Almost 5 months till we or i go!
May 13th 2009, 12:28 pm
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Re: Almost 5 months till we or i go!
You sound like a fun guy and I am sure you will love Oz!
When I moved to Australia with my partner it was him really that wanted to go, I've never really wanted to travel far afield. I also pretended it wasn't happening and the 'A' word was not brought up until about 2 weeks before we had to make a decision and we had a long long chat.
In the end we decided to go for a few years, try it out and come back whenever either of us was ready. As I said before, it was my partners dream and he was prepared to give it up but that would of got us no where other than in 10 / 20 years time wondering 'what if...'
Of course, you then have to get past those first few month when it is likely your partner will be homesick, unsettled and trying to make friends etc. but if you can get past that you won't look back, its an amazing place to live.
Good luck, I hope you can work out a compromise as 11 years is a long time but you deserve to try your dreams also.
When I moved to Australia with my partner it was him really that wanted to go, I've never really wanted to travel far afield. I also pretended it wasn't happening and the 'A' word was not brought up until about 2 weeks before we had to make a decision and we had a long long chat.
In the end we decided to go for a few years, try it out and come back whenever either of us was ready. As I said before, it was my partners dream and he was prepared to give it up but that would of got us no where other than in 10 / 20 years time wondering 'what if...'
Of course, you then have to get past those first few month when it is likely your partner will be homesick, unsettled and trying to make friends etc. but if you can get past that you won't look back, its an amazing place to live.
Good luck, I hope you can work out a compromise as 11 years is a long time but you deserve to try your dreams also.
You know what, thats real nice, thanks very much, i tend to agree, its cloudy here today in the UK, still quite cold. I am not expecting Oz to be any more brighter, but a change is a rest, and i would like a rest.
If i was younger, i would not go, i loved going out with my mates, you know, party time at weekends, nights down the pub playing pool. When you are single, trying to pull a different girl every weekend. Loved it, but i am 40 odd now, the limbs and organs are slowing, and if i am honest, a bit more sunshine, a slower pace of life, some new friends, well life begins again. But if you don;t try it don't knock it?
I am a bit scared, but, i think staying here scares me more, so i am going for the less scary thing, hey?
Stay lucky!
May 13th 2009, 1:21 pm
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You know what, thats real nice, thanks very much, i tend to agree, its cloudy here today in the UK, still quite cold. I am not expecting Oz to be any more brighter, but a change is a rest, and i would like a rest.
If i was younger, i would not go, i loved going out with my mates, you know, party time at weekends, nights down the pub playing pool. When you are single, trying to pull a different girl every weekend. Loved it, but i am 40 odd now, the limbs and organs are slowing, and if i am honest, a bit more sunshine, a slower pace of life, some new friends, well life begins again. But if you don;t try it don't knock it?
I am a bit scared, but, i think staying here scares me more, so i am going for the less scary thing, hey?
Stay lucky!
If i was younger, i would not go, i loved going out with my mates, you know, party time at weekends, nights down the pub playing pool. When you are single, trying to pull a different girl every weekend. Loved it, but i am 40 odd now, the limbs and organs are slowing, and if i am honest, a bit more sunshine, a slower pace of life, some new friends, well life begins again. But if you don;t try it don't knock it?
I am a bit scared, but, i think staying here scares me more, so i am going for the less scary thing, hey?
Stay lucky!
It is a bloody scary process let me tell you.
But if it is the right decision for you then you wont regret it and you wont know unless you try.
May 13th 2009, 11:01 pm
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When you are single, trying to pull a different girl every weekend. Loved it, but i am 40 odd now, the limbs and organs are slowing, and if i am honest, a bit more sunshine, a slower pace of life, some new friends, well life begins again. But if you don;t try it don't knock it?Stay lucky!
May 13th 2009, 11:09 pm
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Re: Almost 5 months till we or i go!
Maybe you should give this lot a ring to reserve your place? http://www.renaissancerl.com.au/
Jul 4th 2009, 8:26 pm
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She's going sour again, what can i do, any advice on parsnips, sorry partnerships that go South on emigation talk?
Could be looking for a new doubles partner, anyone like pillow tennis? No punching below the belt!
Keith
Could be looking for a new doubles partner, anyone like pillow tennis? No punching below the belt!
Keith
Jul 4th 2009, 9:24 pm
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It's your call fella, I was like you, my other half didn't want to go.
We have been to Oz a few times now and we both love it, but holidays are different from the normal day to day grind. She says she can't imagine living there and I would hate to see her unhappy in unfamiliar surroundings as I know deep in my heart she would be unhappy. There is too much here for her at the mo and I have to accept that.
But at the end of the day you have one crack at life, and it's your life.....
You have to decide if you could see yourself with your partner in the long term future, when I thought about it the answer was a resounding yes (and there are no pressures, we're not married, no kids and been together 14 years).
I'm staying put cos she's the best thing thats ever happened to me, and if I had decided to have made the move a couple of years back when I had the opportunity I think I would now be regretting living my life without her.
One day she may change her mind, we'll see how things are then.
Don't pressure her, or you'll probably find it will be her that does the dumping.
We have been to Oz a few times now and we both love it, but holidays are different from the normal day to day grind. She says she can't imagine living there and I would hate to see her unhappy in unfamiliar surroundings as I know deep in my heart she would be unhappy. There is too much here for her at the mo and I have to accept that.
