Originally Posted by Pulaski

IMHO adding "there's no way .... " to your statement made it as rude as the retort your post provoked.

Originally Posted by Derrygal

I lived in Georgia for 3 years when I first came to the US - would never consider going back there again - full of rednecks and bigots. You couldn't pay me to live there..........................

Originally Posted by Mallory

That's a bit rude isn't it?

Originally Posted by Derrygal

Please.........................

Originally Posted by Mallory

That's a bit rude isn't it?

Originally Posted by cookie2112

My fiance (scouser) and I have decided after 2yrs in PA to head home. The weather here is great but we just can't get to grips with how no one looks out for each other out here, we just find it a rather unpleasant, souless life. We have an incredible house, can buy shed loads of clothes and generally the material side of things is far better than the UK. We will have to accept never living in a house as big, not being paid as much etc but its not life. It's about people and while we have met lots of very nice people we just miss the 'feel' of home. It was always going to be hard missing family so we were more reliant on the professional and social things being well but that hasn't transpired. I am told that people in the NE are generally 'wired' and not as nice as western and southern people but I guess that's my rotten luck. The UK is just a nicer place than here IMO

Originally Posted by beachgal21

I have found my experience in the US to be the same. After 13 years in Florida I haven't made any good friends, even though I'm a very sociable person, inviting people round for dinner, cards, drinks, pool parties etc. I've found Americans to be very shallow and only interested in you if there's something to be gained for themselves. We've just put our house up for sale and will be moving back to the UK when it sells. I don't regret moving to the US, it's been an experience and we've been fortunate that through our business we've traveled and spent time in most states. However, in my opinion the US isn't a patch on the UK, but I guess it's all to do with what you're looking for in life and it wouldn't do for us all to be the same

Originally Posted by Pupsiecola

Been lurking for a while. Lots of people seem to view their US move as temporary/medium term. I just wondered if anyone loves where they moved to and has no intention of moving back to the UK/elsewhere? I guess it's a "have you found your grass is actually greener place" sort of a question.

Thanks.

Originally Posted by beachgal21

I have found my experience in the US to be the same. After 13 years in Florida I haven't made any good friends, even though I'm a very sociable person, inviting people round for dinner, cards, drinks, pool parties etc. I've found Americans to be very shallow and only interested in you if there's something to be gained for themselves. We've just put our house up for sale and will be moving back to the UK when it sells. I don't regret moving to the US, it's been an experience and we've been fortunate that through our business we've traveled and spent time in most states. However, in my opinion the US isn't a patch on the UK, but I guess it's all to do with what you're looking for in life and it wouldn't do for us all to be the same

Originally Posted by Tegwyn

Lesson I had to learn and took a few years to figure out, is that I had to adapt to a new culture and way of thinking rather than expecting people to think like me as I did back home. We are different, and that is more in line with adjustment issues than one being superior to the other. Good friendships take a lot of give and take, and especially time. I had to learn to change my expectations to understand that the differences were the barrier rather than assuming others were lacking. Took time and an attitude adjustment and the results for me have been amazing. I live on the west coast and maybe that has a lot to do with it.

Originally Posted by kins

When people write off an entire country based on their limited experiences I do wonder if it's the entire country that's at fault or perhaps it might be them...

Originally Posted by Derrygal

No it isn't - I've only written what I experienced - maybe it's because it was a small town, but trust me, it was full of rednecks and bigots - the racism was unbelievable. This was back in the mid to late 80s. Maybe things have improved there now - but living there left a very bad taste in my mouth.

Originally Posted by Ruth16

Brits are not usually complainers , .

Originally Posted by Ruth16

Brits are not usually complainers

Originally Posted by Uncle_Bob

I love it here at the moment, life is more easy going and less anal than in the UK.

Everyone who has come over to visit has been amazed at the quaility of life we have here and actually mentioned that we would be foolish to move back. I've never said never but right now i can't see it happening. Every time I go back i find the UK depressing, its crowded, i get claustrophobic and the cost of living is insane. I see friends struggling, living in tiny spaces and worrying about their cars passing the next MOT.