We are moving back as the marriage is on verge of collapse but my head is filled with figures and lists and i cant take much more i dont know where to start, its all a mess!! Im also getting everyone opinions left right and center i feel like driving to the airport with my son and leaving all this shit behind!! People mean well, but im not about to inform all and sundry of our personal problems but people cant seem to accept the glossed over version we have given, im so tired of it all!

Oh dear, have some {{{hugs}}}

Pick someone on your support network that you can share with and see if you can get some help with it all. It must be really hard for you trying to do it all yourself.

I really hope that this is just a blip in your life and that things calm down for you but dont do anything silly (would you be allowed to just walk out with your son, for example?).

More {{{hugs}}}

Best to take a deep breath, step back and just do what has to be done. Wait until you're in a calmer place then you'll probably have the benefit of hindsight and clarity too. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks and in all honesty, it's not their life and they are not in your shoes.
Better to leave all the big decisions until after your move. See how you feel then. Good luck with it all. It will all work out in the end.

thankyou both for your lovely replies. Im just gonna take a step back for now and hopefully everything will become clearer!! Had a major row because i moved things on a bit today regarding shipping and other things but it has to be done!!

Hugs x x x x

Just ell people if they won't stop going on at you, i doubt you'll see them again. Either that or switch your phones off

Its very hard when someone you care about is going through this awful time. My friend is going through this and its very hard not to give advice, after all, noone knows what goes on in a marriage behind closed doors. I hope this lady will forgive her friends for offering advice, its only cause we care so much anc cant bear to see her so unhappy.

But, trying to be non-biased, you have to do what is right for you and your family, after all its better to come from a broken home than live in one (thanks Dr Phil for that one).

donna

No need for glossing over in this section. You can tell all of us - we are good 'sundry' and you can rant and vent in here as much as you need, and you will get lots of support and information.

Good luck with it all.

Have some time out on your own to sit down and think about what it is YOU want in your life and do what needs to be done in your own time. Ive been there where you are and I cant say I know how you feel but I know its not easy. Take Care of yourself and stay strong. Hope it all works out in the end for the best for you all. xoxo