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Old Dec 9th 2003, 2:15 am
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Short and to the point my filippina wife whom I love with all
my heart my blood and soul of almost 2 years
Decided to leave me, she took all her ID and all her clothes.
We never had a problem and get along great.
I cant say green card was her motive cause she had that over 6 months
And could have left me then, besides that her sister is her in America
and a citizen
And could have petitioned for her.
My wife also quit her job leaving her employer a note that merely
stated
Good by I love you I quit.
I called the police to help me find her they cant do anything cause
she left her own.
Its obvious she is gone for good so I guess I wont try to look for
her,
Besides her note she left me was very specific asking me not to
contact her or any of her friends and also said I would never find
her.
Does anyone what my options are in this matter , what will happen to
her status
She has the 3 year green card? Should I file for divorce or let her do
it.
God Im so depressed and distraught I really want her not a divorce
someone please help.

I should have added in my prior post my wife had surgery for cancer on
OCT 14th a radical hytsto--- they removed her overies etc. She was
suppose to be taking hormones and never has. I called her doctor and
he told me she needs to take the hormones withough them she could have
mood swings I also just looked up some medical information( below)
Rapid changes in hormone levels or the abrupt elimination of hormone
production is known to cause physical shock, also known as a "hormone
shock" to women.Hormone shock, described by Dr. Hufnagel, MD, is the
sudden, severe increase, decrease, or change in hormone levels of the
human endocrine system. The abrupt hormonal change causes a condition
of shock to the body.

encing a *severe hormonal imbalance or hormone shock (especially when
a woman is young) can greatly affect the quality of her life and can
affect all aspects of her life. The hormone imbalance/shock can create
symptoms which can greatly affect her physical and mental health,
family and social life, libido, memory, logic and more.

The onset of a severe hormonal imbalance or being in the strangle hold
of hormone shock is not always obvious to woman herself who is
experiencing it. She may know that she has suffered a health change
but she may not always be properly diagnosed. The symptoms of hormonal
imbalances and hormone shock that are often seen in young women are
often misdiagnosed by the medical community as being a whole host of
unrelated conditions such as chronic fatigue (CFS), fibermylogla,
heart conditions, common depression, IBS, common allergies, and so on.
*Low or no estrogen/progesterone. Severe and prolonged hormonal
imbalances can cause rapid, accelerated bone loss, heart disease, and
can cause psychological symptoms that mimic mental illnesses.

Shall i contest a Divorce based on the above facts Perhaps she decided
to this cause of the above?????? Certaintly her behavior seems
irational Please help and Thank you


can a person bring an action before the courts for the court to
entertain such, when the defendant has a letter from a medical xpert
that clearly states the plantiff (in no conclusive fact,but expert
research and documentation to be conclusive on the said research; but
the medical expert also states that in good likely hood)that the
defendant can be disorientd and not making such decisons due to a
medical conditon? by the way this is the sate of ALABAMA. The
defendant also has research from the National Instute of Health, to
make a point in any proceding that the plantiff may at the time of
this action not be thinking clearly. So now my qustion is where do I
Cite a law that say's fact that a person that is not of clear and
sound mind able to petition a court of law for any tyoe of proeceeding
or ware do i cite a law saying that she does have a rite to a
precedding? i know this is done to contest will and or probate-------
 
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John,

Have you tried to contact her family? possibly her sister that's in the States? You need to start looking for her somewhere.
Did you tell police about the health condition of your wife?

Hope it ends well for you.
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Old Dec 9th 2003, 5:30 am
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Originally posted by John
So now my qustion is where do I
Cite a law that say's fact that a person that is not of clear and
sound mind able to petition a court of law for any tyoe of proeceeding
or ware do i cite a law saying that she does have a rite to a
precedding? i know this is done to contest will and or probate-------
She took all her ID and all her clothes. Sounds like she surely was clear of mind, John.
I hope all will end well for you.
Take care....
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Old Dec 9th 2003, 5:54 am
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Originally posted by John
Short and to the point my filippina wife whom I love with all
my heart my blood and soul of almost 2 years
Decided to leave me-------

I don't want to seem cruel here. But how in the world can we possibly help you? You need a marriage counselor or a psychologist not a NG.

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Default Re: God someone please help I beg You

Originally posted by John
Its obvious she is gone for good so I guess I wont try to look for her
Why ever not? You deserve an explanation.

