Worried and feeling uncertain about moving to US? How did you deal with these?
Thanks very much for all of your replies for my previous post regarding the possible move to CA.
Now when things are getting more real, I start feeling itchy. I am worried about:
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Re: Worried and feeling uncertain about moving to US? How did you deal with thes
Originally Posted by park99
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Thanks very much for all of your replies for my previous post regarding the possible move to CA.
Now when things are getting more real, I start feeling itchy. I am worried about:
Thanks ! OK, I'll bite. Bad things can happen anywhere in the world; none of us has any control over that. There's something horrible happening somewhere every day of the year. Of course there is history and culture in the US. It's just a different history, which doesn't make it any less interesting. The US has world-class museums, operas, ballets, etc. in city after city across the country. And like many on BE, I didn't have to "convince myself" to move -- I wanted to! |
Re: Worried and feeling uncertain about moving to US? How did you deal with thes
The biggest change a Brit will face is no security net. You make it by your own hard work and effort and to most Brits that is a real culture shock. Not having the possibility of government handouts as a bail out is quite scary. Americans have a different mind set and will work at whatever and more than one job if necessary. Failure here hurts a lot more, but success has greater rewards. |
Re: Worried and feeling uncertain about moving to US? How did you deal with thes
My opinion is stop over thinking. It's normal to panic a bit when any big change happens in your life.
Look at it as a temporary experience and try to enjoy the adventure. It may be you want to stay forever, who knows! There will be blips, there will be anxiety but there will also be fun times, new experiences, new friends. Just try and look at the positives and take it day by day. Lots of us have had the same fears but have worked through it. |
Re: Worried and feeling uncertain about moving to US? How did you deal with thes
Found the pros outweighed the con. Made the decision to start married life in the USA rather than the UK.
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Re: Worried and feeling uncertain about moving to US? How did you deal with thes
Park99 Violence can happen anywhere in the world look at London and what’s going on with violent crime, we are in Texas we don’t give gun crime a second thought, as for family and friends iMessage is fantastic for face to face calls it does help. If you are having these doubts maybe you need to ask yourself is this right for you. |
Re: Worried and feeling uncertain about moving to US? How did you deal with thes
Originally Posted by lansbury
(Post 12682941)
The biggest change a Brit will face is no security net. You make it by your own hard work and effort and to most Brits that is a real culture shock. Not having the possibility of government handouts as a bail out is quite scary. Americans have a different mind set and will work at whatever and more than one job if necessary. Failure here hurts a lot more, but success has greater rewards.
Originally Posted by Sugarmooma
(Post 12682945)
My opinion is stop over thinking. It's normal to panic a bit when any big change happens in your life.
Look at it as a temporary experience and try to enjoy the adventure. It may be you want to stay forever, who knows! There will be blips, there will be anxiety but there will also be fun times, new experiences, new friends. Just try and look at the positives and take it day by day. Lots of us have had the same fears but have worked through it.
Originally Posted by tom169
(Post 12682961)
Found the pros outweighed the con. Made the decision to start married life in the USA rather than the UK.
I would make one comment about your concerns about guns and shootings, the media rarely the point that is painfully obvious to those with their feet on the ground in the US, that shootings in the US are heavily compartmentalized both geographically and ethnically. While geographic and ethnic compartmentalizations significantly overlap ("black neighborhoods" and "Hispanic neighborhoods" are very much a reality), I make the point that they are separate because even when shootings spill over from one geographic compartment into another, the shootings often remain ethnically segregated. In short, the risk of being shot to most Americans in low crime areas, is very low, and not one that I spend much time even thinking about, much less worrying about. To which I would add the footnote: there is a significant exception of being shot by a family member or acquaintance. |
Re: Worried and feeling uncertain about moving to US? How did you deal with thes
I agree with the above - bad things happen to good people all the time, and the reality is you are far more likely to die in a car wreck then you are being shot by a stranger. The whole 'gun' thing is overblown (says he as a multiple gun owner) since it is very likely that most of the people you will interact are likely to be 'responsible' gun owners.
Pulaski makes an excellent point (as always) |
Re: Worried and feeling uncertain about moving to US? How did you deal with thes
Originally Posted by civilservant
(Post 12683186)
I agree with the above - bad things happen to good people all the time, and the reality is you are far more likely to die in a car wreck then you are being shot by a stranger. The whole 'gun' thing is overblown (says he as a multiple gun owner) since it is very likely that most of the people you will interact are likely to be 'responsible' gun owners.
Pulaski makes an excellent point (as always) I should have noted that, for all practical purposes, I am not a gun owner (I have a 20-gauge single shot shotgun, that I bought for dealing with copperheads and have only ever fired three times), so I am not writing as a defensive gun owner. |
Re: Worried and feeling uncertain about moving to US? How did you deal with thes
Begs the question how you feel about knife crime in the UK, obviously many other aspects of what is happening in the Uk could be focused on.
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Re: Worried and feeling uncertain about moving to US? How did you deal with thes
Originally Posted by Boiler
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Begs the question how you feel about knife crime in the UK, obviously many other aspects of what is happening in the Uk could be focused on.
The OP's moving to the US so is asking questions about the US. What's the UK got to do with that? |
Re: Worried and feeling uncertain about moving to US? How did you deal with thes
Originally Posted by spouse of scouse
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:blink:
The OP's moving to the US so is asking questions about the US. What's the UK got to do with that? |
Re: Worried and feeling uncertain about moving to US? How did you deal with thes
Originally Posted by spouse of scouse
(Post 12683207)
:blink:
The OP's moving to the US so is asking questions about the US. What's the UK got to do with that? |
Re: Worried and feeling uncertain about moving to US? How did you deal with thes
Originally Posted by civilservant
(Post 12683213)
I think Boiler actually makes a good point - do you worry about knife crime in the UK? If not, gun violence is really no more prevalent in the US when considering the comparable populations of the UK and the US.
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Re: Worried and feeling uncertain about moving to US? How did you deal with thes
On to another of Park99's questions - "youth and drugs". I doubt that is much different from the UK, except to the extent that some states have legalized marijuana, so in those states drugs have become an overt issue, not a covert one.
Drugs, as an issue are, exactly as per the UK, highly compartmentalized - if you don't partake then the availability if illegal narcotics has very little impact on life in the US. That said drugs are certainly widely available, if you want them. In fact the previously discussed (Above) issue of guns means that petty burglary to fund a drug habit is not even this issue it is in the UK, because most would-be burglars know that if they break into a home there is a pretty good chance that they will be shot by the homeowner. |
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