But at the end of the day you have one crack at life, and it's your life.....
You have to decide if you could see yourself with your partner in the long term future, when I thought about it the answer was a resounding yes (and there are no pressures, we're not married, no kids and been together 14 years).
I'm staying put cos she's the best thing thats ever happened to me, and if I had decided to have made the move a couple of years back when I had the opportunity I think I would now be regretting living my life without her.
One day she may change her mind, we'll see how things are then.
Don't pressure her, or you'll probably find it will be her that does the dumping.
Jul 4th 2009, 9:33 pm
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It's your call fella, I was like you, my other half didn't want to go.
We have been to Oz a few times now and we both love it, but holidays are different from the normal day to day grind. She says she can't imagine living there and I would hate to see her unhappy in unfamiliar surroundings as I know deep in my heart she would be unhappy. There is too much here for her at the mo and I have to accept that.
But at the end of the day you have one crack at life, and it's your life.....
You have to decide if you could see yourself with your partner in the long term future, when I thought about it the answer was a resounding yes (and there are no pressures, we're not married, no kids and been together 14 years).
I'm staying put cos she's the best thing thats ever happened to me, and if I had decided to have made the move a couple of years back when I had the opportunity I think I would now be regretting living my life without her.
One day she may change her mind, we'll see how things are then.
Don't pressure her, or you'll probably find it will be her that does the dumping.
We have been to Oz a few times now and we both love it, but holidays are different from the normal day to day grind. She says she can't imagine living there and I would hate to see her unhappy in unfamiliar surroundings as I know deep in my heart she would be unhappy. There is too much here for her at the mo and I have to accept that.
But at the end of the day you have one crack at life, and it's your life.....
You have to decide if you could see yourself with your partner in the long term future, when I thought about it the answer was a resounding yes (and there are no pressures, we're not married, no kids and been together 14 years).
I'm staying put cos she's the best thing thats ever happened to me, and if I had decided to have made the move a couple of years back when I had the opportunity I think I would now be regretting living my life without her.
One day she may change her mind, we'll see how things are then.
Don't pressure her, or you'll probably find it will be her that does the dumping.
Just read this post, cheers, thanks, great post, i love honest people, and that is an honest post, thankyou russmcp.
We have a lot in common, well relationship wise, yep, i think she will do the dumping, maybe? I will be over in October, the latest, maybe share a beer hey?
I need to think, she's a good girl, f00king hard this emigrating stuff, is it not?
Keith.
Jul 4th 2009, 9:57 pm
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Re: Almost 5 months till we or i go!
Could you perhaps persuade her to at least go and validate her visa?
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Jul 5th 2009, 9:49 am
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Well, if you end up going without her, she may find that she misses you, can't live without you, etc, etc, etc, and take herself off there. Or you may find you miss her, can't live without her etc, etc, etc and you come back!
Or maybe that's me just being an old romantic
Julie. x
Or maybe that's me just being an old romantic
Julie. x
Jul 5th 2009, 10:59 am
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Well, if you end up going without her, she may find that she misses you, can't live without you, etc, etc, etc, and take herself off there. Or you may find you miss her, can't live without her etc, etc, etc and you come back!
Or maybe that's me just being an old romantic
Julie. x
Or maybe that's me just being an old romantic
Julie. x
Jul 5th 2009, 7:19 pm
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Re: Almost 5 months till we or i go!
Keith its time to bin her im afraid.
I think im gonna be in a similar situation to you in a couple of years time because I want to go to oz and my other half wants to stay in this rathole of a country.
Unfortunately ive made my mind up to make the jump to oz and as for looking for a new women theres plenty of bush to get lost in
Later dude
I think im gonna be in a similar situation to you in a couple of years time because I want to go to oz and my other half wants to stay in this rathole of a country.
Unfortunately ive made my mind up to make the jump to oz and as for looking for a new women theres plenty of bush to get lost in
Later dude
Jul 6th 2009, 4:01 am
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I think you should go, you will only be miserable if you don't give it a try.
Relationships break up all the time 'cos people want different things out of life. If your not heading in the same direction its always gonna be difficult for you both. You both need to make a decision and move on with your lives. As Julie says you might miss each other and one of you will change your decision but you shouldn't give up on your dreams.
Relationships break up all the time 'cos people want different things out of life. If your not heading in the same direction its always gonna be difficult for you both. You both need to make a decision and move on with your lives. As Julie says you might miss each other and one of you will change your decision but you shouldn't give up on your dreams.
Jul 6th 2009, 5:54 am
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Re: Almost 5 months till we or i go!
Imagine your driving to a Y junction you can both go left (Oz) or right (stay) , what you cant do is keep going straight or you will smash into the junction.
You have to decide once and for all what direction you are taking , and if you cant someone has to get out of the car.
If you do both head down a path ,conversations about "we should have turned the other way" are banned.
Bear in mind , this place can loose its shine after a few weeks, when you settle into normal life you may find yourself missing your missus something shocking.
You have to decide once and for all what direction you are taking , and if you cant someone has to get out of the car.
If you do both head down a path ,conversations about "we should have turned the other way" are banned.
Bear in mind , this place can loose its shine after a few weeks, when you settle into normal life you may find yourself missing your missus something shocking.