Originally Posted by Bix

Julie,

My opinion is that no-one should live life for family or friends.
Yes they come into the equation but first and foremost you decide what is best for you.

If you can stand up and say you have made this decision for you then it is the right one. Don't look over your shoulder wondering what might have been. Look forward and enjoy....onward and upward.

Good luck to you kid.

Originally Posted by phoenixinoz

Actually Julie, I think you are.

Takes a bigger person to make the right decision .....than making a wrong decision just to suit everyone else.

Good luck with your revised life in UK

Originally Posted by Jessica Rabbit

I have not read many threads (if any) of people saying that have decided not to go so this may help others who are worried too.

Seeya
Julie

Originally Posted by deba34

Hi Julie..

Good luck with everything, life is too short to wonder `what if,` you have made your decision and I am sure it will be the right one for you..

Originally Posted by lynn59

dear member, i know how you feel i am going through the same thing.
We are moving to Geelong in May next year,and i have to leave my daughter and two young grand children behind. I can apply for them to follow after two years, as last remaining relatives.I am also leaving friends and family i dont know if i can do it.My hubby realy is looking forward to the move though,and i feel i carnt dissapoint him,the good thing is my friend has applied and will hopefully be coming over as well,and we will be nieghbours.We have to give it a try,i know that if i try and dont like it i can always come back.Maybe you should give it a try like me. Good luck.
Lynne

Hi Lynn, You are braver than me. I dont think I will try it now I have made up my mind.

Good luck to you and I hope you really enjoy Oz














We applied at the beginning of the year and I must admit that one minute I felt really positive and then the next I just wasnt sure if I could do it. We have friends who live in Queensland and they love it so we had a few friendly faces when we arrived too.

For the last couple of months I have been really emotional when I think of leaving my family and friends. We have already paid quite a bit of money out towards our application but I have decided that I just cant do it . It has been a really hard decision to make as I know my husband really wants to go. I am a lot closer with my family than he is and I just think that after a few weeks in Oz I will be ready for coming home (just like when you go on holiday) I think its better to decide now though instead of selling our house and leaving our jobs then getting there and me saying "can we go home now?".

Our friends in Australia understand and they know I am close to my family so that helps. My husbans is very understanding but I know secretly he still wants to go. I feel bad on him but I know I have made the right choice.

My family were supportive about me going but I know they are pleased that I am staying.

I may regret it one day but to be honest, since I made the decision to stay I feel much better, I still want to go to Oz for a holiday but just not forever. I kept thinking, I will miss the rain, the streets that I drive down, (just general everyday things) and I was worried that if something happens to my parents and I am not here for them.

Sorry to go on. I have really enjoyed coming on expats in the past and it helped me so much. I am still going to have a little look on it from time to time but I just thought I would tell people my reason for staying. I understand why people on here get so upset as it is probably one of the hardest decisions for a lot of people to make and I take my hat off to those of you who make a go of it. I am just not that brave.

I have not read many threads (if any) of people saying that have decided not to go so this may help others who are worried too.

Seeya
Julie

Originally Posted by wargod

Why not continue with the application - if you have already paid out a few quid, why not get the visa if things change in the future at least you'll have the option to go for the next few years?

Originally Posted by Jessica Rabbit

Hi Bix, How are you doing? I will miss your posts coz they always make me laugh.

The decision is for me, because I dont want to be without my family. I just think they are the most important thing in my life and I dont want to be without them. I really feel better since deciding to stay and I have a few personal reasons too, I just think family are too important for me to leave.

I know some people disagree but thats just me.

Take care of you
Julie

Originally Posted by Jessica Rabbit

Hi Bix, How are you doing? I will miss your posts coz they always make me laugh.

The decision is for me, because I dont want to be without my family. I just think they are the most important thing in my life and I dont want to be without them. I really feel better since deciding to stay and I have a few personal reasons too, I just think family are too important for me to leave.

I know some people disagree but thats just me.

Take care of you
Julie

Originally Posted by Bix

Julie,

Exactly what I'd hoped you would follow up with.

You've put the doubts in my mind to rest that you have indeed made the decision for you and for your reasons rather than because of "pressure" from others.

I shall miss our banter too but wish you and yours a very happy new life in the UK.