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Ex threatening to withdraw permission for son to go to NZ unless money is paid.

Old Apr 13th 2013, 9:40 am
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Drink!!! Never rains but it pours. Now we have the Visa, the job and the buyer for the house...the ex sends a letter stating that unless I give him £6000 within the next 17 days he will take away his permission for my 14 year old son to go to NZ with the rest of us.
Extortion?
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Old Apr 13th 2013, 9:50 am
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Drink!!! Never rains but it pours. Now we have the Visa, the job and the buyer for the house...the ex sends a letter stating that unless I give him £6000 within the next 17 days he will take away his permission for my 14 year old son to go to NZ with the rest of us.
Extortion?
that's not legal, get a solicitor onto it
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Old Apr 13th 2013, 9:55 am
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that's not legal, get a solicitor onto it
flipping scary
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Old Apr 13th 2013, 10:52 am
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Originally Posted by MrsFychan View Post
has he already given you written permission to take him?
and scaring you is what he wants to do, sounds like a complete "cough" Banker
Yes we all have our visas in passports. He gave permission back last may. Now he wants money upfront. I don't have that sort of money lying around.
Do you think Police would take it seriously?
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Yes we all have our visas in passports. He gave permission back last may. Now he wants money upfront. I don't have that sort of money lying around.
Do you think Police would take it seriously?
They should as it is blackmail, but getting a solicitor to send him a letter might also work. If you have the written permission then there is little he can do, and if you have any proof of his asking for the money and why, then keep it safe, if it's an e mail, get it printed out.
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Originally Posted by mikelincs View Post
They should as it is blackmail, but getting a solicitor to send him a letter might also work. If you have the written permission then there is little he can do, and if you have any proof of his asking for the money and why, then keep it safe, if it's an e mail, get it printed out.
I have his permission signed in front of his solicitor last May. This latest came in letter form so yes, I have proof.
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was the letter from the Solicitor or just from him?

DO NOT give him any money, who's to say that's where it will stop. Speak to your Solicitor and it would do no harm to speak to someone at your local cop shop.
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Originally Posted by MrsFychan View Post
was the letter from the Solicitor or just from him?

DO NOT give him any money, who's to say that's where it will stop. Speak to your Solicitor and it would do no harm to speak to someone at your local cop shop.
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Originally Posted by MrsFychan View Post
was the letter from the Solicitor or just from him?

DO NOT give him any money, who's to say that's where it will stop. Speak to your Solicitor and it would do no harm to speak to someone at your local cop shop.
This latest letter was just from him, not his solicitor. Really hard to get to see Police round here, have to ring to make an appointment since the local station moved!
I'm going to the CAB tomorrow, see if they can help.
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Hi Fi.

Strange. I just bunged in a post to see if there was any update on your move over yet.

Really sorry to read that the ex is still being a complete [email protected] and then some.

As you can see I've moved the posts from the bar into a place of their own. The more support around you , the better.
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What grounds is he using to withdraw permission? Surely since it's all been done legally he can't just change his mind!
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Old Apr 14th 2013, 10:31 pm
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Default Re: "Weta your Whistle'-the all new Kiwi bar

Originally Posted by j19fmm View Post
Yes we all have our visas in passports. He gave permission back last may. Now he wants money upfront. I don't have that sort of money lying around.
Do you think Police would take it seriously?
OMG j19fmm, I thought mine was an emotional roller coaster
I'm afraid police will not be able to do anything as its a civil matter
I'm not a lawyer but in my experience anything that is agreed via solicitors is very hard to get out of. I would suggest that unless he can prove that things have changed since he signed, like he's found out your a drug dealing child abuser (joke) then he won't be able to get out of it and it will be legally binding
back to your solicitors 9 am tomorrow I'm afraid
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Originally Posted by j19fmm View Post
This latest letter was just from him, not his solicitor. Really hard to get to see Police round here, have to ring to make an appointment since the local station moved!
I'm going to the CAB tomorrow, see if they can help.
Not sure CAB will be able to help, your solicitor will send him a letter via his solicitor, then his solicitor should tell him to wind his neck in and he doesn't have a leg to stand on
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Old Apr 14th 2013, 10:50 pm
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Theft Act of 1968, blackmail and extortion are illegal. Your lawyer is going to have a field day.

HTH.
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Default Re: Ex threatening to withdraw permission for son to go to NZ unless money is paid.

OMG . What a complete barsteward! As others have said, back to the solicitors tomorrow & get it sorted that way. He hasn't a leg to stand on.

Just feel so sorry for the extra stress he's causing you. Sending cyber hugs & love Fi xxx
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