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I would love to move back to the UK in case anything happens to my lovely husband.

I don't know why we bought 2 properties here, & not one in the UK

Wendy

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Still, at least you're looking on the bright side :D

Have you considered some anti-depression meds?

I take it the chances of selling property #2 in Spain are slight so you couldn't just flog it and buy a pad in London?

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[QUOTE=Cape Blue;8154500]Still, at least you're looking on the bright side :D

Have you considered some anti-depression meds?

I will not take anti-depression meds, I will only take vitamins

But thank you for your answer

Wendy

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Hi Wendy,

Something will happen to your lovely husband, just the same as it will for all of us.

It is the manner of that something, and the path to that something that makes the difference.

I prefer to have that path here in Spain in preference to the UK, but then again, I am me not you.

Davexf

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I am glad I have a property in the UK as well as in Spain. My OH would love to sell the UK property to release the cash but for me it is security. I would not stay in Spain if anything happened to him. Far too lonely. If there is anyway for you to sell one of your properties in Spain and buy something small in the UK that may help you.

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Is this a question?

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Im sure it was the right decision at the time. I'm sure if things had gone differently with the economy you might equally be saying I'm glad we bought two properties in Spain. Its a long term thing. You may be pleased you did it in time

Yeah ... I had one of those. Now my daughter lives there. :lol:

I think in time I'd consider selling here and renting instead so that things are slightly less complicated when I shuffle off etc :)

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[QUOTE=Wendy Nesbeth;8154518]Reminds me of the rhyme.

Doctor, doctor, will I die? Yes my child, and so will I.....

Why take vitamins? In a half balanced western diet you are unlikely to need them, and the word seems to be that even a slight overdose is far worse than not enough. Still, vitamin companies will continue to sell the stuff to people who basically don't need them.

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I'm sorry to hear that you feel like that but I find that is a really sad way to live, worrying that 'something' might happen to your husband. If 'something' did happen would having a house in the UK really be much of a comfort to you?

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Cheer up Wendy and try to think positively. Maybe you could sell one property and buy a small apartment in the UK. Meantime enjoy the quality time you have with your husband.

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Supposing you go first??? What would your husband want??

Jo xxx

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Hey i thought i was the one to upset and p888 people off.:lol:

Here is my advice.

1) Never listen to advice.

If you are curious, continue reading my advice,

2) Never listen to advice

3) Never listen to advice.

4) Never listen to advice.

5) Never listen to advice.

We have a pattern appearing, so my point being advice should not be listened too.

What i would recommend is encouragement, look after yourselves, as much as you can, the world isn`t as big as it feels sometimes and its amazing how much people can support you in times of need and crisis.

You`ll only realise this when or if it happens.

Try to look at issues not as challenges but projects, always have a plan B, take deep breaths and allow issues to wash over yourself.

Returning to the UK is not a big issue and can/will happen when you need it, it is after all just a flight away.

Try too live as much for today and worry about tomorrow after the sun has risen and you`ve had the first coffee.

Eat as many Vitamins as you like, what doesn`t kill you, will only make you unhappy, bitter and grumpy. Health nuts are usually manic depressives with really bad self esteem issues and lack social awareness.

Good luck:)

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However much we may try not to, I think we all occasionally think of Plan B in case we lose the partners we love. I sometimes rely on the statistics which clearly show that I should be the first to depart, but maybe that’s to still my conscience for not having made appropriate plans.

What can you do anyway? The sun’s out this morning, she’s going out to interpret at the hospital and I’m on my way to the bank and newsagent, but I’m going to wait for the sun to warm the place up a bit first.

But it could all go wrong in the next few minutes, we live in an earthquake zone.

There’s nothing you can do about fate, you can’t insure against it. I’m just hoping that this morning I make it to the little Spanish café for coffee and that the waitress with the bum will serve it. Should that be bun? Or both?

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To worry about such things is futile.
But if you insist, then I respectfully suggest that you get on with "losing" him right now, sell up and move back to the UK.
And then you'll be worry free!

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I find the thought of living without my OH not that much of an issue, I`m relatively young and I guess I`m in the generation that finds most marriages end within 10 yrs, most of my friends have divorced, so I`m quite detached.

In my experience of the older generation, my parents and an auntie, both lost through death there partners and both before openly discussed how there worlds would fall apart if the other died.

