What to do when everything frustrates you?
Feb 16th 2008, 1:12 am
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Re: What to do when everything frustrates you?
well it must work for you as you are the most unbitchy person on here! 
I tend to do it after the fact don't usually like confrontations but my OH is tired of me moaning about it afterwards to him and ranting to him, he wants me to do it to the person so he doesn't have to hear it
I tend to do it after the fact don't usually like confrontations but my OH is tired of me moaning about it afterwards to him and ranting to him, he wants me to do it to the person so he doesn't have to hear it
Its just one of my pet peeves....if somebody (who I don't know from Adam) has a go at me...it just get my hackles up and I just give as good as I get...
Especially when its some jumped up Soccer Mom screeching like a Banshee because her little Johnny wanted to go on the ride my DD got to first...
Got to admit...I .love the American term "Bite me"....that usually shuts em up...
Feb 16th 2008, 1:13 am
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Feb 16th 2008, 1:15 am
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Re: What to do when everything frustrates you?
I've learnt to just let it go in one ear and out the other. Get over it and move on. I say learnt because it took me a loooooooong time to figure that getting worked up over every single little annoyance was going to send me to an early grave, and when you live in Holland believe me there are a lot of little annoyances.
Now if someone gets me mad I just remember that no matter how bad it is, at least I'm not in Holland any more. Last night I was treated like a peasant by Tiffany's staff. When I pulled out my platinum credit cards and they tried to make nice I made it clear that it was bit too late for that. Then I walked out of the store and it was forgotten about.
You can't change people. You can only learn to not let them affect you.
Now if someone gets me mad I just remember that no matter how bad it is, at least I'm not in Holland any more. Last night I was treated like a peasant by Tiffany's staff. When I pulled out my platinum credit cards and they tried to make nice I made it clear that it was bit too late for that. Then I walked out of the store and it was forgotten about.
You can't change people. You can only learn to not let them affect you.
Feb 16th 2008, 1:23 am
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Re: What to do when everything frustrates you?
Its just one of my pet peeves....if somebody (who I don't know from Adam) has a go at me...it just get my hackles up and I just give as good as I get...
Especially when its some jumped up Soccer Mom screeching like a Banshee because her little Johnny wanted to go on the ride my DD got to first...
Got to admit...I .love the American term "Bite me"....that usually shuts em up...
Especially when its some jumped up Soccer Mom screeching like a Banshee because her little Johnny wanted to go on the ride my DD got to first...
Got to admit...I .love the American term "Bite me"....that usually shuts em up...
)And I'd be scared I'd hit someone and get sued
so I have up until now never lost it apart from my OH and family. (lucky them
)Oh you have me all intrigued now ..(you know how nosy I am!)
So glad you did as you know how much I hate "I am so perfect Martha Stewart" so I like to know people have their flaws and what they are
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Feb 16th 2008, 1:25 am
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Re: What to do when everything frustrates you?
I have been to other places in the States and I have to honestly say LA is not human, people are generally unfriendly, rude and self absorbed. I was brought up with manners and a sense of compassion and I do not want to stoop to their level. The result, I keep swallowing the frustration, telling myself to keep my chin up etc...but it is taking it's toll on me and adding to my bitterness.
Besides a lobotomy, I cannot think of any solutions...
Just needed to vent, have a nice day everyone, off to take a bath in hopes of relaxing my frazzled brain.
Besides a lobotomy, I cannot think of any solutions...
Just needed to vent, have a nice day everyone, off to take a bath in hopes of relaxing my frazzled brain.
Feb 16th 2008, 1:26 am
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who turned out the light?
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Re: What to do when everything frustrates you?
I've learnt to just let it go in one ear and out the other. Get over it and move on. I say learnt because it took me a loooooooong time to figure that getting worked up over every single little annoyance was going to send me to an early grave, and when you live in Holland believe me there are a lot of little annoyances.
