!
Rammygirl
We were approved on Skilled Independent about 8 years ago and never took it up- somehow when the news came we were flat not jubilant (or possibly just scared!) we had good careers and would have had to start again with 2 young kids it all seemed a bit daunting-also we had more family then (several have since sadly died).
BUT DO WE REGRET THIS>>>>>>>>>>>>YES YES AND YES!!!
We should have been brave and gone at least to get Citizenship.
We are now faced at our ages 44 &42 with applying for temporary residence on Business Skills visa with 2 teenagers who are making our lives hell over it.
Think very carefully you may not get another chance!
Rammygirl
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Re: changed our minds
Originally Posted by Sue Atkinson
Yes we changed our minds about moving to Oz. We had the TRA confirmed, flights booked and paid for at the end of May for our reccie trip. Talked and talked about it until we talked our way out of it. We cancelled the flights (lost 1200 pounds - thanks lastminute.com!!)
We have no definate idea why we didn't continue with the move (already cost us in excess of 2'500 pounds). I think that our lives here in the UK are pretty good but it was hubby's job that was a bit insecure that we thought we'd make the move. We then thought of the huge up-heavel, leaving behind family & friends, finding where we wanted to live, not knowing any one etc.. and basically decided that we'd tough out the job situation and see what happens.
I do like the UK (generally) and going somewhere else at this stage in my life (age 42) wasn't the answer. Perhaps we panicked when job situation wasn't good but moving to Oz and starting all over again - I don't think I could - don't think I am a whimp as have travelled loads and been to Oz for visits before.
We may continue with Visa application at the end of the year, visit then, get the stamp then we have 5 years to decide (I think thats all correct). I sound a bit woolly don't I?
Any body else bottled it ???
Sue
We have no definate idea why we didn't continue with the move (already cost us in excess of 2'500 pounds). I think that our lives here in the UK are pretty good but it was hubby's job that was a bit insecure that we thought we'd make the move. We then thought of the huge up-heavel, leaving behind family & friends, finding where we wanted to live, not knowing any one etc.. and basically decided that we'd tough out the job situation and see what happens.
I do like the UK (generally) and going somewhere else at this stage in my life (age 42) wasn't the answer. Perhaps we panicked when job situation wasn't good but moving to Oz and starting all over again - I don't think I could - don't think I am a whimp as have travelled loads and been to Oz for visits before.
We may continue with Visa application at the end of the year, visit then, get the stamp then we have 5 years to decide (I think thats all correct). I sound a bit woolly don't I?
Any body else bottled it ???
Sue
In some ways, I see things from your perspective BUT I am simply being lazy and playing it "safe" by thinking that my comfort-zone is really the answer and the place to stay. These types of thoughts are entering my mind more and more often but it's simply because our deadline for leaving is now so close that the realism of it all has simply overwhelmed me.
I am pretty sure that we will end up regretting it if we do not go. I think that a project like this needs a real concerted effort and if you can go into the experience with your eyes wide-open and realise that initially life will seem harder, more complicated and generally nothing like the life you would be leaving behind then you are more than halfway to a happier existence. I try to view this whole experience as a "long-term investment" as the short-term will be used to invest into our new life so that we can see a return and be happier in the longer-term.
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Re: changed our minds
Originally Posted by rammygirl
Yes
We were approved on Skilled Independent about 8 years ago and never took it up- somehow when the news came we were flat not jubilant (or possibly just scared!) we had good careers and would have had to start again with 2 young kids it all seemed a bit daunting-also we had more family then (several have since sadly died).
BUT DO WE REGRET THIS>>>>>>>>>>>>YES YES AND YES!!!
We should have been brave and gone at least to get Citizenship.
We are now faced at our ages 44 &42 with applying for temporary residence on Business Skills visa with 2 teenagers who are making our lives hell over it.
Think very carefully you may not get another chance!
