Thinking of going home
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As the title says we are thinking of returning to the UK but at the same time cant help thinking that we havent given it long enough, we have been in Adelaide for nearly 18 months and to be honest we are both bored, first 12 months we were busy sorting out house, jobs, friends etc but this last few months have really got to me and hubby, but at the same time cant help thinking that if we return would be regret it.
Anyone else gone through this and returned and not regretted it or returned and knew that they had made the wrong choice.
Its dosnt help that I have 2 children still in the UK my 18 year old daughter is over with us and she is the same as us doesnt love it but doesnt hate it either.
I need a crystal ball
Anyone else gone through this and returned and not regretted it or returned and knew that they had made the wrong choice.
Its dosnt help that I have 2 children still in the UK my 18 year old daughter is over with us and she is the same as us doesnt love it but doesnt hate it either.
I need a crystal ball
But if you are bored now, after 18 months, I do not see why you are going to stop being bored in another year or two. The chances are that you will get more bored, not less.
What might happen is that you will get very used to be here as time goes by; which can create the illusion that you are settled and content when in fact you have just kind of resigned yourself to it, which is something very different. It is easy to confuse being familiar with a place and being actually happy there.
For me personally, and logically speaking too, boredom is likely to increase rather than decrease.
Australia is, in my view, quite dull. It is perfectly pleasant mostly, which is perhaps part of why people like it so much (less dodgy areas that need avoiding and so on) but partially because it is so ''pleasant'', it is also very ''flat''. It doesn't have any sparkle to it; it just plods along with nothing much going on.
I have likened life in Australia to sitting right at the back at a gig; the action is a long way off and you can't see the performers on stage without recourse to the screens at the side. You kind of get the sense the people in the standing section near the stage are a little less comfortable than you, but they are having a lot more fun.
#17
There is no such thing as a ''crystal ball'' (obviously!) and unfortunately you just have to make the best decision you can right now. It is very hard (I know, believe me) to do this because moving countries is much, much bigger than just changing jobs or moving towns. Decisions are a lot harder to reverse and involve a lot more people and a wider range of issues/considerations.
But if you are bored now, after 18 months, I do not see why you are going to stop being bored in another year or two. The chances are that you will get more bored, not less.
What might happen is that you will get very used to be here as time goes by; which can create the illusion that you are settled and content when in fact you have just kind of resigned yourself to it, which is something very different. It is easy to confuse being familiar with a place and being actually happy there.
For me personally, and logically speaking too, boredom is likely to increase rather than decrease.
Australia is, in my view, quite dull. It is perfectly pleasant mostly, which is perhaps part of why people like it so much (less dodgy areas that need avoiding and so on) but partially because it is so ''pleasant'', it is also very ''flat''. It doesn't have any sparkle to it; it just plods along with nothing much going on.
I have likened life in Australia to sitting right at the back at a gig; the action is a long way off and you can't see the performers on stage without recourse to the screens at the side. You kind of get the sense the people in the standing section near the stage are a little less comfortable than you, but they are having a lot more fun.
But if you are bored now, after 18 months, I do not see why you are going to stop being bored in another year or two. The chances are that you will get more bored, not less.
What might happen is that you will get very used to be here as time goes by; which can create the illusion that you are settled and content when in fact you have just kind of resigned yourself to it, which is something very different. It is easy to confuse being familiar with a place and being actually happy there.
For me personally, and logically speaking too, boredom is likely to increase rather than decrease.
Australia is, in my view, quite dull. It is perfectly pleasant mostly, which is perhaps part of why people like it so much (less dodgy areas that need avoiding and so on) but partially because it is so ''pleasant'', it is also very ''flat''. It doesn't have any sparkle to it; it just plods along with nothing much going on.
I have likened life in Australia to sitting right at the back at a gig; the action is a long way off and you can't see the performers on stage without recourse to the screens at the side. You kind of get the sense the people in the standing section near the stage are a little less comfortable than you, but they are having a lot more fun.
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You need to remember that a lot of Brits who are still in the UK will tell you to stay in Australia because that is what Brits do; we moan about the UK like there's no tomorrow and we believe the tabloid media absolutely. We are a self-deprecating bunch generally and Brits find it hard to sing Britain's praises in that context.
And you also need to remember that a lot of Brits living in Australia will tell you that you are an idiot to consider going back to the UK because their decision to live in Australia is belittled by another Brit turning around and going "this joint bores the arse off me''. That upsets them because they are happy in their smug little world where clever Brits move to Australia/NZ/Canada. If you question the greatness of Australia you are, in their tiny minds, questioning the greatness of them.
And you also need to remember that a lot of Brits living in Australia will tell you that you are an idiot to consider going back to the UK because their decision to live in Australia is belittled by another Brit turning around and going "this joint bores the arse off me''. That upsets them because they are happy in their smug little world where clever Brits move to Australia/NZ/Canada. If you question the greatness of Australia you are, in their tiny minds, questioning the greatness of them.
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We've only been here since end of 2008 ourselves (not long some people may say to know but going with our gut feeling) and although life here has been good, we have decide that we prefer living in the UK so will be back in Weymouth by Christmas, and Australia will go back to being what it has been in the past a great place to come on holiday. Since we made the decision feel so calm.
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We've only been here since end of 2008 ourselves (not long some people may say to know but going with our gut feeling) and although life here has been good, we have decide that we prefer living in the UK so will be back in Weymouth by Christmas, and Australia will go back to being what it has been in the past a great place to come on holiday. Since we made the decision feel so calm.
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From: Somerset

Weymouth is great. But it hasn't changed much.
We've just moved back from Perth to Yeovil after 5 years.