Now if someone gets me mad I just remember that no matter how bad it is, at least I'm not in Holland any more. Last night I was treated like a peasant by Tiffany's staff. When I pulled out my platinum credit cards and they tried to make nice I made it clear that it was bit too late for that. Then I walked out of the store and it was forgotten about.
You can't change people. You can only learn to not let them affect you.
Now if someone gets me mad I just remember that no matter how bad it is, at least I'm not in Holland any more. Last night I was treated like a peasant by Tiffany's staff. When I pulled out my platinum credit cards and they tried to make nice I made it clear that it was bit too late for that. Then I walked out of the store and it was forgotten about.
You can't change people. You can only learn to not let them affect you.
..I can only keep trying but so far it hasn't worked for me.
It must be lovely to be like that, so calm as to not let anything bother you (sigh)
Feb 16th 2008, 2:16 am
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Re: What to do when everything frustrates you?
I could never live in LA.. I'd go insane!!!
You need to talk to Lord Lionheart, he is always full of compliments for the place.. that might help you a little..
You need to talk to Lord Lionheart, he is always full of compliments for the place.. that might help you a little..
Feb 16th 2008, 4:08 am
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Re: What to do when everything frustrates you?
Work out with a punching bag.
Have more sex.
Try drugs.
Any of these should increase those feel-good endorphins.
Have more sex.
Try drugs.
Any of these should increase those feel-good endorphins.
Feb 16th 2008, 4:23 am
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Re: What to do when everything frustrates you?
I go to my eye Doctor's office and after 15 minutes of flipping through his files, he tells me that he cannot find my file with my eye exam info. He then proceeds to tell me that he will need to do a new exam and charge me again. I left...
because of negligence in your office ..
Someone stole the parking spot that I had been waiting for with my blinker on, I honked my horn at him and then opened my window and told him that it is my spot and he then yells at me "Excuse me Bitch it is mine"
Someone else in the parking lot saw the whole thing but the man did not care. I burst into tears because it frustrated me beyond belief.
Someone else in the parking lot saw the whole thing but the man did not care. I burst into tears because it frustrated me beyond belief.
My manager then calls me and tells me the person who parked in my spot is a workman who is doing a job in someone's unit. So I go to the unti # and tell him he is in my spot etc.. he does not apologize etc...and then tells me that he is busy right now but he will move it in about 15-20 minutes!!
I was enraged at his nerve and told him it was in his best interest to move his car this instant if he wanted a car to drive home in. He ended moving.
I was enraged at his nerve and told him it was in his best interest to move his car this instant if he wanted a car to drive home in. He ended moving.
So I ask, how does one keep their calm, composed attitude when they have to cope with this day in and day out?!!!!
Feb 16th 2008, 10:00 am
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Feb 16th 2008, 1:35 pm
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Re: What to do when everything frustrates you?
Sarcasm...works every time for me...ie: "you really are the most considerate workman I've ever met..are you married ??" Get's them every time as more often than not they don't realise you're being sarcastic
Feb 16th 2008, 2:26 pm
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Re: What to do when everything frustrates you?
I have been to other places in the States and I have to honestly say LA is not human, people are generally unfriendly, rude and self absorbed. I was brought up with manners and a sense of compassion and I do not want to stoop to their level. The result, I keep swallowing the frustration, telling myself to keep my chin up etc...but it is taking it's toll on me and adding to my bitterness.
Besides a lobotomy, I cannot think of any solutions...
Just needed to vent, have a nice day everyone, off to take a bath in hopes of relaxing my frazzled brain.
Besides a lobotomy, I cannot think of any solutions...
Just needed to vent, have a nice day everyone, off to take a bath in hopes of relaxing my frazzled brain.
Feb 16th 2008, 3:27 pm
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Re: What to do when everything frustrates you?
I believe in karma so those who have done bad against you will "pay" some time in the future without you having to lift a finger.
Assholes that you describe will get their comeuppance in due course. Life's too short to worry about idiots like them. I'd rather move on to something more positive.
Assholes that you describe will get their comeuppance in due course. Life's too short to worry about idiots like them. I'd rather move on to something more positive.