My auntie and uncle had been married for 65 yrs and I remember them as being inseparable, he died and she was upset, but still managed 15 yrs of a happy life without him.

My father died and my mother traveled, a lot, with friends from her younger years who had married gone there separate ways, but kept in touch and found that there husbands had either passed away of they divorced, they still in there 80`s holiday together once a year around Europe, last year was Cyprus, 2010 there lookin at Mallorca.

It may feel that your world will collapse and I`m sure it won`t/isn`t easy, but in time you will move onto another stage of life that could well be as happy as the past.

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Sorry you sound down at the moment Wendy.

Hope you are feeling more happier today.

I read some of your old posts and you have had some problems here, haven't you?

What options do you have ? Are you trying to sell one of your properties ? How is your Vernons health, is he OK?

:)

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Gooooogggle is your friend! My suggestion would be that before giving advice like that you tried a little research! Most people DON'T need vitamins, and the word is, even moderate doses for healthy normal people can do more harm than good.

An OD of vit D in children can be worse than rickets. There's other links too, that clearly point that taking vitamins can be a real minefield.

That'snot being a health nut, that'sjust about knowing a bit of science and having the wit to be able to apply it to everyday life.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/arti...ge-health.html


Scientists have issued a major health warning over vitamin tablets today.
They warned that taking some supplements regularly can lead to liver damage and birth defects. And they have called for urgent research into the side effects of the tablets, which are used by thousands of people across Britain.
In a study, half of those surveyed were found to take multivitamins and minerals.
"The bottom line is that we don't know for sure that they're benefiting from them," said Dr. J. Michael McGinnis, a senior scholar with the Institute of Medicine, who chaired the panel of U.S experts.
"In fact, we're concerned that some people may be getting too much of certain nutrients," he added.
The panel said that people assume that because vitamins and minerals are vital for health, that more is better.
Toxic at high levels
But some are toxic at high levels, including vitamin A and iron, and others are simply excreted in the urine.
Beta-carotene was even shown in a study to raise the risk of lung cancer in smokers.
For other vitamins, concern surrounded 'super dose' supplements that exceed recommended daily amounts. Taking too much niacin can damage the liver, and pregnant women who consume too much vitamin A could see birth defects in their babies, the research claims.
The scientists also warned that some vitamins can interact dangerously with prescription medications, and said that doctors should check what supplements their patients take.


Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/arti...#ixzz0ZOtRnvX1

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Thank you Vernon is okay, he is 81 & will be 82 next April, the reason we want to sell the flat with sea views in Los Altos Orihuela Costa, is because we need the money to buy a place in the UK, in case anything happened's to one of us.

I don't drive & have agoraphobia, so I could not live in Spain on my own.

Thank you for your concern

Wendy

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It sounds nice.

Your actually in a good position, having two properties gives you more flexibility.

I wouldn`t worry too much about the market place, houses are selling, you never know you could be sorted in the New Year.

I hope I`m as brave as you guys in my 80`s.

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I am only 67, my lovely Vernon is 81 & we have been married for 41 years.

Wendy

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Now that you have posted more details, it seems to me that ideally you should consider moving into local sheltered accommodation where your obvious needs would be met.

If you have difficulties in selling your properties, then under your circumstances there are sensible schemes for remortgaging (equity release) to provide you both with ample funds for a decent life.

Realistically, you couldn’t return to the UK and find the same solutions, unless you sold one or both of your properties in Spain first and that would be difficult at present.

I’m sorry for my earlier post about the earthquakes, I had no idea of your actual circumstances.

I wish you all the best.

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There is no M & S Food hall here, but I know what you mean

Regards

Wendy

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I know someone who recently lost their spanish home through one of these "sensible" schemes:eek:

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Very good point made there Jacky I would strongly advise anyone to steer well away from such schemes and look for alternatives.

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What are the complications you would expect when you "shuffle off" with regards to owning your property vs. renting it? I was always under the impression that as long you ensured everything was above board and paper work was in order then there should be no issues with owning property and this passing to next of kin etc.. when the time comes? (this subject is probably a whole new forum post in itself!)

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I mean I wont have any money or property in Spain. Its OK here in Valencia when it passes to a spouse, but I wouldnt like my daughter left with the problem of having to sort a property out over here. Having to find the money to pay the IHT on the property before its sold, being ripped off by lawyers etc etc :)