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Yeah, I know, I always come here to vent, but it's either here or I let it out at work.
I'm fed up with no one understanding what the hell I'm saying!
My God, if they were in England, no one would have much problem understanding them, where is the big bloody problem?
I'm probably going to end up losing my job or something because customers cannot understand me. I can't even fake a decent American accent, let alone a southern one and when I try to speak more clearly (as told to by my boss) I end up sounding posh English. All I'm doing is just confusing everyone. It's embarrassing and really pissing me off.
Every customer points it out, and yeah I know it's a bit of a novelty for them but I'm just trying to do my job the same as everyone else, I'm not being paid to be British.
I've only been there 3 days, and I think I'm going to end up walking out because of it.
The actual job is well easy, if I was around people I could understand well and they could understand me, there would be no problem at all, but the accent problem works both ways and if I cannot understand the customers and they cannot understand me, that's a huge frustrating problem.
It just makes me more determined to go home. I just want out of here now.

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We just spent a few weeks in Europe, whilst I can hash through French my Spanish is non-existent. Although we had to guesstimate the menus it was still easier to order food in Spain than I found it in the Carolina's and Georgia :p

Try to bear with it Emma, at least until something along different lines comes up, that money's gonna be going to good use!!

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It's a friggin nightmare! I just want to go home that much I can taste it. Out of sheer desperation I even contacted the British Embassy (NOT because I can't take people not understanding me, lol, although that would be hilarious to contact them and tell them that! :rofl:) but because I need to get home. I don't know how much they can do about that, if anything, I just know I have totally misjudged the whole situation and I need to put it all right.
I'm kind of relying on the fact that I entered the US on VWP and married spontaneously, at this moment in time I would LOVE to be deported for something. I hate it here. I've tried liking it, but I don't. I cannot force myself to like something that I don't. I wish I hadn't got myself into this situation. Everything is overshadowed with how much I miss my home.
It is a very long confusing story of exactly why I need to return home, but I do, and I don't know how to get back.
I don't want to go into too much detail on this board, but I'm not bitching for the sake of it, I really have to get back.
Let's just say I have been extremely stupid. I will hate leaving my hub behind, but there is a situation in the UK I have to get back for.

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Emma

I can totally understand how you feel because I hated the area as much as you do, and no, there is no point forcing an issue that will not change. Fortunately I had a live return ticket and we got the opportunity to get the hell out. Mind you, Doha is no ball of fun, but we did get to leave and I can only imagine how awful it must be to feel literally physically trapped. The anxiety of feeling trapped brought me to tears of panic on more than a few occasions.

The only thing I can suggest is save the wages necessary to buy the ticket .. VISA process aside. Sometimes, somethings are just not meant to be, and if one of those is you not being in the States then so be it.

Despite your brothers I am absolutely sure if you turned up back here your mother would not see you on the street. One things for sure though, much longer of the situation you are in and its going to start having a more serious affect on your health and that's only going to exacerbate everything.

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Sorry to hear you're feeling so down and desperate Emma. From what you've said your situation is nothing to do with the British Embassy...your problem is with the USCIS having entered the US on the VWP then marrying and staying in the US. I believe you are free to leave and go back to the UK whenever you wish...your problem would be if you try to re-enter the US.

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You are exactly right. But even if I got back to the UK and had nowhere to go, I would probably ask for a place in a woman's refuge somewhere, I was supposed to go to one a few years ago but didn't, I sometimes think if I had done that I would be sorted out now, mentally and emotionally as well as financially, and the situation in the UK wouldn't be a situation anymore because that would all have been sorted out too. I really shot myself in the foot by coming here. I think I just ran away from everything and didn't realise I had done so until it was too late. I sort of forgot the enormity of what I was running from.

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I know, but I was asking the British Embassy for help with getting back. I have some problems that I wont go into on the board, but I believe that they could possibly help me, if not then at least I have tried that route.

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Em sorry to be sounding a dumb arse but you are working, so 2-3 weeks salary get on the plane and go :confused:

I know you metioned before that it would take years to get back :confused:you must have someone to stay with in the UK JUST GO...

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I'm only getting about $150 a week because it's only 3 days a week, so it would be more like 2 - 3 months, but yeah that would be something I could do.

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lol just a thought i know your so unhappy I don't like to see anyone sad.

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I see...your position is obviously complex. I hope you are able to sort something out...

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Thanks, I hope so too!

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Please don't despair,
If you have family or friends back in the UK then you'll be cool when you get there.
In the meantime i would suggest getting that money from your job,save hard and live on beans and toast till you get enough to go back home.
Silver lining fom the cloud is..At least it's not Australia then you would be totally F***ED!:curse:

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:rofl::rofl::rofl:

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You're certainly not the only one to have tried emigrating as a way of "running away" from your problems.

It's a hopeless thing to do and rarely, if ever, actually works in the long run. Sadly though there are multiple TV shows, magazines and advertisements on in UK even now that actively ENCOURAGE people there to emigrate as a way of escaping everyday problems! Makes my blood boil when I see that, because I know only too well it just makes your problems 1000 times worse!

Anyway, my only advice is that, having been through something that's probably quite similar to what you're going through, I would say try to force yourself to take a step back and relax a little, otherwise the emotional stress will get the better of you and it won't do your situation any good at all.

If you can just tell yourself, very firmly, that you WILL get through all your problems, and that within a year or so (or whatever timeframe you find realistic and achievable for you) you WILL be back in UK, and most or all of your problems will be well on the way to being sorted out, then you will find it much easier.

Make some definate plans, and just do whatever it takes (including living on beans and toast if necessary) to achieve them.

Also I would advise you to take a very tough, independant attitude to it all. Tell yourself "I'm going to do this in spite of everyone, and I will show them I can deal with all this and still come out on top in spite of them all!" (feel perfectly free to add a few expletives into that if you wish!)

Basically nobody is likely to be interested in helping you (unless you are extraordinarily lucky) because nobody really understands your situation (with the exception of me and others you 'talk' to on this forum, we have been there and we do understand!) so you have to do it for YOU, and be TOUGH in spite of it all!

It's no use talking to your family and friend in UK, because they're all brainwashed into thinking everything is terrible in UK and wonderful almost anywhere else in the world. They think you're LUCKY to be where you are and they think you're ungrateful to want to return to UK. I know that makes no sense, but believe me that's what they think!!!

As for work, just don't try too hard. Do your best, but don't try to change the world. It sounds like you work as a retail sales assistant, so don't try to be the best retail sales assistant ever.

I know this is very cynical, but it has helped me a lot over the years. Believe me I've had enough jobs in enough different industries to realise the truth of this. The fact of the matter is your employer is not interested in you as a person, or your ideas, problems etc. They are only interested in how 'well' you perform the things they pay you to do.

I find that it helps me to go to work each day telling myself that I am being paid to act out a part (much like a stage play) and I just try to learn my lines and act that part as best I can. Unfortunately that is what impresses most employers (certainly in retail at least) these days. Don't try to be yourself and whatever you do CERTAINLY DON'T expect your employer to understand your personal goals or problems! Remember it s your PERFORMANCE (again, think stage) that counts, nothing else!

Just play your part as best you can (including putting on a fake accent just while you're at work if it helps) then go home and enjoy speaking in your REAL accent to everyone else!

As William Shakespeare said "all the world's a stage". Well that certainly applies to the world of work!

Hope that helps a little!