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hi, i am new on here like many of you and have been back in uk since middle of nov after spending 15 months in oz. we decided to come home after my oh dad decided to announce he was retiring from the family bussiness just 3 mnths after we left, which at that time as you can imagine i was going through my homesickness stage also being 3 mths pregnant with 3rd baby.so i pounced on this oppurtunity and told oh that i wanted to return and him take over bussiness, by this time we had already bought our own house in our dream suburb by the coast that needed reno, but it was all systems go and told all close family the 'good news!'.\ the wierdest thing happend that day as soon as we had spread the news i had this feeling of dread in the pit of my stomach,i ignored this for a while and carried on life as normal until my brother announced he was a dad 4 1st time i felt so upset that i was yet again back to missing out! decided that we would return to uk aug 08 as dad was ret in apr 09, my hubby was not wanting to go too soon! came home on hols aug07, fantantic as we drove up the m4 thought im home, tesco,pubs, welsh countryside little bit of sunshine bliss, for 2 weeks! then that was enough still had another 2 to go weather was crap seen everyone been everywher we missed, then what? started counting down the days to go 'home', i was really scared by now and when we did nget back to oz it hit us hard of how we didnt seem to want to fit back in to our old life any more, my 6 yr old was settled nin currumbin st school which he had lots of lovely mates, as did we who were very pleased to see us back, my 1 year old went back to barefoot, great.finished house and back to uk to try and make a go of it anyway but all nis not great, bought a fantastic house in lovely area, hubby takes over bus in 11 days so gonna make some decent money BUT its not enough anymore and especially me who at moment is a stay at home mum cant take kids anywhere unless you pay for it or too wet /cold kids are moaning they want to go tobeach/waterpark............ anyway planning to make as much money as poss andb return to oyr beloved currumbin just b4 visa expires march 2011 thank god hope i can last that long!!!!!!!!!!!

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Currumbin is certainly special so I can understand the need to return. Did you sell your house here or rent it out? I guess you just have to pretend you are going through the visa process and how long that can take. I hope the time passes quickly and you either get back or you find you're settled and happy in the UK.

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So money came 1st then?

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Hi there. I'm really sorry to hear that you've moved back and it isn't what you thought or wanted it to be. Silver lining is that you know for sure where you want to be now and that you will be in a position to move back to Oz sometime in the next year or two. For some people a holiday back to the UK is enough to make their minds up and for others they have to move back to realise it. But for some, and we would be in this group, we just wouldn't be able to afford to ping pong (not with a wee scraggy mutt who we just couldn't leave :)) I hope the next wee while goes well for you and you get back to Perth sooner rather than later. All the best. Nikki

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I don't think that's necessary and certainly not how I read it. Homesickness, peoplesickness and a family business sound like good enough reasons to me, whether they end up being the wrong reasons or not.

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at first it wasnt about money, just homesickness but then we realised we could have best of both may be? we were talking about going back to oz b4 we even left, our kids are very young eldest 6 and hopefully we can have both.

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we now actually realise that even though to a family of 5 money is important it isnt our whole world and are not willing to give up on our lovely life that we had for it, wish i had known there had been some people to talk to like yourselves for reassurance in the beginning as i probably wouldnt be sitting here in the house typing this maybe, by the time we realised it was too late, we havnt told anyone our intentions yet as it would only upset them all too soon, but i think theyt already know!!!!!!

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:)our lovely home in currumbin sold 21st jan, and some other lucky bugger now gets to enjoy it, hope they love it as much as us.

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We did exactly the same, we are in the process of sorting things out to go at the moment. We were supposed to have left and been in Brisbane by march 08, but things fell through at the last min (jobs),and my dream house which i wanted to buy to renovate is now on the market to be sold. They gave us the details before hand to look at and now am too late as they insist in a viewing first.

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dont be a prat

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what do you mean?

