Advice please on problem in comedor.
Feb 11th 2011 | 12:15 pm
#76
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Re: Advice please on problem in comedor.
When I was a child I was part of a large family and money was scarce, although I did not know it at the time. We ate everything that was put before us and we ate it quickly in case there were any seconds on offer. We did not have the luxury of refusing to eat something because we did not like it.
When I grew up and had a family of my own I made sure that they had an opportunity to try a great variety of foods with different tastes and textures so that they could decide for themselves which they genuinely liked or disliked. My children still have foods that they dislike but at least they have tried them on regular basis so that they can make an informed decision now they are adults.
For myself up until a year ago I liked most foods and was willing to try anything new; but I still did not eat certain foods that I disliked as a child but ate out of necessity.
One day last year, at random, I decided and announced to my wife that I now liked all foods. Guess what, all the foods that I disliked before I actually did enjoy eating, peaches, nectarines, apricots, green beans et al.
Palates and tastes change as we mature, things that we vehemently disliked in the past may now be things that we may now enjoy eating. We should not be afraid to re visit foods that we previously disliked.
A lot of people have lost/forgotten the art of cooking from scratch and, because of their circumstances, rely on fast food or ready meals. Unfortunately these foodstuffs are usually laden with extra sugar, salt, & fats.
Equally unfortunately these are the type of foods that give our bodies instant gratification and taste 'good'. In reality they dull our palates and add excess pounds.
With a bit of planning and with certain fresh ingredients always kept in our cupboards, fresh nutritious and tasty meals can be prepared within 30 minutes of returning home. I speak as someone new to cooking because in my previous marriage my OH did all the cooking whilst I was the sole breadwinner.
As parents, perhaps we have a duty to prepare our children for an independent life and not just a carbon copy of our own. Please forgive me if I sound condescending, it is not my intention. Faddy eating amongst children is a problem faced by most parents at some time or other. For me there was no other choice, eat what was there or go hungry. For most children these days there is usually an alternative of crisps, biscuits, pizza etc.
Maybe one way forward is bribery ie you can have some of your favorite food if you at least eat some of the food that you 'dislike'.
There is no easy answer. If your child is responsive to a reasoned argument you may be able to bring about a cause and effect solution. Explain to her that she should 'Play the game' and eat a little so that it appeases the people around her. At the same time you could put a little 'comfort food' in her bag that she can privately eat later.
Peer pressure is a powerful thing and should not be underestimated but it can be manipulated with a game plan. It would probably please your daughter if she could fool the adults and her peers that she was starting to like 'their food' but only pretended to like it.
If the ultimate reward is the playtime she likes then maybe she can play the little game of 'make believe you like the food' beforehand.
Sorry for the length of this post.
When I grew up and had a family of my own I made sure that they had an opportunity to try a great variety of foods with different tastes and textures so that they could decide for themselves which they genuinely liked or disliked. My children still have foods that they dislike but at least they have tried them on regular basis so that they can make an informed decision now they are adults.
For myself up until a year ago I liked most foods and was willing to try anything new; but I still did not eat certain foods that I disliked as a child but ate out of necessity.
One day last year, at random, I decided and announced to my wife that I now liked all foods. Guess what, all the foods that I disliked before I actually did enjoy eating, peaches, nectarines, apricots, green beans et al.
Palates and tastes change as we mature, things that we vehemently disliked in the past may now be things that we may now enjoy eating. We should not be afraid to re visit foods that we previously disliked.
A lot of people have lost/forgotten the art of cooking from scratch and, because of their circumstances, rely on fast food or ready meals. Unfortunately these foodstuffs are usually laden with extra sugar, salt, & fats.
Equally unfortunately these are the type of foods that give our bodies instant gratification and taste 'good'. In reality they dull our palates and add excess pounds.
With a bit of planning and with certain fresh ingredients always kept in our cupboards, fresh nutritious and tasty meals can be prepared within 30 minutes of returning home. I speak as someone new to cooking because in my previous marriage my OH did all the cooking whilst I was the sole breadwinner.
As parents, perhaps we have a duty to prepare our children for an independent life and not just a carbon copy of our own. Please forgive me if I sound condescending, it is not my intention. Faddy eating amongst children is a problem faced by most parents at some time or other. For me there was no other choice, eat what was there or go hungry. For most children these days there is usually an alternative of crisps, biscuits, pizza etc.
Maybe one way forward is bribery ie you can have some of your favorite food if you at least eat some of the food that you 'dislike'.
There is no easy answer. If your child is responsive to a reasoned argument you may be able to bring about a cause and effect solution. Explain to her that she should 'Play the game' and eat a little so that it appeases the people around her. At the same time you could put a little 'comfort food' in her bag that she can privately eat later.
Peer pressure is a powerful thing and should not be underestimated but it can be manipulated with a game plan. It would probably please your daughter if she could fool the adults and her peers that she was starting to like 'their food' but only pretended to like it.
If the ultimate reward is the playtime she likes then maybe she can play the little game of 'make believe you like the food' beforehand.
Sorry for the length of this post.
Feb 11th 2011 | 2:20 pm
#77
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From: The Woolpack
Re: Advice please on problem in comedor.
Don't worry.
T melon twsted plank liked to beat kids.
I didn't, and got slated for it. Slap dam kiddy, cchop chop..c
T melon twsted plank liked to beat kids.
I didn't, and got slated for it. Slap dam kiddy, cchop chop..c
Feb 11th 2011 | 9:23 pm
#78
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Re: Advice please on problem in comedor.
Absoloutely, whatever freak..!! DMY..
If you think it's amusing that you lose an argument fair enough.
You is like proper goof.. Pritt stick is too good a name for you..
Maybe 'Childslapper me loves givin dem a whack'.. But only if they don't eat rubbish spanish food..
:b link: Dude, you're a crank.. Anyway, I'm off this spin as you've taken it to wierd extremes, I can't communicate with someone who thinks it amusing to toy with someones enotions over the absoloute disgust of slapping a child in the FACE..!! Remember where this started? I didn't like the fact that a kiddy got slapped for not eating.. And now you are mocking that.. How nice of you.. I'd so like to lend you a bowl of sugar if you were my neighbour..
All smiles..
If you think it's amusing that you lose an argument fair enough.
You is like proper goof.. Pritt stick is too good a name for you..
Maybe 'Childslapper me loves givin dem a whack'.. But only if they don't eat rubbish spanish food..
:b link: Dude, you're a crank.. Anyway, I'm off this spin as you've taken it to wierd extremes, I can't communicate with someone who thinks it amusing to toy with someones enotions over the absoloute disgust of slapping a child in the FACE..!! Remember where this started? I didn't like the fact that a kiddy got slapped for not eating.. And now you are mocking that.. How nice of you.. I'd so like to lend you a bowl of sugar if you were my neighbour.. All smiles..Now you are being threatening, having a go at me on other threads and sending insulting PM's.
Let it go man. Your obsession to prove that I think slapping children is OK has gone off the scale and you're making yourself look a fool.
I DON'T THINK SLAPPING ANY CHILD IS OK. Why oh why are you trying to convince ME that I'm a liar, that's never going to happen.
We both agree slapping children is wrong, what's the matter with you man, you are losing the plot and now you are getting creepy
I really,really have nothing more to say to you on this and please don't hide behind PM's to continue this vendetta
