Originally Posted by exvj (Post 7467464)

And when you have been 'improved' and turned into an american - a 'have a nice day ' brainwashed walmart associate clone, you can send a telegram to the white house thanking them for your cultural re-alignment and how much more of a nicer person you feel now

I bought some Walmart shares today in order to benefit from their exploitation so I shouldn't complain

Originally Posted by exvj (Post 7467464)

And when you have been 'improved' and turned into an american - a 'have a nice day ' brainwashed walmart associate clone, you can send a telegram to the white house thanking them for your cultural re-alignment and how much more of a nicer person you feel now

I bought some Walmart shares today in order to benefit from their exploitation so I shouldn't complain

Originally Posted by N1cky (Post 7467475)

You do make me laugh. You're not taking the piss are you?

Originally Posted by meauxna (Post 7467478)

The reason I can not respond to you with specific complaints about what you actually post is because it is such reactionary crap that clearly misses the point *every time* and I can only conclude that you're as socially inept as you appear.
This is yet another example.


N1cky: he's not taking the piss, that's why it's not funny in the least. I mean, it makes one laugh, but that isn't the same.

Originally Posted by meauxna (Post 7467478)

The reason I can not respond to you with specific complaints about what you actually post is because it is such reactionary crap that clearly misses the point *every time* and I can only conclude that you're as socially inept as you appear.
This is yet another example.

Originally Posted by meauxna (Post 7467469)

Dale Carnegie said, 'We can not afford to offend even one member of our audience' (I ignore him when it pleases me).

What I'm saying is, you're the fish out of water when you get here, the guest, the newcomer. It's good social order for you to be the one who watches for social cues.
Ex: you think Americans are loud, enthusiastic and in-your-face. If an American goes out of his culture and amplifies that behavior abroad without respect to what others are doing, he is going to stand out and perhaps be perceived negatively. He thinks he's just 'being himself'.
I find it a lot more interesting to watch people and keep the 'When in Rome' adage in mind.

What went wrong in your example is, (let's pretend I was your colleague).. I don't know you have a child, I don't know that you are not a painter, even a sucky painter. I just gave you a compliment (I like your painting) and you negate my comment, my taste and my friendly overture by your 'joke'.
The appropriate reply (especially in a work situation) is to thank the person and brag up your kid.
IN MY OPINION.

I don't think it's a warped sense of humor, it's a method of making fun of the other person. But that's for the psychologists. Hopefully Leslie will be back soon to explain it better.

Originally Posted by meauxna (Post 7467478)

he's not taking the piss.

Originally Posted by Bill_S (Post 7467507)

When I saw that this thread had suddenly jumped to 5 pages, I bet myself 10 bucks that exvj had turned up. I won the bet! Keep it up mate, I'll be a rich man by the end of the night!

Originally Posted by meauxna (Post 7467469)

Dale Carnegie said, 'We can not afford to offend even one member of our audience' (I ignore him when it pleases me).

What I'm saying is, you're the fish out of water when you get here, the guest, the newcomer. It's good social order for you to be the one who watches for social cues.
Ex: you think Americans are loud, enthusiastic and in-your-face. If an American goes out of his culture and amplifies that behavior abroad without respect to what others are doing, he is going to stand out and perhaps be perceived negatively. He thinks he's just 'being himself'.
I find it a lot more interesting to watch people and keep the 'When in Rome' adage in mind.

What went wrong in your example is, (let's pretend I was your colleague).. I don't know you have a child, I don't know that you are not a painter, even a sucky painter. I just gave you a compliment (I like your painting) and you negate my comment, my taste and my friendly overture by your 'joke'.
The appropriate reply (especially in a work situation) is to thank the person and brag up your kid.
IN MY OPINION.

I don't think it's a warped sense of humor, it's a method of making fun of the other person. But that's for the psychologists. Hopefully Leslie will be back soon to explain it better.

Originally Posted by Leslie66 (Post 7467555)

Don't ask me. I have no earthly idea why people get pissed off when they find out that the whole world doesn't share their exact brand of humor. :confused:

Originally Posted by exvj (Post 7467487)

If things that you don't find funny make you laugh, we can only hope your psychologist friend (backup) turns up soon

Originally Posted by london52 (Post 7467561)

We normally don't love.

Originally Posted by yodfrodo (Post 7467404)

it sounds pretty boring if i cant take the piss outta them. ive always been attracted to people who dont take themselves seriously. i hope i don t struggle to make close friendships