I understand your situation, as a couple we are the same. With due respect to my wife, I do all the 'official' things. We all have a 'safe place' for important docs etc. We therefore have a 'Dead folder' in our file box (excuse my black humour) which is a complete guide / set of documents / will copies and Policies to not only my wife, but our kids in case we both die at the same time. Our kids know thats where to go,they have been shown it on visits. Obviously, no pin numbers etc., keep those separate. Peace of mind.

Totally agree, I could not tell the funeral director my name, just sat there looking at him as though he had asked me a really difficult question.

Rosemary

In the process of (slowly) putting together this type of list myself. In the depths of the night two things happen:-
1. I think of something to add
2. The need seems to become more urgent as thoughts of my mortality come into my mind during this period.
Am I alone in this or weird or what? Wonder sometimes.
Thanks again.

Without going into detail, I dealt with many deaths during my working life including on a personal level the death of my first wife some 17 years ago. Although it wasn't unexpected I know what I had to go through and I am a cool, disciplined organised type. Or at least I used to be!

That aspect of your make up will recede if you are settled out here. I am glad it has for me to be honest, and I know what you mean, I was a Police Accident Investigator for several years (too many I now appreciate).
You will still 'kick into gear' in a crisis, but it will be in a different way. That was sad about your wife, I am sorry.

Like I said, do it, tick all the boxes,lodge it and get on with living.

I think we have quite a bit in common. BTW At a station where I used to work many years ago there was a radio operator we nicknamed Lurch or, coincidentally, Lurchio!
Not you is it Dave?


Also, thanks for your condolences.

No, luckily I have never been 'inside' working and would have lacked the patience to be a Radio Operator! I was given 'Lurch' on my first day (6'6"), and it stuck for 30 years. Could have been worse, as you probably know............. Only got softened to Lurchio after 'Up Pompeii' with Frankie Howard!!!!!

Someone posted earlier that they picked Avalon because the plan covers UK also.Just had to look at my Golden Leaves plan.That states Spain & UK(or I think you can pick a 2nd.alternative country)plus they plant a sapling.So either company seem much the same unless like myself,you like the idea of a new tree!