Domestic Helpers
Jul 10th 2012, 11:18 pm
#46
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Re: Domestic Helpers
Yes...the British expats who sneer at people for having maids, yet who have no qualms driving fancy cars or wearing expensive clothes and watches/jewelry or spending a thousand AED on a single night out. A maid can be a status symbol but so can lots of other things. It's just easier to pick on maids.
Jul 10th 2012, 11:18 pm
#47
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Re: Domestic Helpers
I think the point is not about a maid as a status symbol but people using them to quite frankly do the work they should do with their children.
Lets pop a few rugrats out, the maid will look after them whilst we head off to saffron for brunch, sit by the pool etc etc.....
Lets pop a few rugrats out, the maid will look after them whilst we head off to saffron for brunch, sit by the pool etc etc.....
Or is anyone suggesting that children should be the preserve of the rich, where the wife doesn't have to work?
Jul 10th 2012, 11:22 pm
#48
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Re: Domestic Helpers
But that isn't the reality for everyone. Many, many families out here rely on maids to look after the children whilst the mothers work. Not everyone's husband earns enough for the mother to stay at home.
Or is anyone suggesting that children should be the preserve of the rich, where the wife doesn't have to work?
Or is anyone suggesting that children should be the preserve of the rich, where the wife doesn't have to work?
I also don't see why having children means you have to spend all your spare time with them. It's healthy for a couple to have time together, without the children. Doesn't mean parents love them less, just that they realise that they have a life too.
Jul 10th 2012, 11:27 pm
#49
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Re: Domestic Helpers
But that isn't the reality for everyone. Many, many families out here rely on maids to look after the children whilst the mothers work. Not everyone's husband earns enough for the mother to stay at home.
Or is anyone suggesting that children should be the preserve of the rich, where the wife doesn't have to work?
Or is anyone suggesting that children should be the preserve of the rich, where the wife doesn't have to work?
I was not talking day to day, the point was that people take their maids to the pools, restaurants even home with them. These are times the family should be together as a unit and the parents being parents. I fully understand during a working week with 2 working parents a maid is a necessity without the help of family around, but people still have stay at home mums and a Maid!
Jul 11th 2012, 12:34 am
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Re: Domestic Helpers
I have no issue with a nanny looking after the children whilst both parents are out to work, and of course couples should have some non-children time together (that's what babysitters are for). My issue is where parents devolve responsibility to the nanny almost entirely.
Stay at home mums with one child and a full time nanny (I know of at least one), that's just silly. And, if parents are too tired to look after their children when they get home from work or at weekends they're still to tired or their priorities are elsewhere, then I question both their work-life balance and also their commitment to true parenthood.
Stay at home mums with one child and a full time nanny (I know of at least one), that's just silly. And, if parents are too tired to look after their children when they get home from work or at weekends they're still to tired or their priorities are elsewhere, then I question both their work-life balance and also their commitment to true parenthood.
Jul 11th 2012, 1:01 am
#51
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Re: Domestic Helpers
my idea of easy parenthood..
artificial insemination
surrogate mother
nanny til 6
boarding school until old enough to go and earn a living
artificial insemination
surrogate mother
nanny til 6
boarding school until old enough to go and earn a living
Jul 11th 2012, 1:03 am
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Jul 11th 2012, 1:15 am
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Re: Domestic Helpers
I think some people forget that moving overseas can mean you leave behind a support structure of family and friends who are happy to help out.
I also don't see why having children means you have to spend all your spare time with them. It's healthy for a couple to have time together, without the children. Doesn't mean parents love them less, just that they realise that they have a life too.
I also don't see why having children means you have to spend all your spare time with them. It's healthy for a couple to have time together, without the children. Doesn't mean parents love them less, just that they realise that they have a life too.
Jul 11th 2012, 1:34 am
#55
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Re: Domestic Helpers
they can stay at the school during holidays darling 
Fortunately I don't have children, I will be checking myself out when the time comes, no care home for me darling
Jul 11th 2012, 2:40 am
#56
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Re: Domestic Helpers
biggest myth ever...spending time with your kids is 'fun'...
Jul 11th 2012, 5:24 am
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Re: Domestic Helpers
Do the kids who are raised by maids respect the maids? Do they see them as part of the family (assuming the maid essentially was their mother) ?
