Why do expats seek a new life, then group together when they get there?
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Why do expats seek a new life, then group together when they get there?
I was talking to a friend the other day. She and her other half have just moved to Wellington from the UK. She was telling me how busy they are meeting people, which is great. THen she said that they were all English or expats of sorts. Its struck me that its odd really that we move away from our own culture then try and recreate it when we arrive in our new destination.
Although NZ has not worked out for me at this stage in my life, I have used this year here to make friends with many many Kiwis. People I am sure I will know for life.
So reallly the question is, why do expats all group together ? Are they missing out on emerging themselves into their new homes and cultures?
Although NZ has not worked out for me at this stage in my life, I have used this year here to make friends with many many Kiwis. People I am sure I will know for life.
So reallly the question is, why do expats all group together ? Are they missing out on emerging themselves into their new homes and cultures?
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Re: Why do expats seek a new life, then group together when they get there?
Originally Posted by Cassa
I was talking to a friend the other day. She and her other half have just moved to Wellington from the UK. She was telling me how busy they are meeting people, which is great. THen she said that they were all English or expats of sorts. Its struck me that its odd really that we move away from our own culture then try and recreate it when we arrive in our new destination.
Although NZ has not worked out for me at this stage in my life, I have used this year here to make friends with many many Kiwis. People I am sure I will know for life.
So reallly the question is, why do expats all group together ? Are they missing out on emerging themselves into their new homes and cultures?
Although NZ has not worked out for me at this stage in my life, I have used this year here to make friends with many many Kiwis. People I am sure I will know for life.
So reallly the question is, why do expats all group together ? Are they missing out on emerging themselves into their new homes and cultures?
"I don't know they come over here and take our............"
Interestingly yesterdays immigrants (eg. West Indian in UK) are todays indigenous and they join with everyone else with the chorus when talking about (for eg. Eastern Europeans)
"I don't know they come over here and take our.........."
I'm sure this happens in NZ too. Poms who have been settled in NZ for a long long time (eg Kiwijet) are yesterdays immigrants but todays indigenous and therefore become overtly patriotic when their 'home' is criticised. (Oddly I am defensive myself when Oz is attacked)
Well done Cassa for your excellent observation.
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Ali
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Re: Why do expats seek a new life, then group together when they get there?
Originally Posted by Damages
A very very interesting point. It must be one for the psychologists. It seems to happen everywhere and is the reason for the development of ghettos. It is startlingly apparent in the UK where we have this 'multicultural society'. It would seem that what we need is a great big melting pot but unfortunately the bastards don't melt, they just kind of coagulate. Phyl and I are of the few who have melted and have churned out some coffee people. Another interesting phenomenon is how the indigenous population view foreign immigrants. Usually with cliches like
"I don't know they come over here and take our............"
Interestingly yesterdays immigrants (eg. West Indian in UK) are todays indigenous and they join with everyone else with the chorus when talking about (for eg. Eastern Europeans)
"I don't know they come over here and take our.........."
I'm sure this happens in NZ too. Poms who have been settled in NZ for a long long time (eg Kiwijet) are yesterdays immigrants but todays indigenous and therefore become overtly patriotic when their 'home' is criticised. (Oddly I am defensive myself when Oz is attacked)
Well done Cassa for your excellent observation.
Regards
Ali
"I don't know they come over here and take our............"
Interestingly yesterdays immigrants (eg. West Indian in UK) are todays indigenous and they join with everyone else with the chorus when talking about (for eg. Eastern Europeans)
"I don't know they come over here and take our.........."
I'm sure this happens in NZ too. Poms who have been settled in NZ for a long long time (eg Kiwijet) are yesterdays immigrants but todays indigenous and therefore become overtly patriotic when their 'home' is criticised. (Oddly I am defensive myself when Oz is attacked)
Well done Cassa for your excellent observation.
Regards
Ali
Simplistic but in the end human life is simplistic.
I usually like to stray from the norm but im sure i will make some English friends when im over in NZ.
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Re: Why do expats seek a new life, then group together when they get there?
Originally Posted by davepoole
People do it for comfort, humans make communities, these take time to build so many form communities based on shared expereinces or beliefs, in this case shared country of origin and shared experience of moving to another country.
Simplistic but in the end human life is simplistic.
I usually like to stray from the norm but im sure i will make some English friends when im over in NZ.
Simplistic but in the end human life is simplistic.
I usually like to stray from the norm but im sure i will make some English friends when im over in NZ.
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Re: Why do expats seek a new life, then group together when they get there?
Originally Posted by Cassa
Or you might even make some Scottish, Welsh or Irish friends!!
only if im very,very very fortunate indeed.
Im southern so this is tongue in cheek, do not want to cause offence but
a mate of mine coming down from manchester was told to stop off at birmingham to get used to people less friendly.
I must say in my opinion peeps from up north or in scotland or ireland are easier to get along with, or that they are easy to talk to?
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Re: Why do expats seek a new life, then group together when they get there?
Originally Posted by davepoole
only if im very,very very fortunate indeed.
Im southern so this is tongue in cheek, do not want to cause offence but
a mate of mine coming down from manchester was told to stop off at birmingham to get used to people less friendly.
