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Re: 3 years in.
Originally Posted by Sherro
(Post 7915309)
Nice and candid ! But seriously mate why on earth would you want to hang about for another minute? If your daughter is young enough she will adapt probably better than you think. When I was a kid we moved about a bit and kids make new friends easily and get on with it. If I were you moved back to retire knowing id rather have spent my glory years eleswhere id spend a fair whack of my retirement feeling sorry that I wasted so many years somewhere that wasnt for me.
Come on mate, thats not what you want, if you really dont like it here and think you are better suited, start saving your pennies and head back... My daughter needs her dad, and thats what she will have. i can travel back for holidays in the interim, so its not so bad :) |
Re: 3 years in.
Originally Posted by West Vic
(Post 7916006)
You can't stay here for another 18 years if you don't like it! That's miserable, and not much different to a jail sentence.
It's a very tricky one and I do sympathise but really you are better off living where you are happy, rather than being a depressed and frustrated parent over here. But if you are really intent on staying, you are going to have to buck up your ideas. Life is what you make it, and it is hard to get on over here. I've been here 5 years and have no Aussie friends! All my mates are either Irish, American or Canadian. But i'm not letting that bother me, if I had met some Aussie females worth befriending and had been rejected by them well then i'd be upset. But I haven't so... Try and build your life in a way that makes you happy. For eg, I am happy to take what Australia has to offer, good weather, great medical system (well I think so) and healthy lifestyle. I miss home (Ireland) tons, I miss the sense of humour and intelligence and wit (same goes for the UK btw, Ilived in Devon and loved Cornwall and that area, would move back there in a heartbeat). But my life is here now and i'm going to make it the best I can with what's on offer here... Do agree on the Aussie mate thing though..doesn't really happen. Tend to check out UK next summer with a possible move back at the back of my mind. |
Re: 3 years in.
Hi - Im the same, kind of - ive been here 3 1/2 years moved about a bit to see if I could find a "better place" but all areas are around the same. the Aussie folk - although some nice ones around - tend to be full of it! I have tried many times to make friends with an aussie but its like infilrating a secret group!!! I can have a laugh with a few at work, but work seems to be as far as they are willing to take it. Im from scotland and have a good sense of humour but its slowly dwindling away...... there is only so much times you can get knocked back before not even bothering to try anymore, hence Im now feeling very lonely and having difficulty even find friends from the UK in my area (Dolls Point - Sydney) - Im sure you are out there somewhere!!!! Mork calling Mindy ....... lol Been home once and considering a move back again.
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Re: 3 years in.
Have to say that this is my absolute worse case scenario. The thought of getting to Oz, OH and kids loving it and me not. I do feel selfish though as he is desperate to go.
I would also say that my advice would be to leave before your little one enters the education system. We have a 5 and 8 year old and I know that their schooling would be one reason to stay and not return to the UK were it to not work out. By the time we get to Oz (probably next year), wait the 2 years that people seem to generally say is necessary to see if you like it, she will be in what I call 'serious' education ie, at senior school. The thought of dragging her back to the UK then and starting her at a senior school (if we could find somewhere to live in the catchment area of a good school) fills me with dread. I could of course absolutely love it. I wish you the very best of luck but would say that nothing is more important in life than being happy. If you have the chance to change it then you should (easy for me to say as I'm still here!). Good luck to you.:fingerscrossed: |
Re: 3 years in.
Originally Posted by Toryglen-Boy
(Post 7937739)
my ex-partner that i came here with is an Aussie, and my daughter is here, so if i leave, then i wont be part of her life, and after a legal battle to see her, i am granted access, and we really enjoy each other.
My daughter needs her dad, and thats what she will have. i can travel back for holidays in the interim, so its not so bad :) I hope things get better for you :) |
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