Margaret

Please bear with me on this. After having been in the U.S. for 10
months now, 2400 miles away from my parents, my 2 girls and friends,
I'm starting to really feel the homesickness now. The odd time in the
past I would get a little teary eyed but nothing major. Lately I've
been having dreams of living back in Canada, seeing my old friends
from the past as well as current friends, seeing the old familiar
landsites like Niagara Falls where I was born and raised. It's been
bothering me.

Even if my son and I had applied for Advanced Parole, we were in no
position financially to fly back home for a visit. My girls came in
January for a week and my son and I were thrilled. My parents are
making plans to come out in July or August with their trailer.

Sometimes I have crazy thoughts of wondering if I had made the right
decision but I love this man with all my heart, his family members are
wonderful and I really love where I'm living. My son has made lots of
friends and is kept busy but I keep going through the "I want to go
back to Canada to live" with him at times.

Even though I have no job right now, there are plenty of things around
the house to do. We have a whole house to paint and all these plans
for our garden.

I'm just wondering if anyone else has had a delayed reaction like
this?

Thanks for letting me get it out of my system.

dbark

Margaret,

How I do sympathise. How old is your son? I will be coming there some time this year (TSC willing) and probably leaving both my daughters behind. It will be a real wrench. I have cried many tears over it. I also cry many tears because of missing my man. We so much want to be together. He managed to come here for a wonderful week over New Years. So we have now been apart for 112 days. It is day 84 of our petition at TSC. So we know there is still a long ways to go yet. So I am torn, in my feelings, between enjoying being here, where my daughters are, but the overwhelming feeling is of longing to be with him over there. We found each other in our 40s, so we don't want to waste a single day of the rest of our lives, just be together.

I do hope you manage to reconcile your feelings and come to peace with your situation.

Debbie

Alex

Margaret wrote:
    > Please bear with me on this. After having been in the U.S. for 10
    > months now, 2400 miles away from my parents, my 2 girls and friends,
    > I'm starting to really feel the homesickness now. ...

I have been the states 5 1/2 yrs now and still get that way. It is hard
to leave behind 36 yrs of familiarity to start all over again - even
with Canada and the US being not so different in many things.

There are many times I wonder if I would stay here if anything were to
happen to my wife or our marriage. I probably would - but I still
wonder. Knowing I can travel up there any time helps a bit.

It was worse before getting the green card and I am sure it will be even
better when I get citizenship - knowing then that I can go up there for
awhile (being years if so desired) and still come back here without any
problems.

Guess the point is - you are not alone and it is normal to feel that way.

Alex

Rete

Margaret

First, I am so happy to hear that your son has finally been able to connect and make friends. I remember the difficulties he had in the beginning. Second, I am sorry to learn that you did not get either of the positions you interviewed for. I'm sure that is a big let down.

Third, as for your homesickness, while I am stilling living in "my" country, I've been married nye on five years now. To this day, there isn't a single day that passes that Jim does not lament the loss of his own country. Although he might never "want" to move back there 7/52, I know he longs to at least live there a few months out of each year.

Perhaps it is a delayed reaction because you have finally settled in. The marriage is no longer "new" so to say, nor are the surroundings. The uniqueness and novelty has worn off and your mind has begun to grasp that this is going to life for you from here on in. That realization is what would prompt a bout of homesickness. I wish that you could find the money for a trip back home. While you enjoyed seeing the girls and will enjoy your parent's visit, you are still being denied the pleasure of immensing yourself in the familiar of being back home.

I have no special tricks to tell you to get over this. Just give your son and hubby an extra big hug.

Rita

Shussbar

    >I'm starting to really feel the homesickness

After 5 years here, i am homesick too. I miss everything. Except my wife and my
son, there is nothing here I could not have where I lived before(Ok, may be
playing golf for not much $$).
Days go by and I want to go back home. It means a lot of things to do. Finding
a new job to support family for a while until she can find one .
But then , she ll be homesick too i assume. Cruel dilema ...What to do?...

Dennis & Bonnie French

Margaret
I read your post, and I want to assure you that I have had many moments that
I wanted to be home in Canada too. Dennis would attest to that. I get on a
rant every once in awhile, and the wise man that he is, he just waits til I
run out of steam, gives me a big hug, and life goes on.
It was worse for me until I started working. I am working as a substitute
teacher at Robyn's school, and am saving my earnings to pay for the trips
home to Canada.
What you may not like to hear is that once you are home and visiting in
Canada, you long to be home in your own house, leading your new life. I miss
my folks immensely, and my oldest son is still in Canada, but FL is
definitely home now. Robyn and I flew to Canada for his school break the
first week of April, and ended up being "iced in" for two extra days. I
wanted to kiss the ground when I finally got off the plane in Orlando!
Hang in there.
Bonnie

"Rete" wrote in message
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    > Margaret
    > First, I am so happy to hear that your son has finally been able to
    > connect and make friends. I remember the difficulties he had in the
    > beginning. Second, I am sorry to learn that you did not get either of
    > the positions you interviewed for. I'm sure that is a big let down.
    > Third, as for your homesickness, while I am stilling living in "my"
    > country, I've been married nye on five years now. To this day, there
    > isn't a single day that passes that Jim does not lament the loss of his
    > own country. Although he might never "want" to move back there 7/52, I
    > know he longs to at least live there a few months out of each year.
    > Perhaps it is a delayed reaction because you have finally settled in.
    > The marriage is no longer "new" so to say, nor are the surroundings.
    > The uniqueness and novelty has worn off and your mind has begun to grasp
    > that this is going to life for you from here on in. That realization is
    > what would prompt a bout of homesickness. I wish that you could find
    > the money for a trip back home. While you enjoyed seeing the girls and
    > will enjoy your parent's visit, you are still being denied the pleasure
    > of immensing yourself in the familiar of being back home.
    > I have no special tricks to tell you to get over this. Just give your
    > son and hubby an extra big hug.
    > Rita
    > Originally posted by Margaret
    > > Please bear with me on this. After having been in the U.S. for 10
    > > months now, 2400 miles away from my parents, my 2 girls and friends,
    > > I'm starting to really feel the homesickness now. The odd time in the
    > > past I would get a little teary eyed but nothing major. Lately I've
    > > been having dreams of living back in Canada, seeing my old friends
    > > from the past as well as current friends, seeing the old familiar
    > > landsites like Niagara Falls where I was born and raised. It's been
    > > bothering me.
    > >
    > > Even if my son and I had applied for Advanced Parole, we were in no
    > > position financially to fly back home for a visit. My girls came in
    > > January for a week and my son and I were thrilled. My parents are
    > > making plans to come out in July or August with their trailer.
    > >
    > > Sometimes I have crazy thoughts of wondering if I had made the right
    > > decision but I love this man with all my heart, his family members are
    > > wonderful and I really love where I'm living. My son has made lots of
    > > friends and is kept busy but I keep going through the "I want to go
    > > back to Canada to live" with him at times.
    > >
    > > Even though I have no job right now, there are plenty of things around
    > > the house to do. We have a whole house to paint and all these plans
    > > for our garden.
    > >
    > > I'm just wondering if anyone else has had a delayed reaction like
    > > this?
    > >
    > Thanks for letting me get it out of my system.
    > --
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Margaret

Just wanted to say thank you to all who answered my post.

I can see I'm not the only one who feels the way I do. I know I could
never go back to Canada to live, my heart belongs where I am now. You
are right Rete, the newness of it all has now settled and reality has
set in. No, I never got any of the positions I applied for but that
is ok also, I'm still submitting applications in the meantime.

For dbark - my son is 12 years old.

Thank you again and best of luck to everyone.