Ex threatening to withdraw permission for son to go to NZ unless money is paid.
Apr 13th 2013, 9:40 am
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Ex threatening to withdraw permission for son to go to NZ unless money is paid.
Drink!!! Never rains but it pours. Now we have the Visa, the job and the buyer for the house...the ex sends a letter stating that unless I give him £6000 within the next 17 days he will take away his permission for my 14 year old son to go to NZ with the rest of us.
Extortion?
Extortion?
Apr 13th 2013, 9:50 am
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Drink!!! Never rains but it pours. Now we have the Visa, the job and the buyer for the house...the ex sends a letter stating that unless I give him £6000 within the next 17 days he will take away his permission for my 14 year old son to go to NZ with the rest of us.
Extortion?
Extortion?
Apr 13th 2013, 9:55 am
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Apr 13th 2013, 10:52 am
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Do you think Police would take it seriously?
Apr 13th 2013, 11:49 am
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They should as it is blackmail, but getting a solicitor to send him a letter might also work. If you have the written permission then there is little he can do, and if you have any proof of his asking for the money and why, then keep it safe, if it's an e mail, get it printed out.
Apr 13th 2013, 1:00 pm
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They should as it is blackmail, but getting a solicitor to send him a letter might also work. If you have the written permission then there is little he can do, and if you have any proof of his asking for the money and why, then keep it safe, if it's an e mail, get it printed out.
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Apr 13th 2013, 10:47 pm
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was the letter from the Solicitor or just from him?
DO NOT give him any money, who's to say that's where it will stop. Speak to your Solicitor and it would do no harm to speak to someone at your local cop shop.
DO NOT give him any money, who's to say that's where it will stop. Speak to your Solicitor and it would do no harm to speak to someone at your local cop shop.
Apr 14th 2013, 7:13 pm
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I'm going to the CAB tomorrow, see if they can help.
Apr 14th 2013, 10:03 pm
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Hi Fi.
Strange. I just bunged in a post to see if there was any update on your move over yet.
Really sorry to read that the ex is still being a complete a@se and then some.
As you can see I've moved the posts from the bar into a place of their own. The more support around you , the better.
Strange. I just bunged in a post to see if there was any update on your move over yet.
Really sorry to read that the ex is still being a complete a@se and then some.
As you can see I've moved the posts from the bar into a place of their own. The more support around you , the better.
Apr 14th 2013, 10:30 pm
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Re: Ex threatening to withdraw permission for son to go to NZ unless money is paid.
What grounds is he using to withdraw permission? Surely since it's all been done legally he can't just change his mind!
Apr 14th 2013, 10:31 pm
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I'm afraid police will not be able to do anything as its a civil matter
I'm not a lawyer but in my experience anything that is agreed via solicitors is very hard to get out of. I would suggest that unless he can prove that things have changed since he signed, like he's found out your a drug dealing child abuser (joke) then he won't be able to get out of it and it will be legally binding
back to your solicitors 9 am tomorrow I'm afraid
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Apr 14th 2013, 10:34 pm
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Apr 14th 2013, 10:50 pm
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Theft Act of 1968, blackmail and extortion are illegal. Your lawyer is going to have a field day.
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Apr 14th 2013, 10:51 pm
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OMG 
. What a complete barsteward! As others have said, back to the solicitors tomorrow & get it sorted that way. He hasn't a leg to stand on.
Just feel so sorry for the extra stress he's causing you. Sending cyber hugs & love Fi xxx
. What a complete barsteward! As others have said, back to the solicitors tomorrow & get it sorted that way. He hasn't a leg to stand on.Just feel so sorry for the extra stress he's causing you. Sending cyber hugs & love Fi xxx