I must say in my opinion peeps from up north or in scotland or ireland are easier to get along with, or that they are easy to talk to?
dave
Im southern so this is tongue in cheek, do not want to cause offence but
a mate of mine coming down from manchester was told to stop off at birmingham to get used to people less friendly.
I must say in my opinion peeps from up north or in scotland or ireland are easier to get along with, or that they are easy to talk to?
dave
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Re: Why do expats seek a new life, then group together when they get there?
Originally Posted by Cassa
So reallly the question is, why do expats all group together ? Are they missing out on emerging themselves into their new homes and cultures?
Where I live now (Central Europe) I used to be very expat-ish, ie going to expat pubs and mostly having expat mates - though my girlfriends were mostly local, not too difficult a choice as they generally put the Brits to shame! (I could sit you down at an outside bar in one popular square in town and you'd see more drop-dead gorgeous beauties in an hour than you see in an average UK city in a year. )
Now (8 years on) I'm married with 3 kids and we go out to eat rather than to pubs, plus moved out from the city to the countryside so the expat pub thing has long gone. No real expat mates apart from one English guy who lives in my village who I meet for a beer or meal a couple of times a year.
So I guess for many the expat thing will fade with time. Did for me.
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As per the simplistic vie of humans explanation, I agree. I hoping to met expats when I am in NZ as moving all those miles away to a new coutry, it gives me comfort to know that there are people ove there that may have experienced the emotions nad feelings that I am expecting to go through when Imove. I am hoping that those expats can help me settle and offer words of advice and encouragement, HOWEVER, I am a friendly, outgoing person and make friends easily an definitely lookin forward to having kiwi friends and blending into the kiwi community......in time.
P.S - I'm from Birmingham so the comment about stopping off in Birmingham to meet "not so friendly people" is a load of rubbish. We are very friendly people and view the south as a difficult place for us to get on with people (I work in Luton). Birmingham is the 2nd biggest city in the UK, so just like everywhere, depends on where you go. Nuff said!
P.S - I'm from Birmingham so the comment about stopping off in Birmingham to meet "not so friendly people" is a load of rubbish. We are very friendly people and view the south as a difficult place for us to get on with people (I work in Luton). Birmingham is the 2nd biggest city in the UK, so just like everywhere, depends on where you go. Nuff said!
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Re: Why do expats seek a new life, then group together when they get there?
Originally Posted by Sally
P.S - I'm from Birmingham so the comment about stopping off in Birmingham to meet "not so friendly people" is a load of rubbish. We are very friendly people and view the south as a difficult place for us to get on with people (I work in Luton). Birmingham is the 2nd biggest city in the UK, so just like everywhere, depends on where you go. Nuff said!
Brummies seem to have a big chip on their shoulder about something and just plain don't like southerners at first sight, once they get to know you it can be quite different.
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Hey Don, I must be the exception to the rule then! I'm lovely
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Re: Why do expats seek a new life, then group together when they get there?
Originally Posted by davepoole
only if im very,very very fortunate indeed.
Im southern so this is tongue in cheek, do not want to cause offence but
a mate of mine coming down from manchester was told to stop off at birmingham to get used to people less friendly.
I must say in my opinion peeps from up north or in scotland or ireland are easier to get along with, or that they are easy to talk to?
dave
Im southern so this is tongue in cheek, do not want to cause offence but
a mate of mine coming down from manchester was told to stop off at birmingham to get used to people less friendly.
I must say in my opinion peeps from up north or in scotland or ireland are easier to get along with, or that they are easy to talk to?
dave
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Re: Why do expats seek a new life, then group together when they get there?
To answer the original question - could it be that it's beacuse you will have a common outlook on life? Not that you come from the same place, but that you have been willing and able to change country to get the lifestyle you want, which puts you in a minority?
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Originally Posted by lapsed kiwi
To answer the original question - could it be that it's because you will have a common outlook on life? Not that you come from the same place, but that you have been willing and able to change country to get the lifestyle you want, which puts you in a minority?
Why is it the British folk feel so ashamed when they create a little community in another country.
Most Cultures do it and are never ashamed ... they would be shocked if you suggested it wasn't normal or tried to take it away from them.
I have kiwi friends and UK friends ... I can have fun with my kiwi friends but my UK friends REALLY know how it feels 'inside' to immigrate with your family
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Well said SKY
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Originally Posted by sky
Yea ... I agree with that view, you have so much to talk about and in common with each other.
Why is it the British folk feel so ashamed when they create a little community in another country.
Most Cultures do it and are never ashamed ... they would be shocked if you suggested it wasn't normal or tried to take it away from them.
I have kiwi friends and UK friends ... I can have fun with my kiwi friends but my UK friends REALLY know how it feels 'inside' to immigrate with your family
Why is it the British folk feel so ashamed when they create a little community in another country.
Most Cultures do it and are never ashamed ... they would be shocked if you suggested it wasn't normal or tried to take it away from them.
I have kiwi friends and UK friends ... I can have fun with my kiwi friends but my UK friends REALLY know how it feels 'inside' to immigrate with your family