britvic

Its still early days for you all living over there isn't it, so how can you say its going to be a better life, I dont mean to rock your boat, but I know teenage daughters can bloody well rock yours.

Brat1

Compared to our circumstances back home, what we can provide for them and the family time which we could have together is better than the UK, for us anyway. I hope

britvic

Early days ELv

Brat1

Thanks again. I'll take on board what you're saying. That's why I post on this site because I value everyones opinion.

Jerseygirl

Maybe better...maybe not...but it will certainly be different. Whether it works out for her or not IMO she is certainly lucky to be given an opportunity to live in another country. She can always go back home in the future but the opportunity to be in the US has a very small window.

My daughter settled into life here very well but then decided to go to uni in Canada. She is now living and working in Toronto. She is almost 25 and she's lived and been educated in 3 countries. She is a UK and US citizen...therefore she can work and live anywhere in Europe and the US. She will probably become a Canadian citizen too. In my book that is a fabulous opportunity...one that many would give their right arm for.

DeanUK2US

Odds are in favor of the daughter having a better life in the US because:

1. She will be with her parents and siblings.
2. Not sure how well her grandparents would be able to keep an eye on her back in the UK (as grandparents are almost always 'softer' than parents when it comes to discipline).
3. She would most likely get into trouble because she will feel 'free' if her parents.
4. As previously pointed out her grandparents may become dependent on her when she isn't ready for that situation.

It isn't just about the short term, it's about the long term, and remember that she is only sixteen and wants what immediately satisfies her intentions rather than considering future consequences.

britvic

Good luck to ya, but I do feel for your daughter and my Parents only moved me out of London at 16,
TBH I never forgave them for it either and we only went to Berkshire.

Brat1

How do you know my parents and my daughter

DeanUK2US

They're down the road from me... by the Tesco/WalMart!

Jerseygirl

Asda surely!!

Brat1

DeanUK2US

Where I am in the UK and Asda is actually out of reach! But you never know about the WalMart.

Vicky88

All I can say is you are the parent and she is the child. Since when do her rights supersede what is best for the entire family?

Tell her she needs to finish high school and once she has done that she is free agent to choose where she wants to live and to support herself financially.

candy wy.

I came over with 3 kids one was 15 nearly 16 he hated it from the minute he landed he returned after only 3 weeks I do not regret for 1 min allowing him to go back.

SarahG

I am sorry to hear your daughter wants to leave. I do think she needs to try a bit longer to see what she makes of the place. It is hard to adjust to a new place. When I was 18 I went to Michigan as an exchange student and it took me about 3 months to feel fully comfortable being there. I had no family around and knew no one there. I stuck it out and am glad I did. It was very hard and I was really out of my comfort zone but I don't regret it. Now I am back again and what I learned about myself then is helping now. I have been in Indiana for almost 5 months. My kids are younger than yours, son is 6 and daughter is 5 next week, and have adjusted well.