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Re: Is it just where i live?!
Aw, I quite like you on the soapbox rosemary :D
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Re: Is it just where i live?!
Originally Posted by Keri2323
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Aw, I quite like you on the soapbox rosemary :D
Most of these big brave violent teenagers are scared stiff inside but will never show it. Intensive work is needed just to get through the outer shell and then to see the changes in them as they begin to realise that they are worthwhile people and can be valued is astounding but there are never enough resources to help them so we have this horrible situation occurring all to often. Rosemary |
Re: Is it just where i live?!
I totally agree with you. A little love and attention, feeling of worth can break all boundaries and the importance of a father figure is immense.
Coming from a violent upbringing, wont go in tyo details, I know it set me back at least 20 years of my life. I am only just in the place I need to be mentally, and thats because I have learned to love and forgive. I cant however tolerate bullies. |
Re: Is it just where i live?!
Originally Posted by Keri2323
(Post 4634360)
I totally agree with you. A little love and attention, feeling of worth can break all boundaries and the importance of a father figure is immense.
Coming from a violent upbringing, wont go in tyo details, I know it set me back at least 20 years of my life. I am only just in the place I need to be mentally, and thats because I have learned to love and forgive. I cant however tolerate bullies. Well done for overcoming your own difficulties. Rosemary |
Re: Is it just where i live?!
:wub: Thank you x
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Re: Is it just where i live?!
Originally Posted by The Oddities
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Most of these big brave violent teenagers are scared stiff inside but will never show it.
I've worked with teens myself and its a fantastic experience seeing them grow in confidence as they learn that trying and failing isn't a bad thing, and that being one of the in-crowd isn't the only aim in life. They gain a whole new self-confidence as they realise its okay to get things wrong or seem stupid, and as long as they learn from it :) As I think almost everyone knows instinctively, what most people need is good strong close role models (not so-called celebrities). Unfortunately many of those seem to be diluted by a cynical received wisdom, such as teachers, police, elders of the communities. Sounds like Keri will be remembered as a strong role model by the lad that he pegged - lets hope the lad becomes a boxer! |
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See my post at:http://britishexpats.com/forum/showt...=439331&page=4
I know it's not a real threat to my well being as such, but its violence/vandalism all the same. I guess that I'm not ready to accept the hug-a-hoodie mentality though. Maybe that's my fault or my ignorance I don't know. I don't know what would've become of me if I hadn't joined the Forces at 16, but I can't ever imagine I'd have grown up being violent and abusive to all and sundry. All the fights I've ever had have at least been 'fair'. Someone said that Bullies are the Bullied and I can see at least to some extent how that works. But.... and call me old fashioned... I still firmly believe that there is a place for corporal and capital punishment in the UK. I'll now standby and await your wrath;) |
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I agree in a way, I think for some its just too far gone, you cant mollycoddle these kids at a certain point, they have to grow up themselves and accept they are being arseholes and inflicting mental and physical pain on people.
This has to stop at a young age, and Im a firm believer that the parents are largely to blame. However you look at it. I am a dad too, before anyone says i dont know what Im talking about. I dont feel good for hitting the chav bully but I can live with myself for two reasons. 1) He was inflicting pain and fear on one of my most beautiful friends, the kindest man I know, so I just wanted that to stop. 2) If he thinks twice, even on one occassion about doing it again, then that would be a big bonus. Oooh, serious thread, but very readable :thumbsup: |
Re: Is it just where i live?!
But I think you're bang-on Keri lad:thumbup:
Most Chavs are like computers...... They just need someone to punch the information into them;) |
Re: Is it just where i live?!
Originally Posted by derbyflan
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But I think you're bang-on Keri lad:thumbup:
Most Chavs are like computers...... They just need someone to punch the information into them;) |
Re: Is it just where i live?!
Fill yer boots:)
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Many thanks man, been feeling a little down today, but this site always cheers me up :thumbup:
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Re: Is it just where i live?!
Originally Posted by Keri2323
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If you give me his description, I will go and %&^%%(* punch him :curse: :frown:
I hate this stuff, its bullying at its highest level. I was walking in town the other day with my guitarist friend who is really mellow, a true pacifist, long hair, the hippy look and is only 17. I went to the cash machine and he was on a bench when this chav came up, grabbed him by the chest (His clothes) and said if he didnt give him some fags he would headbutt him. My friend doesnt even smoke. Im not ashamed to say that without hesitation I left my card in the machine walked up to this bloke (A 25 year old or so chav scum) and hit him clean on the jaw, then watched him sprawl around for 3 minutes in front of his friends (Who did nothing) trying to work out where he was. I am a wannabe hippy but Im also an ex boxer who has some serious issues with bullies. I really feel there are times you have no choice to fight fire with fire, how can you negotiate with an idiot like that? :frown: Chris |
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:o I think we would all do it :thumbup:
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Re: Is it just where i live?!
Originally Posted by featherbum
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Went to the Pigtown (swindon/swinedown) town centre today.
Half term... Teenage chav walking in front of me... looked like a criminal in the making. Anyway 2 young girls are shopping and the chav jumped in front of them to simply shout at them and scared them, they ran off. He then THREW the bottle he was drinking out of to (or is it at?? never leart those well) another girl, hitting her on the head. She screamed in pain and ran off. I actually felt sad:( and angry :curse: but then if you go up to them and say anything its likely he will punch you or something! Do you see stuff like this happen where you guys live? Just wondering if have a case of the rose tinted spectacles..... :blink: I never saw this kind of stuff where i lived in Spain... and after this event i had the worst case of homesickness all afternoon :( |
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