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What men wish women knew about men

Old Jun 3rd 2011, 4:52 am
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Courtesy of The Sydney Morning Herald. I've cut a couple of bits out:
"Why are so many women struggling when it comes to men?" That was the question I posed to relationship expert and author Steve Santagati in Los Angeles a couple of weeks ago, while trying to ascertain why all the single-girl malice has been thrown at the fairer sex.

"I mean, surely it's not that hard to keep a man interested?" I continued.

"Well, women don't put in the right effort," he told me. "The place where so women go wrong is that they have no idea about things men actually like."

Like what? Sex? Light banter? Humour? Fast cars? Well, here's the caveat, or so says Santagati.

"After you sleep with us, we want to know: 'What else have you got to offer?' Do you know anything about sports, about fishing, about the books we read, about finance, about anything? Do you know how to cook?"

I guess he had a point. When I posed the question to Ask Sam readers about what men wish women knew or participated in, the debate became fast and furious.

Men agreed with Santagati - women don't take an interest in their interests.
"She has little emotional intelligence"

While researchers reckon that there is no conclusive evidence to say women have a lower EQ than men, the blokes complain that way too many women aren't emotionally intelligent enough for them. What does this mean? That chicks by and large, don't know how to deal with the negative stuff appropriately. Don't beat yourself up about it either – apparently 90 per cent of the world's population are lacking EQ. However, I get where the dudes are coming from. Women act, think and speak with our emotions. Therefore, we're often not going to give the most rational response to a tough situation. But if the consequences of women having low EQ means that they are unable to act unemotionally to a problem at hand, well that's pretty much most of us…
I’m not sure about this thing about letting women know what men want thing however. The status quo of us pretending it’s just sex and “man stuff” has worked well for us so far, do we try to fix what is only slightly broken? Can’t we just settle for women not being particularly interesting people who do the family thing they love so much (sorry if that shattered any illusions) and blabber on about things we have little interest in while we make interested faces?

Also can you imagine how dangerous it could be if women started reading books and taking an interest in the world generally, for millions of years men have had an almost unchallenged monopoly when it came to understanding the mechanisms by which science, technology, engineering, the arts and government work. We’ve been the ones with an insatiable appetite for knowledge and ideas, a restlessness we can hardly hope to articulate, to reach for the unreachable stars and steer the course of humanity. Women have just innocuously come along for the ride…right?
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"Rules That Guys Wish Girls Knew

1. Sometimes we just don't want to talk. Don't take it personally.
2. We notice other women because we are men and we are alive. This does not mean we're planning to dump you and jump them.
3. Our favorite T-shirts are not "disgraceful." They show our loyalty to our college, our favorite sports team, our favorite beer, our favorite vacation or number 23.
4. Helpless is not cute.
5. Get to the point.
6. Understand that men are single-minded and can only do one thing at a time. So don't talk to us while we're doing something. We will either ignore you, because we don't hear you "honestly), or we'll screw up what we're doing because you've distracted us.
Exception to Rule 6. Interrupt us if something is on fire, if someone needs immediate medical attention, if Pamela Lee is on TV or if there is an emergency that needs a hero.
7. You can't complain that there are no good guys around while some of us are still single.
8. If you ask us, "Do you think she's prettier then me?" we just might say, "Yes." Then what are you going to do?
9. Don't expect even a great relationship with us to solve all your problems. Just because we love you, doesn't mean your cellulite, your credit card debt or your bad mood will disappear.
10. We would not wear high heels to impress you.
11. Breathe occasionally so we can get a word in.
12. For us, driving is not just a means of going from point A to point B. It's an opportunity to control a couple of tons of steel. We drive, therefore, we are.
13. If you want us to notice something, help us out by saying something like, "I went to the beauty shop today."
14. If you have to have a cat, at least don't call him "Mister" anything.
15. Hide the self help books when we come over. They make us nervous.
16. We need to vegetate.
17. We don't go shopping. When we need something, we buy it.
18. We believe our bodily functions are perfectly normal and, at times, quite amusing.
19. We don't believe you when you say money isn't important to you.
20. When we see pictures of Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones we feel proud and happy to be men. We don't care if it's not fair.
21. It's not that we don't want to make you happy, it's just that sometimes, we don't know how.
22. Learn to work the toilet seat. If it's up, put it down.
23. If it itches, it will be scratched.
24. If you ask a question you don't really want an answer to, expect an answer you didn't want to hear.
25. Sometimes, we're not thinking about you. Live with it.
26. Don't ask us what were thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss topis such as navel lint, the shotgun formation and monster trucks.
27. Sundays equals sports. Period.
28. Beer is as exciting for us as handbags are for you.
29. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine. Really.
30. You have enough clothes.
31. You have too many shoes.
32. Crying is blackmail.
33. Your ex-boyfriend is an idiot.
34. Ask for what you want. Let's be clear on this one: Subtle hints don't work. Strong hints don't work. Really obvious hints don't work. Just say it!
35. No, we don't know what day it is. We never will. Mark anniversaries on a calendar you know we check.
36. We're not mind readers and we never will be. OUr lack of mind-reading ability is not proof of how little we care about you.
37. Most guys own three pairs of shoes. What makes you think we'd be any good at choosing which pair - out of 30 - would look good with your dress?
38. Yes and no are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.
39. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
40. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.
41. Check your oil.
42. Don't fake it. We'd rather be ineffective than deceived.
43. It is neither in your best interest or ours to take any quiz together.
44. It doesn't matter which quiz.
45. Anything we said six months ago is inadmissible in an argument. All comments become null and void after seven days.
46. If you won't dress like the Victoria Secret girls, don't expect us to act like the soap opera guys.
47. If something we said could be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.
48. You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it done. Not both.
49. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
50. Christopher Columbus didn't need directions, and neither do we.
51. If you wear a Wonderbra and a low-cut blouse, you lose the right to complain about having your boobs stared at.
52. Our relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out.
53. Men see a limited number of colors, like Windows default settings. Peach is a fruit, not a color.
54. Ditto melon.
55. If we ask what's wrong and you say "nothing," we will act like nothing is wrong."

'Stumbled' unto this, showed to some of my male friends who agreed.

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I'll take 4-5, 9, 19, 24-26, 36, 38-39, 42-44, 48 and 52-55. The rest are generalisations.
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