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With experience in coaching and "working with children", they are likely his only options in the medium or long term too. ![Roll Eyes](https://britishexpats.com/forum/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif)
FWIW Mrs P and I married 13 years ago, getting engaged after less than 12 months of "meeting" on line. We married after 21 months, with only six weeks of face-to-face time, one week of which was the week before we got married!![OhMy](https://britishexpats.com/forum/images/smilies/ohmy.gif)
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FWIW Mrs P and I married 13 years ago, getting engaged after less than 12 months of "meeting" on line. We married after 21 months, with only six weeks of face-to-face time, one week of which was the week before we got married!
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Mrs CS and I were a similar way, we met online, spent about 5 weeks together before getting married in total over 1.5 years, then spent another year apart (apart from 3 weeks) waiting for the visa.
Having arrived exactly a month ago today, this is the longest we have ever spent in each others company. We haven't killed each other. Yet.
Having arrived exactly a month ago today, this is the longest we have ever spent in each others company. We haven't killed each other. Yet.
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Hello, Long story short I met a girl while I was staying in Vermont working at a summer camp. My plan is to earn some money for the next couple of months, but i want to try and apply for a working visa (EAD). I am a university graduate so fairly well educated and have tons of work experience in coaching and working with children. What kind of visa's can I apply for if any? (Apart from the seasonal j1 working visas.)
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My husband and I knew that living together was never going to be an option for us unless one of us had a work visa in the other's country. You can either marry quickly in order to be able to live in the same country or you can take your time getting to know each other (as you might in any relationship) - we did this - but I can tell you that this is a very expensive option. We met online in a forum much like this one, talked every day on Skype/MSN for 2 years and made 10 transatlantic visits between us before he proposed. If we'd carried on 'getting to know each other' further, one or both of us would have gone broke. We'd hit a point after about a year where we both recognised that, if we lived in the next town to each other, we'd have lived together. Knowing that was never going to be an option raised the subject of marriage much earlier than I'd have liked - but there it is.
It's a bold move getting involved with someone who lives on a different continent and will, almost inevitably, involve marriage because of immigration restrictions. My advice to someone at your stage is that if you feel marrying without having spent lots of time together is too much of a risk, don't pursue it now. It's not for the faint-hearted (not that I'm suggesting you might be
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As for work visa options? For all UK/US has that 'special relationship'
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Well one does not want to be overly optimistic... and there is a gun in the house...
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It's pretty much par for the course when you have children though, they actually come with a 'you will disagree about everything' guarantee.
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For the record, we met online, chatted every day online till we met in person a few months later, decided we really got along well and had major feelings for each other, chatted twice a day for a few more months, decided marriage was the only reasonable option, did the trial thing, got married, did the visa, "lived together" for three months while the I-130 was processing, visited for a week in the UK, and then apart again for the rest of visa processing. We seem to have had more time than average for online romances before marriage, but we did marry only about ten months after meeting online.
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Being in our mid-40s as we are, Jaffacakes and I are not exactly planning to have kids (not that it would be completely impossible, but the biological clock is just about to announce quitting time). That also made it more possible for us to consider marrying, since we knew kids wouldn't be involved if we broke up. But it also makes it more possible for us to stay married, since we don't have that complication. Meh.
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Even after we had our second, it still really doesn't complicate anything because if we were to break up, I'd stay around as close by as I could, I wouldn't go running off back to the UK again where I'd never see them again.
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.... For the record, we met online, chatted every day online till we met in person a few months later, decided we really got along well and had major feelings for each other, chatted twice a day for a few more months, decided marriage was the only reasonable option, .....
The irony was that we knew more about each other, our past, our plans, our hopes, our beliefs, our families, etc. etc., than we would have after several years of movies, dinners, baseball games, and family events, before we even met face-to-face, that we felt better prepared to commit to spending the rest of our lives together despite the short time spent actually together than if our relationship had followed a more conventional course.
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I would agree with that - when all you have is words, you tend to talk about anything and everything. I remember we had the most irreverent conversations about the most far flung things.
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Ditto (the quoted bit).
The irony was that we knew more about each other, our past, our plans, our hopes, our beliefs, our families, etc. etc., than we would have after several years of movies, dinners, baseball games, and family events, before we even met face-to-face, that we felt better prepared to commit to spending the rest of our lives together despite the short time spent actually together than if our relationship had followed a more conventional course.
The irony was that we knew more about each other, our past, our plans, our hopes, our beliefs, our families, etc. etc., than we would have after several years of movies, dinners, baseball games, and family events, before we even met face-to-face, that we felt better prepared to commit to spending the rest of our lives together despite the short time spent actually together than if our relationship had followed a more conventional course.
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See Mrs. CS says I'm impatient (and rude) with servers in restaurants, and then complains when I don't leave a huge tip - I on the other hand cant understand how she can leave clothes all over the place as if a nuclear weapon has been detonated in the laundry basket.
We all have our little foibles
We all have our little foibles
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