We have made the effort to do some great walks along the South coast every weekend and I must say Portland is greatly under rated as an area of outstanding natural beauty.
Spent last Sunday walking along the cliff face to Portland Bill, taking in some fantastic scenery and seals swimming off the rocks.
If you can can get over the weather thing Britain is great. (Don't believe the tabloids - mind you they are just as bad in Australia)
Mind you Australia has a lot going for it as well.
If you are like us you will be happy to be back but miss lots of things back in Australia.
I consider myself privileged to be able to pick and choose where I live in what I consider the 2 best countries in the world....
We've just moved back from Perth to Yeovil after 5 years.
We have made the effort to do some great walks along the South coast every weekend and I must say Portland is greatly under rated as an area of outstanding natural beauty.
Spent last Sunday walking along the cliff face to Portland Bill, taking in some fantastic scenery and seals swimming off the rocks.
If you can can get over the weather thing Britain is great. (Don't believe the tabloids - mind you they are just as bad in Australia)
Mind you Australia has a lot going for it as well.
If you are like us you will be happy to be back but miss lots of things back in Australia.
I consider myself privileged to be able to pick and choose where I live in what I consider the 2 best countries in the world....
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Weymouth is great. But it hasn't changed much.
We've just moved back from Perth to Yeovil after 5 years.
We have made the effort to do some great walks along the South coast every weekend and I must say Portland is greatly under rated as an area of outstanding natural beauty.
Spent last Sunday walking along the cliff face to Portland Bill, taking in some fantastic scenery and seals swimming off the rocks.
If you can can get over the weather thing Britain is great. (Don't believe the tabloids - mind you they are just as bad in Australia)
Mind you Australia has a lot going for it as well.
If you are like us you will be happy to be back but miss lots of things back in Australia.
I consider myself privileged to be able to pick and choose where I live in what I consider the 2 best countries in the world....
We've just moved back from Perth to Yeovil after 5 years.
We have made the effort to do some great walks along the South coast every weekend and I must say Portland is greatly under rated as an area of outstanding natural beauty.
Spent last Sunday walking along the cliff face to Portland Bill, taking in some fantastic scenery and seals swimming off the rocks.
If you can can get over the weather thing Britain is great. (Don't believe the tabloids - mind you they are just as bad in Australia)
Mind you Australia has a lot going for it as well.
If you are like us you will be happy to be back but miss lots of things back in Australia.
I consider myself privileged to be able to pick and choose where I live in what I consider the 2 best countries in the world....
Ahhh Portland Bill, used to cycle down from Southwell as a kid and spent most of the summer holidays there, swimming and chatting up the grockles, bliss!! Now you're making me want to go home
#23
Yes miss Portland as well, used to work at Southwell Business Park and used to love the drive to and from work
#24
Well we have talked and talked and have decided to head home, not going to go until later on next year as we have got house to sell, dog to sort out and money to save but now we have made the decision it does feel better, we are going to enjoy what time we have left here and try and visit as many places that we can.
Dont regret coming here as if we hadnt tried it we would always be wondering what if, Australia is a nice place and does have some lovely places, but long term its not for us.
So for us its back to good old Weymouth
Dont regret coming here as if we hadnt tried it we would always be wondering what if, Australia is a nice place and does have some lovely places, but long term its not for us.
So for us its back to good old Weymouth
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Well we have talked and talked and have decided to head home, not going to go until later on next year as we have got house to sell, dog to sort out and money to save but now we have made the decision it does feel better, we are going to enjoy what time we have left here and try and visit as many places that we can.
Dont regret coming here as if we hadnt tried it we would always be wondering what if, Australia is a nice place and does have some lovely places, but long term its not for us.
So for us its back to good old Weymouth
Dont regret coming here as if we hadnt tried it we would always be wondering what if, Australia is a nice place and does have some lovely places, but long term its not for us.
So for us its back to good old Weymouth
I have been in the UK on a 3 month reccie and fly back to Adelaide on Sunday. But it won't be for good. I will be returning to the UK just as soon as I can sell my house. I know where I belong.
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I loved Adaliade was there for some time and would love to move back but then I travelled alot whilst there and I really enjoyed all of that to.
I cried when I had to come back to the UK.
Sonya
I cried when I had to come back to the UK.
Sonya
#28
As the title says we are thinking of returning to the UK but at the same time cant help thinking that we havent given it long enough, we have been in Adelaide for nearly 18 months and to be honest we are both bored, first 12 months we were busy sorting out house, jobs, friends etc but this last few months have really got to me and hubby, but at the same time cant help thinking that if we return would be regret it.
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You need to remember that a lot of Brits who are still in the UK will tell you to stay in Australia because that is what Brits do; we moan about the UK like there's no tomorrow and we believe the tabloid media absolutely. We are a self-deprecating bunch generally and Brits find it hard to sing Britain's praises in that context.
And you also need to remember that a lot of Brits living in Australia will tell you that you are an idiot to consider going back to the UK because their decision to live in Australia is belittled by another Brit turning around and going "this joint bores the arse off me''. That upsets them because they are happy in their smug little world where clever Brits move to Australia/NZ/Canada. If you question the greatness of Australia you are, in their tiny minds, questioning the greatness of them.
And you also need to remember that a lot of Brits living in Australia will tell you that you are an idiot to consider going back to the UK because their decision to live in Australia is belittled by another Brit turning around and going "this joint bores the arse off me''. That upsets them because they are happy in their smug little world where clever Brits move to Australia/NZ/Canada. If you question the greatness of Australia you are, in their tiny minds, questioning the greatness of them.