Originally posted by John
Besides her note she left me was very specific asking me not to contact her or any of her friends and also said I would never find her.
Why comply with her wishes? You don't have to do as you are told. Go out and prove her wrong - start looking and asking questions.

I wish you the best of luck.
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Old Dec 9th 2003, 6:15 am
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Hi John,

I feel deep sorry for you. But you must realize now your wife --- she was
hurting you, no matter what kind of reason she left you, --- you must do
someting to protect yourself!

Believe me, I have known this kind of case, the woman left, sometimes even
has kids, two weeks later, she will give you divorce paper, and I am a
woman, I know this too well.

You loved her, how about her? if she use sister for immigration will take 10
years and more.... maybe she is not so satisfied for the marriage, and with
the operation goes, she felt fearless to do anything, she no need to divorce
you just that date, normally women choose 6 to 9 months.

Now, I do not want to blame your wife, since I do not know her, and if she
did not love you, she has her rights to choose the best for her life too.

The problem is I want to help you, you feel pain, but life must go on, you
must find her first, you can find her FROM SOCIAL SECURITY BUREAU, tell them
your case, use that number, they can find anyone at anywhere unless she gave
up all her ID. Talk about the case, be careful, she might has someone to
help her, the whole process is pain, but you go through this pain is better
than you pain a long time trying to finger her out and still worry about
her, SHE IS HURTING YOU AND YOUR LIFE. At least you two can talk, either
finish the marriage or something else, come out a deal...

Although I do not know you, and basicly I am also a woman, I should feel
more sorry for her, but you seemed very depressed, I do want to help.

Wishing you all the best... Be strong!

Jennifer
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    > Short and to the point my filippina wife whom I love with all
    > my heart my blood and soul of almost 2 years
    > Decided to leave me, she took all her ID and all her clothes.
    > We never had a problem and get along great.
    > I cant say green card was her motive cause she had that over 6 months
    > And could have left me then, besides that her sister is her in America
    > and a citizen
    > And could have petitioned for her.
    > My wife also quit her job leaving her employer a note that merely
    > stated
    > Good by I love you I quit.
    > I called the police to help me find her they cant do anything cause
    > she left her own.
    > Its obvious she is gone for good so I guess I wont try to look for
    > her,
    > Besides her note she left me was very specific asking me not to
    > contact her or any of her friends and also said I would never find
    > her.
    > Does anyone what my options are in this matter , what will happen to
    > her status
    > She has the 3 year green card? Should I file for divorce or let her do
    > it.
    > God Im so depressed and distraught I really want her not a divorce
    > someone please help.
    > I should have added in my prior post my wife had surgery for cancer on
    > OCT 14th a radical hytsto--- they removed her overies etc. She was
    > suppose to be taking hormones and never has. I called her doctor and
    > he told me she needs to take the hormones withough them she could have
    > mood swings I also just looked up some medical information( below)
    > Rapid changes in hormone levels or the abrupt elimination of hormone
    > production is known to cause physical shock, also known as a "hormone
    > shock" to women.Hormone shock, described by Dr. Hufnagel, MD, is the
    > sudden, severe increase, decrease, or change in hormone levels of the
    > human endocrine system. The abrupt hormonal change causes a condition
    > of shock to the body.
    > encing a *severe hormonal imbalance or hormone shock (especially when
    > a woman is young) can greatly affect the quality of her life and can
    > affect all aspects of her life. The hormone imbalance/shock can create
    > symptoms which can greatly affect her physical and mental health,
    > family and social life, libido, memory, logic and more.
    > The onset of a severe hormonal imbalance or being in the strangle hold
    > of hormone shock is not always obvious to woman herself who is
    > experiencing it. She may know that she has suffered a health change
    > but she may not always be properly diagnosed. The symptoms of hormonal
    > imbalances and hormone shock that are often seen in young women are
    > often misdiagnosed by the medical community as being a whole host of
    > unrelated conditions such as chronic fatigue (CFS), fibermylogla,
    > heart conditions, common depression, IBS, common allergies, and so on.
    > *Low or no estrogen/progesterone. Severe and prolonged hormonal
    > imbalances can cause rapid, accelerated bone loss, heart disease, and
    > can cause psychological symptoms that mimic mental illnesses.
    > Shall i contest a Divorce based on the above facts Perhaps she decided
    > to this cause of the above?????? Certaintly her behavior seems
    > irational Please help and Thank you
    > can a person bring an action before the courts for the court to
    > entertain such, when the defendant has a letter from a medical xpert
    > that clearly states the plantiff (in no conclusive fact,but expert
    > research and documentation to be conclusive on the said research; but
    > the medical expert also states that in good likely hood)that the
    > defendant can be disorientd and not making such decisons due to a
    > medical conditon? by the way this is the sate of ALABAMA. The
    > defendant also has research from the National Instute of Health, to
    > make a point in any proceding that the plantiff may at the time of
    > this action not be thinking clearly. So now my qustion is where do I
    > Cite a law that say's fact that a person that is not of clear and
    > sound mind able to petition a court of law for any tyoe of proeceeding
    > or ware do i cite a law saying that she does have a rite to a
    > precedding? i know this is done to contest will and or probate-------
 
