How long does it take to feel settled?
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Hi. I have been in LA a month after badgering my husband to take up a job here. We have sold up everything in England. I was the one who really wanted to come, but now we have arrived I suddenly feel extremely homesick and anxious! I am trying to get more involved with school activities (my children are 9 and 12). Any thoughts and tips would be greatly appreciated.
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Can take a day, a month, a week, a year, a lifetime. It all depends on how much you want to get involved with the US.
The US more than most places is what you make it.
The US more than most places is what you make it.
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It generally takes folk about 2 years to feel settled into their new home, so what you are feeling is normal. It takes time to adapt to a new environment, but you'll soon settle in I'm sure.
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How long is a piece of string? There's no single answer to your question.
It really, really depends on the individual and their situation. For me, when I was (ahem!) younger and moved to the Bahamas I settled instantly. But that was partly due to my different outlook on life back then and the fact that for me, at the time, the Bahamas was like paradise and the lifestyle made life in the UK look like drudgery in comparison.
In the several moves I've made since then the answer has ranged from a couple of months to over a year. It's been influenced by the fact that as I've got older moving around agrees less with me, and also by the specifics of the situation. I've tended to settle more quickly when I've lived in my own home than when I've rented.
I've been lucky enough to have had a job each time also; I'm sure that if I'd been unemployed it would have been a much longer time.
It really, really depends on the individual and their situation. For me, when I was (ahem!) younger and moved to the Bahamas I settled instantly. But that was partly due to my different outlook on life back then and the fact that for me, at the time, the Bahamas was like paradise and the lifestyle made life in the UK look like drudgery in comparison.
In the several moves I've made since then the answer has ranged from a couple of months to over a year. It's been influenced by the fact that as I've got older moving around agrees less with me, and also by the specifics of the situation. I've tended to settle more quickly when I've lived in my own home than when I've rented.
I've been lucky enough to have had a job each time also; I'm sure that if I'd been unemployed it would have been a much longer time.
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How long is a piece of string? There's no single answer to your question.
It really, really depends on the individual and their situation. .....
..... I've tended to settle more quickly when I've lived in my own home than when I've rented.
It really, really depends on the individual and their situation. .....
..... I've tended to settle more quickly when I've lived in my own home than when I've rented.
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Originally Posted by Sallyanne
Hi. I have been in LA a month after badgering my husband to take up a job here. We have sold up everything in England. I was the one who really wanted to come, but now we have arrived I suddenly feel extremely homesick and anxious! I am trying to get more involved with school activities (my children are 9 and 12). Any thoughts and tips would be greatly appreciated.
My advice is to try and avoid driving and dealing with the fake self obsessed locals! Do all you can to maintain your sanity and cross your fingers!
Good luck
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Originally Posted by immunise
I lived in LA for a year and never got settled. I hate that place, what a total and utter craphole. It gave me my first mental breakdown and it should be flattened then burned.
My advice is to try and avoid driving and dealing with the fake self obsessed locals! Do all you can to maintain your sanity and cross your fingers!
Good luck
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My advice is to try and avoid driving and dealing with the fake self obsessed locals! Do all you can to maintain your sanity and cross your fingers!
Good luck
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Thanks for the replies. I admit the driving is definitely one of my hang-ups, which I am trying to get over as I will feel more relaxed if I can. Does anybody out there like LA?
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Thanks for the replies. I admit the driving is definitely one of my hang-ups, which I am trying to get over as I will feel more relaxed if I can. Does anybody out there like LA?
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Originally Posted by Sallyanne
Thanks for the replies. I admit the driving is definitely one of my hang-ups, which I am trying to get over as I will feel more relaxed if I can. Does anybody out there like LA?
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Everyone differs on this and there is no set guide. It took me until I got settled into a full time job to feel apart of my new home.
Just don't let the homesickness let you make any quick decisions on giving up. I felt like it a number of times but stuck it out. I'm glad I did.
Just don't let the homesickness let you make any quick decisions on giving up. I felt like it a number of times but stuck it out. I'm glad I did.
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I have been here 14months and still have days when i feel homesick, i too have children who are 10 & 12 and it took me a little while to get involved in school things but i'm glad i did, i'm just now starting to feel anywhere near comfortable going into school but more and more people are starting to make conversation and invite me to things, it is really hard, but it seems to get easier, the good thing for me is i read this board every day and know that these are normal feelings.
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Originally Posted by geordiegirl2
I have been here 14months and still have days when i feel homesick, i too have children who are 10 & 12 and it took me a little while to get involved in school things but i'm glad i did, i'm just now starting to feel anywhere near comfortable going into school but more and more people are starting to make conversation and invite me to things, it is really hard, but it seems to get easier, the good thing for me is i read this board every day and know that these are normal feelings.
Thanks, it is good to know that things should get easier and as you say very helpful to hear of other people's experiences.
By the way, my husband is a "Geordie boy".
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So much depends on your attitude, if you dwell on the things that you miss from home, and the things that you don't like here, you'll never make it. If you set out to find things to like it helps a great deal.
Something to understand, a lot of Americans are intimidated by a British accent and you will find it difficult to distinguish it from dislike for you. Your best way in is through the children and their schools, and school activities. My wife knew half the township before I had a beer and a natter with a neighbour.
Good luck.
Something to understand, a lot of Americans are intimidated by a British accent and you will find it difficult to distinguish it from dislike for you. Your best way in is through the children and their schools, and school activities. My wife knew half the township before I had a beer and a natter with a neighbour.
Good luck.
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Originally Posted by Sallyanne
Thanks for the replies. I admit the driving is definitely one of my hang-ups, which I am trying to get over as I will feel more relaxed if I can. Does anybody out there like LA?
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Look for Eskimo, Woodsey, and Lionheart, to name a few, who live in the area.
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