Annoying
Apr 18th 2006, 5:28 am
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Re: Annoying
Originally Posted by jcapulet
I can really relate to this part Partystar...one of the many reasons I want to move to Canada where my hubby's family is. Originally, I was going to move to Canada, but it seemed better overall for him to move here. When he did, his family was sad but supported him 100%. And like you've mentioned, his family treats me like part of the family, and that's very important.
When I told my parents I was considering moving to Canada, I got all the emotional guilt trips they could sling at me. Even when my Mom clearly saw my point, she'd start it all over again. Interesting how my moving to another country means I "don't love" her.
Er...what about my happiness in life and wanting to live where I want to live?
I'm glad to hear your husband stood by you!
When I told my parents I was considering moving to Canada, I got all the emotional guilt trips they could sling at me. Even when my Mom clearly saw my point, she'd start it all over again. Interesting how my moving to another country means I "don't love" her.
Er...what about my happiness in life and wanting to live where I want to live?I'm glad to hear your husband stood by you!
What about the fact that he knew I was British when we got married, does that mean that he should automatically know that I want us to live in England, no it doesn't. I tried it here, it doesn't work for us, so we're going back to where we were perfectly happy. At the end of the day, we're both happy with the decision & that's just it, it's our decision, not hers. Parents!
Apr 18th 2006, 5:30 am
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Re: Annoying
Originally Posted by fatbrit
And you've gotta do your natz.
Apr 18th 2006, 5:37 am
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Re: Annoying
Originally Posted by Partystar
Not sure we'll bother with that, it'll take too long, we wanna be gone before that.
Apr 18th 2006, 5:40 am
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Re: Annoying
Originally Posted by fatbrit
It's a mistake! There's a post from a similar shuttlecock on here this very morning who regretted not doing it.
Apr 18th 2006, 5:47 am
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Re: Annoying
Originally Posted by Ray
Yup ..I agree ..do that just before you go ... It can really make a difference in the future
Apr 18th 2006, 5:54 am
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Re: Annoying
Originally Posted by Partystar
I agree it's worth doing, but I can't apply until I've had my GC for 3 years (right?), which will be January 2009 & I'll want to be back in England way before that, so that Tyler can be in school, so it's just not feasible.
A year or two of a US education at that age won't damage him that much!
Apr 18th 2006, 5:58 am
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Re: Annoying
Originally Posted by Partystar
Thanx mate! Yeah, my family supported us 100% when we moved here, never gave me guilt trips, they just said they would miss us, as I'm sure they knew it was hard for me, they made it as easy as they could for us. I guess it just pissed me off the way that MIL said, well you knew he was American when you married him, giving me the impression that it was automatically meant that I was supposed to give up my life & move to America, because he was American.
What about the fact that he knew I was British when we got married, does that mean that he should automatically know that I want us to live in England, no it doesn't. I tried it here, it doesn't work for us, so we're going back to where we were perfectly happy. At the end of the day, we're both happy with the decision & that's just it, it's our decision, not hers. Parents!
What about the fact that he knew I was British when we got married, does that mean that he should automatically know that I want us to live in England, no it doesn't. I tried it here, it doesn't work for us, so we're going back to where we were perfectly happy. At the end of the day, we're both happy with the decision & that's just it, it's our decision, not hers. Parents!
You can't make both sides of the family happy...either way, one side will be missing out (unfortunately). What's important is that it's a mutual decision between you and your hubby...and if the UK is where you think you'll be happiest, that's where you should be!
Apr 18th 2006, 7:36 am
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Re: Annoying
Originally Posted by fatbrit
A year or two of a US education at that age won't damage him that much!
Our plans for moving back home are full speed ahead now being as our Son's 4 years old, hubby's gave us his blessing to pull all the stop's out to start back home without him, he gets out of the Navy in July 07 and cant wait to get back to England
Apr 18th 2006, 7:41 am
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Re: Annoying
Originally Posted by britvic
That all deepens on where you are over here, all I will say is I dont want my Son being the odd one out, and thats nothing to do with me being English either Our plans for moving back home are full speed ahead now being as our Son's 4 years old, hubby's gave us his blessing to pull all the stop's out to start back home without him, he gets out of the Navy in July 07 and cant wait to get back to England
Our plans for moving back home are full speed ahead now being as our Son's 4 years old, hubby's gave us his blessing to pull all the stop's out to start back home without him, he gets out of the Navy in July 07 and cant wait to get back to England
Apr 18th 2006, 7:48 am
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Re: Annoying
Originally Posted by Partystar
Oh good for you Vic! I'll keep my fingers crossed that everything goes smoothly & we'll meet you there!!!
I bet you feel great with hubby 100% behind you, got to love them Yank's that will do it for us
Apr 18th 2006, 1:09 pm
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Re: Annoying
Originally Posted by Partystar
Thanx mate! Yeah, my family supported us 100% when we moved here, never gave me guilt trips, they just said they would miss us, as I'm sure they knew it was hard for me, they made it as easy as they could for us. I guess it just pissed me off the way that MIL said, well you knew he was American when you married him, giving me the impression that it was automatically meant that I was supposed to give up my life & move to America, because he was American.
What about the fact that he knew I was British when we got married, does that mean that he should automatically know that I want us to live in England, no it doesn't. I tried it here, it doesn't work for us, so we're going back to where we were perfectly happy. At the end of the day, we're both happy with the decision & that's just it, it's our decision, not hers. Parents!
What about the fact that he knew I was British when we got married, does that mean that he should automatically know that I want us to live in England, no it doesn't. I tried it here, it doesn't work for us, so we're going back to where we were perfectly happy. At the end of the day, we're both happy with the decision & that's just it, it's our decision, not hers. Parents!
Apr 18th 2006, 1:33 pm
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Re: Annoying
Originally Posted by Partystar
As always there is more than meets the eye. .
now I feel sorry more than ever for those two kids!!! Well sounds like no love will be lost if you will move but even if it is only for the kids sake let them know that they are always be welcome to visit...at least then they can not throw that in your face in the future.....good luck on your future plans
Apr 18th 2006, 1:51 pm
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Re: Annoying
Originally Posted by Sarah
Y'know, all this is good training about what NOT to do with your own children!
Apr 18th 2006, 2:11 pm
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Re: Annoying
Originally Posted by Partystar
Yeah, sorry about that, I have to go through my inbox.
Apr 19th 2006, 4:15 am
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Re: Annoying
Originally Posted by Sarah
Y'know, all this is good training about what NOT to do with your own children!