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John,

Been through this myself, it's difficult.

I filed for divorce as soon as I accepted that she wasn't coming back, in the belief (possibly mistaken) that the longer we remained married the more vulnerable I was to alimony and sharing of assets that had been mine prior to the marriage (principally my house).

If her sister had petitioned for your wife she'd be waiting for years - many years - to get into the USA. Slow as the marriage-based process might be, it's a rocket compared to immigration as a more distant relative where annual quotas are involved.

What's a "3 year green card". (Hint - there is no such thing.)

Your wife's medical problem is a real wild-card. Maybe this is what underlies her disappearance, maybe not. Much as it hurt me, I let my ex-wife go quickly. If something like this had been a factor (and if she had disappeared as your wife has done), I would have tried to find her.

Regards, JEff

Originally posted by John
Short and to the point my filippina wife whom I love with all
my heart my blood and soul of almost 2 years
Decided to leave me, she took all her ID and all her clothes.
We never had a problem and get along great.
I cant say green card was her motive cause she had that over 6 months
And could have left me then, besides that her sister is her in America
and a citizen
And could have petitioned for her.
...

She has the 3 year green card? Should I file for divorce or let her do it.
God Im so depressed and distraught I really want her not a divorce
someone please help.

...
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Originally posted by jeffreyhy

What's a "3 year green card". (Hint - there is no such thing.)

Regards, JEff
Hi Jeff, I think OT is referring to the conditional GC (he stated that the wife had a GC for 6 mths now) - however I may be wrong.

John, sorry for what happened , hope things will work out for you somehow.
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Old Dec 9th 2003, 7:35 am
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Way too much information here, John!

I'm not sure what help you expect since this is an immigration NG, and
according you, immigration issues have nothing to do with your
situation.
 
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Originally posted by John
Short and to the point my filippina wife whom I love with all
my heart my blood and soul of almost 2 years
Decided to leave me, she took all her ID and all her clothes.
We never had a problem and get along great.
John:
I have a pretty good idea why she left. Get a new email address and quit playing around with the immigration discussion boards.
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Originally posted by meauxna
John:
I have a pretty good idea why she left. Get a new email address and quit playing around with the immigration discussion boards.

I was thinking troll, myself
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John,

Whether she left or not due to medical reasons is not the issue really. Sure you can try to find her and help her and offer advice but it's her body and she can do what she wants with it. She's not "mentally insane" therefore, the police won't help you.

I know this isn't what you want to hear, but I doubt the courts will agree with your grounds to contest a divorce.

Sure, you could get answers, track her down, etc, in the end, it's pretty clear what she wants. (By the way, just because she stayed 6 months after she got the card, doesn't mean she wasn't in it for that, maybe it took her that long to figure out stuff and get some money together, etc. This may not be the issue but I wouldn't discount it.

I'd file for divorce and get it over and done with. Inform anyone you want that she has left you and that you are divorcing, then mend, recover and move on.

Sorry, but I don't see a win for you in this case.
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Originally posted by meauxna
John:
I have a pretty good idea why she left. Get a new email address and quit playing around with the immigration discussion boards.

Gasp!! Really??

How can you tell?
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Are you for real?
Did you also post this? It has your name.
http://tinyurl.com/yi2m
 
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Leslie66 wrote:

    > Originally posted by meauxna
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    >
    >>John:
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    >
    >>I have a pretty good idea why she left. Get a new email address and
    >>quit playing around with the immigration discussion boards.
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    >
    >
    >
    >
    >
    > Gasp!! Really??
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    > How can you tell?
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Look at this post with the same address

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