Am Loolah

Bit of a specialist subject I'd imagine - but you never know?!

I am adopted and am applying for residency. I have my full original birth certificate - which shows a completely different First and Last name to the ones I now have. (Explains split personality - at least that's my excuse!) I luckily also have the court order and new birth certificate for after I was adopted which shows my First and middle names I currently have and my fair maiden name.

I'm worried this is going to completely throw immigration in the absence of any kind of explaination.

I had a pretty uncomfortable experience when I went with all said paperwork to change my passport to my married name at the Post Office; with some charm school reject shouting to all and sundry that I was adopted so my name didn't fit! Hmmmm! He wasn't the sharpest tool in the shed!

Has anyone else had to go through similar? What were their experiences? All comments gratefully received.

Thanking you muchly.

Watt Dabney

My husband is adopted too. If I remember rightly (it was 4yrs ago now), I included his original birth certificate, which like you also has a different name on it but his also has adopted typed in the margin at the end. I also enclosed his adoption certificate, which looks just like a birth cert. We did not have any court order. Thinking back I probably put something in the boxes which ask for other names. You know like I put my maiden name in my 'other names' box. For hubby I just put his birth name and squeezed in "adopted on dd/mm/yy name changed" or smething like that.
Also on the medical was loads of references to limited family medical history due to being adopted.

Hope this helps

Paula

Am Loolah

Thank you Paula, good idea. So now what he went through with the medical, luckily I met with my biological mother and asked her all that as matter of priority regarding wanting kids at a later date. That was after the question of "Why??!!"

danny.f

Danny is adopted too and was just asked for original birth certificate and adoption certificate (I think), he's lurking somewhere in here so I'm sure he will answer you himself soon,
donna

Watt Dabney

My hubby had met with his biological mother too, but we decided to go with the "don't know" approach. This was because she had told him bits of his family medical history and he knew none of his fathers. It just seemed easier to us to say don't know than explain that we knew little bits about one half. The relationship with his biological mother was strained and the thought of the stress it would create if they wanted more info or to clarify something wasn't worth the risk. So we pleaded ignorance, which was never questioned.

danny.f

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Right-that I remember,needed my full birth certificate with original name/parents details-got it from Births and Marriages. We were told by specialists that once we got the correct documentation,that's the end of it.
Knew we were affected in similar ways!!

danny.f

Separated at birth??!!!! Danny does have an affinity for that wand! He may be of the fairy family too? Do they have boy fairies or are they called something else?
Donna

Am Loolah

Wierd!! No, as far as I know as fully winged up fairy they too are called Fairies - although can have different interpretation?! Go get yourself Fairy Lessons, am sure you'll look fab donning said regalia and trying to fly.

Yeah, I wouldn't be looking to re-communicate with biological mother after hubby told her to f*&k off the last time she rang!!

SarahB

Yes I am adopted and didnt have any problems getting PR before we came. I applied for my original birth certificate and then gave them the old adoption one too.... no problems at all. Same at WD said although I have met my birth mother and father once about 8 years ago I also said that I did not know them and anything about them, family medical history etc.... just easier that way. It should not be a problem at all so good luck.

Surprising so many people on here are adopted.... I hardly ever come across anyone who is adopted... its good to hear as it was the best thing that couldve happened to me.

danny.f

You adopted too? Tell you what,there could be summat in this!! We all wanting to bugger off. There's a study in them thar hills!

SarahB

lol..... not sure about that. My parents were fabulous and still are. Ive met my birth father once and my also my birth mother when I turned 30. It was just something I had to do and I managed to trace them both (not together now). I dont have much to do with either of them.... we have nothing in common and email occasionally but thats it..... how about you?

Am Loolah

It's all a bit spooky isn't it? Well, of course, all the best people are!

danny.f

Weird. Never searched for either of mine,nearly went looking for me mother and have had a few searches on t'internet,but me ma n da so good,never felt the need. Always wondered more about brothers and sisters than anything else,and wether I'm gonna die of an enormous stroke at 39. Cheery shit like that really.

Am Loolah

I traced and met my biological mother 3 weeks after my 18th - without going down the recommended route of going through an intermediary. Like you it was something I felt I always had to do, like the missing piece of the puzzle. My Dad was great about it and even offered to accompany me, my mum took it really bad - but I was a bitch in my teens to her!
We had nothing in common, she didn't know my life, friends, habits, personality, woes etc. But then she kept in touch on my birthday & Xmas which are 6 months apart, so it upset/affected/dragged up feelings twice a year and took me a couple of months to get over before anticipating the next contact. Hubby knowing the effect it was having me, majestically intercepted one such call and put her off!! Never told me at the time, plucked up the courage to tell me some time later. Good think I felt.

Not many people would come out and say in in conversation as I've always felt there's a bit of a stigma attached to it?

danny.f

Yeah,know what you mean,people don't like to talk about it cos they think you're a reject or summat,and feel uncomfortable with you. I see some great faces when I mention it, but I really don't care much. I was a bastard (ho,ho!!) when I was a teen too,and used it no end to ***** about with my mum and dad,and I still feel a git about that.
Can remember they suggested about 15 yrs ago I should get in touch,but the truth was I just didn't want to. She gave me away,her problem. Iwas,and still am well happy with who Iam,and with my parents now,so I don't want to,or even need to rock anyone's boat.