Hey All,

Just had a need to get this all out and update those of you that followed my story throughout. I recently had a family member die, which has been very painful but at the same time has made me realise this is it. Life is too short and i refuse to continue to live this unhappy life here in Canada. I have been in denial so long, so confused, so scared, so sad. But it ends now, I know now, more than anything that i need to return to the UK. As some of you may know the only thing that has been stopping me has been the pull with my husband not wanting to go. The marriage has been breaking down and yesterday he told me for the 100th time its not going to happen. But this time feels very different because i finally hear it now. We have no future and we have both accepted this. So things will be moving quite quickly. I end my job contract here in December and will making the move back to the UK then. I do not know where to start.. have so many things to sort out. I am in so much pain right now but at the same time relieved to be able to leave this nightmare behind me. I just want to thank everyone on BE for their support during my difficult time here in Canada. I will be starting a new chapter which will be hard but its best for me to do it now rather than later and accept the mistakes i have made in my life and move on.

Kerina,
The very best of luck to you in your return.
I know at first hand the difficulties that arise when one partner likes the adopted country, but the other doesn't...
Hope you have a good support system in place for when you come back to the UK.

Just wanted to wish you loads of good luck with whatever the future holds for you!

(((hugs))) to you it must be hard to have your marriage break down completely over this. Maybe you moving will prod him and he'll follow?
I hope your move goes smoothly.
I'd sell give away most stuff and pack a few suitcases (paying for the extra ones) and hop on the plane home.

Just want to say I hope everything works out for you

Hi KK,

So sorry it has come to this, I know we discussed this possibility but there was always that glimmer of hope that he would come round. I do wish you all the best in your move home. Unfortunately it has taken a painful event like the loss of someone close to you to make you realize that going home is the right decision. Its damn sad but if you are not happy now then it will only get worse and feelings of resentment will start to rise. There are a few of us on these forums with similar stories to tell. It has to be the worst situation ever!

It will be hard at first, but dont see it as a mistake, at least you tried.

All the best and if you need a chat, PM me.

I don't know you or your story but I just wanted to say that I am very sorry. The thought of a brand new start will hopefully fill you with courage and empowerment.

Again, not familiar with your situation but if it were me, I'd get rid of everything and hop on that plane as well. A new start is a new start. You don't need anything with memories attached.

Good luck to you.

Like DDL I'm not familiar with your story, but I'm sorry to hear of the sadness in your life.

I, too, spent a miserable few years in the Canada the second time we went, and counted the days 'til we could come home; this we did a little over 2 years ago. All I would say to you is you have not made "mistakes", you simply tried things that didn't work the way you wanted. If you hadn't tried you'd now be faced with the big "what if?" question. You have a whole new life ahead of you and you can make it work the way you want it to....grab it with both hands.

I wish you all the luck in the world and hope it all goes well and with as little pain as possible.

I too am with the others, get rid of your stuff that you wont miss and pack a few suitcases and do not look back, if you would like to PM me I am in a similar situation, i do not know your story either but I am in the US for 13 years and have so many regrets.
good luck, dont look back and be very strong..... you can do this and you will survive.

Hi Kerina

I sympathize as a marriage break-up whilst living abroad is a lonely experience BUT, as you rightly say, it has brought some clarity to your situation. At least you can now start shaping what your life will be like 6 months from now, a year, 5 years...I suspect that you weren't able to feel like that before?

I agree with the other posters - pack your bags and get out of there, there is no point in stretching things out now.

So sad i hope everthing works out for you

Kerina,

Best wishes for the future. You will have a brighter, happier future back home I'm sure. Breathe and look forward to better times ahead. Dream of country lanes, the pub with old friends, lots of places to visit on your door step, family life, busy days getting settled.....you won't have time to look back and I bet everyone you love will be a fantastic support. In hard times we need those we love so good move!

Good luck.

I have followed your story and i think you have done the best you could have done. Don't see it as a mistake. I wish you luck in your future and if its any consolation i think you are totally doing the right thing.

Jump on that plane and get back to your friends and family!

All the best.

Really sorry to hear about your current situation....things happen in life and sometimes at the time we don't know why but they are meant for a reason...who knows what the future holds but as long as you try and look forward with hope then you will be fine......good luck and stay strong , all the best.