I've read this phrase many times on this forum but not really understood what it might mean. I think I am maybe starting to appreciate what it might mean though..

Is it like when you speak to teachers at the school and they seem fairly disinterested in what you have to say as it doesn't fit their narrow view?

Is it when someone at work asks you for feedback at work and you actually tell them how you feel only to find out that they didn't really want to know after all?

Is it when you feel as though anything you have to offer is not appreciated because it's not the way we do things round here?

Is it the baffling lack of progress people are making, despite the outward appearance of working incredibly hard and long hours?

Am I close?

Don't worry, it's OK.

Ah. OK that makes more sense..

Another thing then. The happiness graph on this page: https://www.newzealandnow.govt.nz/li...of-settling-in

Should I be worried if we are at the 18 month stage after only 3 months?

Takes three years for the fog to clear

A lot of kiwis think Brits are a bit uptight. Not sure if that helps with the context.

Is that a *sweeping statement alert* .I hope so.

As I also hope that my pals do not secretly think that TBH.

No-one that I know says this phrase but I think it means
1 - Who gives a poop really
2 - It will be OK
3 - It will work out
4 - Don't sweat it.
or a good old-fashioned phrase
5 - It will come out in the wash.

As for the happiness graph. Just pass on by. It is silly. Everyones mileage differs.

seriously??! I know lots of people that say it and mostly to us, being Brits I suppose.

'She'll be right' does not necessarily need to be said as such, it's more an attitude of not giving a rats arse, and passing the buck, not my problem I'll leave it for someone else to pick up the pieces and deal with the aftermath. It probably does cover off most of the examples that you mentioned.

I find Kiwi women feature very highly among some of the most uptight people I have ever had to deal with in my whole life.

Hell yeah !

It's quite telling now that I'm back in Britain how civil, friendly and laid back British people are compared to New Zealanders.

I've just been upgraded to equal, especially at work, which is what I thought would happen.

Nope! Its bravado. If you cant see it for what it is, then you will never get it.

It is a double edged sword, but you use very poor examples.

Wasn't it only 5 minutes ago you were making big plans to come over.
You've not been here a year yet and you're whinging already

I'm having settling issues, is that OK with you?? Obviously not.

Yis. I don't recall ever actually hearing anyone say this.

I'll ask MrBEVS if he hears it on the assorted building sites.

Mainly an Aussie saying, gets trotted out all the time here.

Basically it means 'I'm all right Jack so I'm not going to worry about the state of the country/my kids education/law and order or any other part of life.'

'She'll be right' means someone else will fixit eventually so why should I care.

I thought the standard Aussie saying was "no worries mate"