Advice please - funeral
 

We have just had a telephone call from the kids school saying that their caretaker died of a heart attack yesterday. The funeral is tomorrow and the school is closing for the day as a mark of respect. Is there anything I should know as regards protocol? For instance do I send flowers; should we go to the funeral; send a letter of condolence. I just do not know what the correct thing to do is. The school only has 85 children so they would be "missed" if they did not go to the funeral and should have done. I do not want to upset anyone by doing the wrong thing. Advice gratefully received.

Re: Advice please - funeral
 

I would say that unless you knew him personally and were invited to the funeral I would do nothing. The school's closed, so the school are showing respect to him and the family.
Don't you have another childs parent you could call to see what they are going to do?

Don't take what I said as gospel, but if a work colleague died I would say send flowers etc, but this is a school employee so not someone you had any acquaintanceship with I would think.
:)

Re: Advice please - funeral
 

your area may be different.
go to the funeral.you may find that most of the community are going. only attend while the coffin is going to the church and wait untill mass finishes.thats you done.you have shown your respect.the coffin will continue with the family and relitives to the buerial.I dont know about your area but here you just go in normal every day day clothes and no flowers.

Re: Advice please - funeral
 

If you meet any family or close friends of the deceased. The phrase to use is.

Te acompaño en el sentimiento.