Originally Posted by Charismatic

I'm not as practical or easy to live with in many regards . A man should be a good provider anyway, in many regards the upkeep of a relationship tends to fall on women once the initial courting is over and men tend to move towards a material contribution.

There is no silver bullet for issues of the bank account.

I guess from a personal perspective I've always just hoped that the person who I fell in love with would have similar financial goals to me and the ability to sit down to talk about a situation calmly (although the latter may require me to marry a man ).

Whats on your mind then Squirty?

Originally Posted by Squirty Cream

This whole thing is really important - money can be the cause of a lot of strife and I want to advise my offspring of what they could expect within partnerships (when the time comes). My own experience is not helpful to them at all.

There's just been a lot of stuff going on and it's making me question all sorts of things. I'm concerned that I may not have the best answers, or be the best example , or be able to point them in the right direction - so I'm trying to remedy that.

Originally Posted by Squirty Cream

This whole thing is really important - money can be the cause of a lot of strife and I want to advise my offspring of what they could expect within partnerships (when the time comes). My own experience is not helpful to them at all.

There's just been a lot of stuff going on and it's making me question all sorts of things. I'm concerned that I may not have the best answers, or be the best example , or be able to point them in the right direction - so I'm trying to remedy that.

Originally Posted by Roadking

SC, sometimes we only learn through mistakes, so your own experiences are probably very valid.

If I had life to live over, jeez, where to start. No joint bank accounts, no joint ownership of assets and definitely ALL debts in joint names. but I could have a slightly skewed view of things.

Now, everything is great. With all joint savings and bank accounts, sad really; just goes to prove we don't learn.

Did I mention I was BEME Man of the Year?

Originally Posted by Spugsy

I'm sure you'll be fine pet, and anyway, if your girls meet someone nice who they fall in love with, and that lad feels the same way then who gives a flying **** about money?

You'd be better advicing them on relationships rather than worrying about money for gods sake.

Originally Posted by Squirty Cream

Thanks for your encouraging words.

CONGRATULATIONS - that's just fantastic - you really are BEME Man of the Year and I want your autographed photo. Will your Mum put an announcement in the local press back in your hometown?

When do we all get to celebrate?

Originally Posted by Squirty Cream

Do you really think so? OK then, I'd better get Charismatic to recommend one of those self-help relationship books!

Or perhaps I should just get everyone on here involved when the time comes that I'm faced with some challenges of a relationship nature - reckon we could guide my kids between us all!

Originally Posted by Roadking

How old are the kids. Now I'm famous I'm looking for groupies.

Originally Posted by Squirty Cream

I won't mention the word 'groupie' to Mr Sinky, he's 21.

The girlies - be warned they have sharp tongues that could cut you to the quick! Tattoo Girl is 19; Audrey H is 17; the Little One is 14. They are usually very underwhelmed although the Rugby 7s mightily impressed them!

Originally Posted by Squirty Cream

I won't mention the word 'groupie' to Mr Sinky, he's 21.

The girlies - be warned they have sharp tongues that could cut you to the quick! Tattoo Girl is 19; Audrey H is 17; the Little One is 14. They are usually very underwhelmed although the Rugby 7s mightily impressed them!

Originally Posted by annacarna

ha ha ha sharped tongues is a nice way of putting it

RK they are absolute stunners, I can vouch for that

Originally Posted by Roadking

Aaah, my type of groupies. Now all we need to do is the get the yummie mummies to do a bit of convincing, and I have my adoring fan base.


Not that I need any help, of course.

Originally Posted by annacarna

um and what will you give the yummie mummy in return, any good at DIY, gardening, you send u needed a job pet, there u go

Originally Posted by bimcnorth

He should pay for everything of course, what a stupid question...The missus needs any extra money to spend on designer jewelry and stuff.

Us blokes don´t need money anyway..A £50 note for beer, footy on the telly and we´re happy.