Rammygirl
We were approved on Skilled Independent about 8 years ago and never took it up- somehow when the news came we were flat not jubilant (or possibly just scared!) we had good careers and would have had to start again with 2 young kids it all seemed a bit daunting-also we had more family then (several have since sadly died).
BUT DO WE REGRET THIS>>>>>>>>>>>>YES YES AND YES!!!
We should have been brave and gone at least to get Citizenship.
We are now faced at our ages 44 &42 with applying for temporary residence on Business Skills visa with 2 teenagers who are making our lives hell over it.
Think very carefully you may not get another chance!
Rammygirl
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Re: changed our minds
Hi
we came out here on temp visa to have a look around. then we did the pommie boomerang - went back to the Uk, realised our mistake and vert quickly came back on a perm visa. One thing you should remember is that a move to Oz is no longer a life sentence - if it doesn;t work out you can return to the UK - admitedly a couple of pounds poorer, but richer for the experience.
it is a difficult decision, but....
Good luck
Andy Sinclair-Ford
we came out here on temp visa to have a look around. then we did the pommie boomerang - went back to the Uk, realised our mistake and vert quickly came back on a perm visa. One thing you should remember is that a move to Oz is no longer a life sentence - if it doesn;t work out you can return to the UK - admitedly a couple of pounds poorer, but richer for the experience.
it is a difficult decision, but....
Good luck
Andy Sinclair-Ford
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Re: changed our minds
Originally Posted by Sue Atkinson
Yes we changed our minds about moving to Oz. We had the TRA confirmed, flights booked and paid for at the end of May for our reccie trip. Talked and talked about it until we talked our way out of it. We cancelled the flights (lost 1200 pounds - thanks lastminute.com!!)
We have no definate idea why we didn't continue with the move (already cost us in excess of 2'500 pounds). I think that our lives here in the UK are pretty good but it was hubby's job that was a bit insecure that we thought we'd make the move. We then thought of the huge up-heavel, leaving behind family & friends, finding where we wanted to live, not knowing any one etc.. and basically decided that we'd tough out the job situation and see what happens.
I do like the UK (generally) and going somewhere else at this stage in my life (age 42) wasn't the answer. Perhaps we panicked when job situation wasn't good but moving to Oz and starting all over again - I don't think I could - don't think I am a whimp as have travelled loads and been to Oz for visits before.
We may continue with Visa application at the end of the year, visit then, get the stamp then we have 5 years to decide (I think thats all correct). I sound a bit woolly don't I?
Any body else bottled it ???
Sue
We have no definate idea why we didn't continue with the move (already cost us in excess of 2'500 pounds). I think that our lives here in the UK are pretty good but it was hubby's job that was a bit insecure that we thought we'd make the move. We then thought of the huge up-heavel, leaving behind family & friends, finding where we wanted to live, not knowing any one etc.. and basically decided that we'd tough out the job situation and see what happens.
I do like the UK (generally) and going somewhere else at this stage in my life (age 42) wasn't the answer. Perhaps we panicked when job situation wasn't good but moving to Oz and starting all over again - I don't think I could - don't think I am a whimp as have travelled loads and been to Oz for visits before.
We may continue with Visa application at the end of the year, visit then, get the stamp then we have 5 years to decide (I think thats all correct). I sound a bit woolly don't I?
Any body else bottled it ???
Sue
I know we hate it here but clearly some people do and you might be one of them. Just remember the grass isn't greener on the otherside.
good luck in whatever you decide anyway.
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Re: changed our minds
Originally Posted by Sue Atkinson
Yes we changed our minds about moving to Oz. We had the TRA confirmed, flights booked and paid for at the end of May for our reccie trip. Talked and talked about it until we talked our way out of it. We cancelled the flights (lost 1200 pounds - thanks lastminute.com!!)
We have no definate idea why we didn't continue with the move (already cost us in excess of 2'500 pounds). I think that our lives here in the UK are pretty good but it was hubby's job that was a bit insecure that we thought we'd make the move. We then thought of the huge up-heavel, leaving behind family & friends, finding where we wanted to live, not knowing any one etc.. and basically decided that we'd tough out the job situation and see what happens.