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not you pet rocket01

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at least you'l be back ther soon we have to wait about 3 years but iwaited that long the first time anyway im only 30 so im not panicking to much, which is an achievement for me, even bought hubby a crate of vb for his birthday on sat, couldnt wait so gave it to him yesterday, my 6 year old thinks that it came all the way from oz especially for daddy on a plane from currumbin surf club, im not that good!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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It gets under your skin doesnt it....the Ozzy life

Ping ponged, not once, but twice and now saving up like mad idiots to go again:huh:

We came back twice because of emotional rubbish and nothing changed and now we need to do what it right for ourselves.....

I just wish it didnt cost so much.

Oh and no one knows of our intentions either.....its going to destroy my Mum:(

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Arr bless. Sorry to hear things arent as expected. All the best. Make the most of the time here. You are still young enough to make it work the next time round.

Joex

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yeah, my mum and dad are pretty non exsistent in my lifenow both re married, grandparents great though, they have no idea! i think hubby told my bro last night when he was a bit worse for wear but cant remember either way! so ill have the 3rd degree tonight!!!!!!!!!! as we are v close to them, hubby mam and dad will be devastated but not going to take any sympathy for them as his mum rarely sees the kids even though she lives less than a mile! and she puts the waterworks on for fun when you mention oz, bit strange, but it took hubby til now to realise (4 months) that he wants to go back now as well, i hadnt even left!!!!!!!!!

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hope so, he'll bloody kill me if we dont stay next time, s but quite confident there, and yes got a couple of things to look forward to this year at least, WEATHER PERMITTING!

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I didn't read it that way either. AND money isn't everything but it sure helps.

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yeah thanks we arnt obsessed by it but with 3 kids under 7 we have to take every oppurtunity we can to be financially secure, especially as the kids get older they deffo get more high maintenance

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Got a few nice pics of Currumbin area on my blog if you're feeling homesick. That's probably not helpful though :o:D

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no its fine, really frustrating not having anyone to talk about this stuff to, we are the only people in our circle who have any intrest outside the med or m4 for that matter, so trying not to let others blank things out for us its quite annoying when family members try and put closure on something that is very not the case forus thanks for pics, when i learn how to i will also put some cracking ones of my 6yold boy catching some waves in d-bah!!

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gosh people go and they come back, and some even go again! LOL i dont think i'll have that stamina! doing this visa thing is already driving me insane!!

every free minute i have im thinking about what i need to do next... what i have forgotten to do... !! blah dee blah!!

but like others have said, at least you know now where you want to stay!!

and as for us, we have NEVER even step foot onto ozzie land EVER!

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madness, but hey ive been 3 times b4 we emigrated 1st time for 7 months on hols, and we still came back!!!! but all jokes aside you will not decide until you've been there for at least a year, and even then move areas if you can, when i felt at my worse we were renting in banora point northern nsw and for us it had nothing to offer, my boy didnt like school ther etc, but 4 months later we moved to currumbin into our own house and it felt like we'd arrived in oz properly, it was far more our cuppa, and that was only 15 mins up the road, unfortunatly by then we had informed our f+f we were on our way home IDIOTS!!!!!!!!!! TOO SOON TO DECIDE SOMETHING AS LIFE CHANGING AS THAT, but there was the bussiness opp as well so not all my fault, but all for better back soon!!!! where are you going to start?

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we came back June 07 we was in Currumbin really wished we tried a bit more, we do miss it like mad ,comming back to the uk seems very stressfull we are thinking of trying again and we are thinking of trying again but want to go back to currumbin again

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Same as us, we ping ponged twice and now on third time lucky as we are trying hard to get back. Did you buy and sell you houses each time? We did and cars as well.
At least we are a bit more experienced in the moving now so think we will do things a little bit different this time. What about you?

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yes we are deffo going back to currumbin, no question really and we've just sold our house on carlyle drive bit gutted would have loved to keep it but couldnt financially, equity and all that, as for moving back it could never be as stressful as the first time going in to the unknown,in fact thatpart doesnt really bother me now, what does concern me though is selling properties in time in preparation to go back as we now have a huge morgage and also a commercial property as well, but we have 3 yrs so prob sell house in 2 yrs, just hope there is some decent houses for sale in currumbin by the time we get back there!!!!

