Will it ever end? *Vent*
Feb 1st 2006, 5:02 pm
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
I don't think it ever ends. Some days are better than others.It's definetly easier when you have younger children to meet other people. It's nice to have a good friend where-ever you're at. Keep your chin up it will get better.
Feb 1st 2006, 5:08 pm
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Chin up PS.
At least you have a big f**k-off house and it rains less in AZ
At least you have a big f**k-off house and it rains less in AZ
Feb 1st 2006, 5:10 pm
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by Partystar
Yeah, Mum went back on Monday, but that wasn't too bad, cuz I know I'll see her again soon. I was actually feeling this way before she even got here & I think I now know why. I was trying to think what was going on around the time I started to get homesick. It was right after I received a letter from a friend back home in England. She wrote a 5 page letter, sent me a teddy bear, a 'best friends' keyring, an 'I miss you card' & loads of photos.
The letter told me she was getting married & wanted me to be at her wedding, because I was the best friend she's ever had & she's thought about me everyday since I left & is really missing me. She also said she wants her fiancee to meet the person that made her what she is today, of course I was balling after I read that.
I think that is what really affected me & has made me feel this way, because I know now more than ever, what I really left behind to come here. It really doesn't help when our situation here is much worse than the one we left behind.
The letter told me she was getting married & wanted me to be at her wedding, because I was the best friend she's ever had & she's thought about me everyday since I left & is really missing me. She also said she wants her fiancee to meet the person that made her what she is today, of course I was balling after I read that.
I think that is what really affected me & has made me feel this way, because I know now more than ever, what I really left behind to come here. It really doesn't help when our situation here is much worse than the one we left behind.
Feb 1st 2006, 5:12 pm
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
I know it breaks your heart when friends send you just a little thing like mine did a best friends key ring where she's got one half and I have the other.
Feb 1st 2006, 5:13 pm
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by Chorlton
Buy a gun - thats what I'm going to do 
Alternatively some german lager or chianti works for me too
Seriously, I think most of us understand.
Alternatively some german lager or chianti works for me too
Seriously, I think most of us understand.
Feb 1st 2006, 5:15 pm
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by Partystar
I'm going out on Friday night with the girls from my group (one of them is moving to California), I'm thinking of getting hammered & pissing off with another one of my friends from another group!!!
Feb 1st 2006, 5:16 pm
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by BigDavyG
Chin up PS.
At least you have a big f**k-off house and it rains less in AZ
At least you have a big f**k-off house and it rains less in AZ
I often wonder if I would be happier if I could at least find one brit friend over here. I'm in Florida FFS, can't be that hard can it? I'm fed up being different to most people here, so I end up keeping myself to myself most of the time.
Feb 1st 2006, 5:20 pm
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by ladyofthelake
You really know how to cheer someone up don't you?
I often wonder if I would be happier if I could at least find one brit friend over here. I'm in Florida FFS, can't be that hard can it? I'm fed up being different to most people here, so I end up keeping myself to myself most of the time.
I often wonder if I would be happier if I could at least find one brit friend over here. I'm in Florida FFS, can't be that hard can it? I'm fed up being different to most people here, so I end up keeping myself to myself most of the time.
yeah me too..i started posting on here hoping to find some like minded brits but no such luck...so now i'm kinda hooked on be website...bit sad to waste my life away
Feb 1st 2006, 5:25 pm
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by ladyofthelake
You really know how to cheer someone up don't you?
I often wonder if I would be happier if I could at least find one brit friend over here. I'm in Florida FFS, can't be that hard can it? I'm fed up being different to most people here, so I end up keeping myself to myself most of the time.
I often wonder if I would be happier if I could at least find one brit friend over here. I'm in Florida FFS, can't be that hard can it? I'm fed up being different to most people here, so I end up keeping myself to myself most of the time.
The latest episode happened this morning. Let me explain...
I work for a large insurance company. About 5 months ago I got into a converstaion with a colleague about the company share price and our 401k scheme. He told me that basically his whole 401k was invested in company stock. I pointed out that due to katrina, etc that the stock had dipped and that it might take a further hammering - maybe it would be a good idea to put the money in something else for a while. He then said no cos he always keep his cash in company stock and it had worked out well for him.