I do like the UK (generally) and going somewhere else at this stage in my life (age 42) wasn't the answer. Perhaps we panicked when job situation wasn't good but moving to Oz and starting all over again - I don't think I could - don't think I am a whimp as have travelled loads and been to Oz for visits before.
We may continue with Visa application at the end of the year, visit then, get the stamp then we have 5 years to decide (I think thats all correct). I sound a bit woolly don't I?
Any body else bottled it ???
Sue
We have no definate idea why we didn't continue with the move (already cost us in excess of 2'500 pounds). I think that our lives here in the UK are pretty good but it was hubby's job that was a bit insecure that we thought we'd make the move. We then thought of the huge up-heavel, leaving behind family & friends, finding where we wanted to live, not knowing any one etc.. and basically decided that we'd tough out the job situation and see what happens.
I do like the UK (generally) and going somewhere else at this stage in my life (age 42) wasn't the answer. Perhaps we panicked when job situation wasn't good but moving to Oz and starting all over again - I don't think I could - don't think I am a whimp as have travelled loads and been to Oz for visits before.
We may continue with Visa application at the end of the year, visit then, get the stamp then we have 5 years to decide (I think thats all correct). I sound a bit woolly don't I?
Any body else bottled it ???
Sue
But could have been last week
Last edited by Margaret2; Mar 31st 2006 at 9:49 am.
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Re: changed our minds
Originally Posted by WendyC
I did wonder
Reads a bit like my threads, doesn't it??
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Re: changed our minds
Hi Sue, your post makes me realise again , we all go through these feelings, was having a wee joke about it not being me, coz i have posted similiar things like that.
Someone replied and said to me will i buy you slippers for your cold feet, made me laugh and think coz this is what it was.
Its an awful process the waiting, but at the same time makes you think of every, if, but and maybe.
Good luck whatever you decide, for me i'm going, but next week i could be staying again No matter what we decide one thing is ABSOLUTELY definate we will validate our visas, coz like you age is not on our side
Someone replied and said to me will i buy you slippers for your cold feet, made me laugh and think coz this is what it was.
Its an awful process the waiting, but at the same time makes you think of every, if, but and maybe.
Good luck whatever you decide, for me i'm going, but next week i could be staying again No matter what we decide one thing is ABSOLUTELY definate we will validate our visas, coz like you age is not on our side
#14
Re: changed our minds
Originally Posted by Margaret2
Hi Sue, your post makes me realise again , we all go through these feelings, was having a wee joke about it not being me, coz i have posted similiar things like that.
Someone replied and said to me will i buy you slippers for your cold feet, made me laugh and think coz this is what it was.
Its an awful process the waiting, but at the same time makes you think of every, if, but and maybe.
Good luck whatever you decide, for me i'm going, but next week i could be staying again No matter what we decide one thing is ABSOLUTELY definate we will validate our visas, coz like you age is not on our side
Someone replied and said to me will i buy you slippers for your cold feet, made me laugh and think coz this is what it was.
Its an awful process the waiting, but at the same time makes you think of every, if, but and maybe.
Good luck whatever you decide, for me i'm going, but next week i could be staying again No matter what we decide one thing is ABSOLUTELY definate we will validate our visas, coz like you age is not on our side
#15
Joined: Jul 2005
Posts: 4,365
Re: changed our minds
We are now faced at our ages 44 &42 with applying for temporary residence on Business Skills visa with 2 teenagers who are making our lives hell over it.
Think very carefully you may not get another chance!
Rammygirl[/QUOTE]
Wish we had done it years ago as well. We too are faced moving with a teen Not easy is it
Think very carefully you may not get another chance!
Rammygirl[/QUOTE]
Wish we had done it years ago as well. We too are faced moving with a teen Not easy is it