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yeah we sold our car over there about 4 weeks before we came home, as we lived in currumbinso everything was close by we just bought me a new bike, and it was great suprising how much fitter i felt after the 4 weeks, gutted now though cant use the bloody thing back here it'll probably rust, so its tucked away hibernating for alittle while!!!!!!!! nothing like riding with my boy to school every morning in the sunshine,

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Glad to see we are not the only mad ones out there!!;)

Lost an awful amount of money on going back to the UK the first time so went back to Oz with just enough to set up again but not buy......

Second time coming back to UK we had enough to set up here again but not to buy.......so therefore going with the bare essentials.

Dont know when we will be able to afford it but it will have to be before April 2010 as the visa runs out then.

The thing is this time round we made lots of friends who we have kept in touch with so be able to borrow a spare room for the initial 2 or 3 weeks till we find somewhere to rent, which will save a bit.


Sorry lisaroo, hijacking your thread:o

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I'm glad you have made you're mind up now...i'm looking to leave this time next year and already i'm thinking is it gonna be for me.
I'll just go with the flow i guess and weigh it all up when i'm out there. Great post though!

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thanks, we are not all mad just a little human,and if you wait around in life and do the so called right thing we would never get or go anywhere, and us as a family want everything so you got to do these thing 4 yourselves:):thumbsup::thumbsup:: we are spoiled (not in the bad sense)but worked bloody hard to get those visas and aint gonna waste them!!!!!!!!!!!

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Great post. I have a feeling that in the future I may become a ping ponger too (& I'm still in the UK!). As much as I want to emigrate to Oz the bloody family thing keeps getting in the way. I'm such a "homebird" (hence nickname!), but really don't want to be! Hope the 2/3 years fly by for you xx

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we're heading to Perth, as I have family there, and as much as i can find about the weather.. sounds like something that would suit us. and we're not too much into busy city life... but dont like too quiet like country side either

somewhere bustling enough still for kids.. lots of space, parks, beaches... we'll have to see :huh:

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We are due to join the "ping pong" club! We spent 3 years in Perth (02-05)and returned purely for family, emotional reasons, I found myself quite vulnerable to my parents comments, I felt selfish for living in Aus. We are Aussie citizens we applied soon after the 2 years, I wasn't going to leave without it.

I've realised that me and my family are the priority. We find living in the UK so hard and we live in a desirable part! The traffic, the pace of life, people do not have time for each other, I could go on and on, we have had some bad experiences since being back.

We lived in the Perth Hills, I'm quite arty, so I'm looking forward to living amongst the gum trees again and devoting time to my art. By the way I feel quite sick too, every morning I wake feeling sick but in my heart I know we need to make this move, at least I'm listening to my heart, not my head this time! Good Luck to all those ping ponging :)

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I second that!!!!!!!!:thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup:

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sometimes it takes more than one move to be sure ~ what IS important is to be happy ~ it doesn't matter how many times it takes or which end of the planet you end up on ~ the ONLY thing that matters is that you're HAPPY in your life ~ there is only ONE life, get as much out of it as possible ~ never mind about the doogooders or the poopoo-ers ~ what YOU want is the most important thing ~ for you and for your family

wishing you all the very best for your future ~ where ever it might be :eek:

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:thumbsup::thumbsup:

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:D
Only asked a simple question, no need to call me a prat thankyou.

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you perhaps didn't realise it but the comment about money sounded very sarcy.

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:)we've been through exactly same sort of thing, moved to adelaide, for a number of reasons it didn't work out and we moved back to UK but couldn't settle. We've had to re apply for a new visa and are now just waiting for final decision but yep, we did same, bought,sold houses cars etc and will be doing same when we leave UK(apart from house, we just stayed renting this time).Like you say expensive business ping ponging but like every one else we're hoping we've finally got it right. Good luck to all in same situation, massive heart searching and upheaval in all this before you look at costs.:ohmy: