Originally Posted by clairebear

how do u know so much about this?

Originally Posted by bobz

You then do a change of status to permanant resident, takes a while longer, depends on where you are I guess....but you should be able to get work authorised and ssn quite easily...and as far as I can tell, it's probably cheaper...

I'm going through this route, basically the bloke at the canadian border said it was best option because your going to get a bigger grilling going through K3 route in the end

Originally Posted by manc1976

been there done that bought the t-shirt, and reading threads like this for the past 18 months helps.

Originally Posted by clairebear

no your not getting it, say for talking sake i went to the usa on holiday under the VWP to see him only without the intent to marry but he springs it on me and we get married in the usa and want to say what then?

the reason i say this is because hes droping hints at me to do just that

Originally Posted by clairebear

how bad is it? i have post tramatic stress disorder....

Originally Posted by meauxna

Sorry, chickie, *you're* not getting it. You must have your internet sarcasm filter(tm) turned on.

If he's dropping hints, and you've figured it out and you do it anyway, it's still fraud.
If he doesn't have a job or his own home, maybe a little waiting time before getting married and living together is not a bad thing. Sex is still good later on in life

Originally Posted by manc1976

let me ask you this question how old are you?

Originally Posted by clairebear

21...old enough to know what i want in life

Originally Posted by manc1976

no I didn't mean it like that.

what you want and what is feasible are two seperate issues. No-one is saying you can't do this, but for ease of movement down the line, do it right.

Originally Posted by clairebear

this is feasible ive waited for nearly 3years because of shit getting in my way all i want is to be with someone i love why is it royally screwing me up?

Originally Posted by manc1976

but 99% on this forum have been in your situation one way or another.
you'll not find sympathy, just straight honest replies. We've all gotten through it.

Originally Posted by clairebear

thats what i want because all ive gotten is mixed stories on how to do it i just want people to be honest you know?

Originally Posted by manc1976

We can only go off what we know and how we did things and what worked for us. Nothing better than straight from the horses mouth.

the absolute right way is this presuming you've obviously met each other by now is to get him to file a fiance visa on your behalf.

Originally Posted by clairebear

how long have u been in the states?