This morning I get a mail from him saying that he'd lost $3.5k from his 401k due to the stock falling. I said I was sorry, but pointed out that I had warned him months ago.
His reply was that he ignored my advice because of the way I communicated it to him in the first place, and so he didn't even look into changing things.
I have 2 questions.
1. Wtf is this guy on - it was the way i said that due to several hurricanes the company stock would probably fall ????
2. Seriously, wtf is this guy on ??
I have come to one very simple conclusion - many americans would rather you lied to them 'nicely' than stated facts or opinions to them in a straightforward manner.
Why bother.
Feb 1st 2006, 5:34 pm
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by peacelover
We all do understand Partystar, it is normal to feel this way at times and a week isn't too long in my book. I get these feeling periodically and they are sometimes short lived and others are a long time hanging around.
Don't feel bad just vent away, we are all here for you.
Don't feel bad just vent away, we are all here for you.
Feb 1st 2006, 5:37 pm
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by Celtic_Angel
Been there done that..you'll get out of your funk pretty soon..they'll still be talking garbage but it'll be water off a ducks back...oh and buy a bottle of wine on your way home..you'll be glad you did 
Feb 1st 2006, 5:38 pm
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Tell you what, those playgroups are the same in the UK. They are not the best place to meet like minded people unless you're very very straight (not the sexuality type straight) and like talking about babies/kids constantly and are very comepetitive with regards the their milestones/acheivements.
Don't have any suggestion or advice, I feel the same as you most days, and I still haven't met any Brits. Sorry.
Annette
Don't have any suggestion or advice, I feel the same as you most days, and I still haven't met any Brits. Sorry.
Annette
Feb 1st 2006, 5:39 pm
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by Chick Flick
Tell the women in your group, exactly how you feel, If you make any true friends thats great if you don't what have you lost?. NOTHING. You never know there may be one or two who think just like you.
Feb 1st 2006, 5:46 pm
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I'll tell you what did it for me, thought it probably sounds pathetic.
Last summer a new family moved into the street and I was the first person to say hi to them, and my daughter was the same age as their daughter so they hit it off straight away. They play with each other all the time. Well, me being me, I see them most days and we chat, but take my time getting to know them. Meanwhile everyone else on street has become instant best buddies with them in that irritating superficial way, so suddenly I'm starting to lose ground in the friends stakes. Christmas arrives and I hear from my one good friend I have that this new family are having a Christmas Eve party and inviting everyone they know. My friend had met them barely twice and got an invite, so we were expecting one too. But guess who didn't get invited? Yep, that's right, billy no mates here. WTF?? Suddenly we're not good enough for them.
Made me realise I'm never going to fully fit in around here.
Last summer a new family moved into the street and I was the first person to say hi to them, and my daughter was the same age as their daughter so they hit it off straight away. They play with each other all the time. Well, me being me, I see them most days and we chat, but take my time getting to know them. Meanwhile everyone else on street has become instant best buddies with them in that irritating superficial way, so suddenly I'm starting to lose ground in the friends stakes. Christmas arrives and I hear from my one good friend I have that this new family are having a Christmas Eve party and inviting everyone they know. My friend had met them barely twice and got an invite, so we were expecting one too. But guess who didn't get invited? Yep, that's right, billy no mates here. WTF?? Suddenly we're not good enough for them.
Made me realise I'm never going to fully fit in around here.
Feb 1st 2006, 5:47 pm
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Re: Will it ever end? *Vent*
Originally Posted by robskatie
You need to organise a big girls night out when you go home
I always wonder how the war brides managed when they came over here, communication and ease of travel was so much harder back then, they must have been truly miserable, we are fortunate in a way that home is only a phone call away and t'internet is a wonderful thing
I always wonder how the war brides managed when they came over here, communication and ease of travel was so much harder back then, they must have been truly miserable, we are fortunate in a way that home is only a phone call away and t'internet is a wonderful thing
You're absolutely right about technology nowadays. I don't know how they managed, I know I couldn't do it!