Originally Posted by SuzanneMaria (Post 5736443)

Perhaps, before you throw in the towel, you could try living on the East Coast. People aren't spread as far apart there, and it's easier to make friends. Just so you know you aren't alone: I (American) have lived with my (English) husband in Hove for almost eight years. As time has gone on, I've lost touch with all my friends in the States. My husband is pretty much a recluse, so we don't really have any friends to go out to dinner with, party with, what have you. The only people I know here are my in-laws, whereas once I had a huge social circle. That would be okay if I were an introvert like my husband, but I'm very extraverted and take an antidepressant just to get through each lonely day.

Originally Posted by Ray (Post 5743159)

My Mum is 45 miles north of you ..go visit ..she would knock
some sense into you..

Originally Posted by Tracym (Post 5743158)

They both have a point imo.

She is unhappy where they are and wants to leave.
He has started the green card process and wants to wait a few years until it's complete.

Both valid reasons, again imo.

From a purely practical standpoint - he gets his green card, then they move to a part of the country she might like. However, perhaps the OP cannot wait that long.

Some marriage counseling before a decision is made sounds like a wonderful idea to me.

Originally Posted by chicagojlo (Post 5743757)

I kinda got the impression that he is more interested in his career than he is the GC. He's telling her to wait for the GC because then she'll be able to work. It doesn't sound like he'd then want to move if it wasn't for his career in some way. I can understand, I used to be quite career oriented myself. Then I had a child, and my husband's career took off all of a sudden, and I learned to chill out. I think I actually did better at work once I took all that pressure off myself!

Originally Posted by Tracym (Post 5743964)

I have no idea what he really thinks, he hasn't told us.

But men are generally fairly career oriented. Whether he'd move to a different city once he had his green card, I have no idea.

That said, of course, she has to be happy too.

I hope they work it out.

Originally Posted by MademoiselleMtl (Post 5744257)

We are truly at the beginning, the labour certification process has justed started. The road ahead is a long one....

I booked my ticket to go home for 2 weeks so I can get some perspective.

Originally Posted by gazzpfc (Post 5745401)

If it helps I have been to Quebec and hated it immensely so its all about opinions.:D

Originally Posted by chicagojlo (Post 5743757)

I kinda got the impression that he is more interested in his career than he is the GC. He's telling her to wait for the GC because then she'll be able to work. It doesn't sound like he'd then want to move if it wasn't for his career in some way. I can understand, I used to be quite career oriented myself. Then I had a child, and my husband's career took off all of a sudden, and I learned to chill out. I think I actually did better at work once I took all that pressure off myself!

Originally Posted by Rete (Post 5745438)

She doesn't have to wait for the GC to work. If the I-485's have been filed she can apply for work authorization via an I-765 and start work as soon as she has that and a social security number.

Originally Posted by SuzanneMaria (Post 5736443)

Perhaps, before you throw in the towel, you could try living on the East Coast. People aren't spread as far apart there, and it's easier to make friends. Just so you know you aren't alone: I (American) have lived with my (English) husband in Hove for almost eight years. As time has gone on, I've lost touch with all my friends in the States. My husband is pretty much a recluse, so we don't really have any friends to go out to dinner with, party with, what have you. The only people I know here are my in-laws, whereas once I had a huge social circle. That would be okay if I were an introvert like my husband, but I'm very extraverted and take an antidepressant just to get through each lonely day.