What would you do?
Feb 7th 2007, 6:12 pm
#46
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Re: What would you do?
I'd just be honest and tell them you can't afford it, and therefore you won't be able to go. If she wants you there bad enough, she'll change the destination (or help you pay), if not, they won't, so you won't go, but hey-ho its just a meal and one night; you can still be friends afterwards.
Feb 7th 2007, 6:16 pm
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Re: What would you do?
Call you friend and be honest with her. She's a friend and will understand or she really isn't that good a friend and won't. If she doesn't want to mess up her bf's plans, tell her that you will love to have them stop by your house for desert and after dinner drinks that evening, say around 10 and look forward to seeing them then.
Feb 7th 2007, 6:19 pm
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I would explode
Feb 7th 2007, 6:21 pm
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Re: What would you do?
At one time I always went along with split the bill equal amounts. But after a while got tired of paying a share of a bill which included drinks and desert when I don't drink nor eat desert. The clincher came when one of the girls couldn't decide on which entree to have and ordered two and then took the leftovers home and remarked that would take care of her for the next three days. And they wanted to share that bill equally. Bugger off!
I'd have shoved the dinner over them!!!
Me too but as I never have dessert or a starter etc I can't believe how people are so selfish and don't take note of that and expect me to split it evenly
So now I do the American thing and ask for individual bill - I love America no probs doing that, haven't got the guts to do it in the UK though
Re: What would you do?
Feb 7th 2007, 6:26 pm
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Re: What would you do?
At one time I always went along with split the bill equal amounts. But after a while got tired of paying a share of a bill which included drinks and desert when I don't drink nor eat desert. The clincher came when one of the girls couldn't decide on which entree to have and ordered two and then took the leftovers home and remarked that would take care of her for the next three days. And they wanted to share that bill equally. Bugger off!
Call you friend and be honest with her. She's a friend and will understand or she really isn't that good a friend and won't. If she doesn't want to mess up her bf's plans, tell her that you will love to have them stop by your house for desert and after dinner drinks that evening, say around 10 and look forward to seeing them then.
Call you friend and be honest with her. She's a friend and will understand or she really isn't that good a friend and won't. If she doesn't want to mess up her bf's plans, tell her that you will love to have them stop by your house for desert and after dinner drinks that evening, say around 10 and look forward to seeing them then.
Feb 7th 2007, 6:29 pm
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Re: What would you do?
Now this is an interesting article but it still isn't that much help:
http://moneycentral.msn.com/content/...ebt/P58016.asp
I've left a couple of voicemails with the other Aussie friend. They're moving back to Canberra in the Summer so I don't think they'll want to have an outrageously expensive night out.....but she drinks like a fish and likes her quality plonk....
I wonder if I should just say that we're prepared to pay a max of ??? for the two of us and anything which is above that will have to be paid for by the boyfriend? Do you think that would work? Trying to think what could be deemed as 'reasonable' at a posh place.
I bet Jerseygirl has been there (or her husband on a business meal...)
http://moneycentral.msn.com/content/...ebt/P58016.asp
I've left a couple of voicemails with the other Aussie friend. They're moving back to Canberra in the Summer so I don't think they'll want to have an outrageously expensive night out.....but she drinks like a fish and likes her quality plonk....
I wonder if I should just say that we're prepared to pay a max of ??? for the two of us and anything which is above that will have to be paid for by the boyfriend? Do you think that would work? Trying to think what could be deemed as 'reasonable' at a posh place.
I bet Jerseygirl has been there (or her husband on a business meal...)
Feb 7th 2007, 6:30 pm
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Re: What would you do?
Call them and ask if they will fax you the menu or give you an average price per entree.
Feb 7th 2007, 7:05 pm
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Re: What would you do?
From the replies you have received so far I think it is safe to assume that there may be major problems over this, which I dont think you bargained for. Its a shame, that the circumstances involve your friend but I have to agree with others on here, it appears that three are going to be paid for by yourselves(probably unknown to your friend) and the others but only at the end, when there's no backing out. Maybe its a time for an upset tummy,hubby caught in a snowdrift or a sudden urgent business meeting. 
Feb 7th 2007, 7:27 pm
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Re: What would you do?
The way things work here is that the birthday honoree chooses the place, not her boyfriend/mother/personal trainer. If his MOTHER is coming, the bill for all of you should be given to her as the only reason I see for her presence is if she is gifting her son's girlfriend with a dinner out with friends. If one person wishes to decide and impose their taste and wallet on others, then they should PAY for the others as well as the host/hostess.
Your girlfriend should RUN from this guy, if only for the simple fact that he probably has never been responsible for ANY bills in his life.... no rent, no utilities, you name it. Since he doesn't have to pay bills (what with a room at his mother's and at his girlfriend's) of course he's got extra money for things, and yet he doesn't want to be generous?!
Feb 7th 2007, 7:57 pm
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Re: What would you do?
This is sooooo wrong.
Your girlfriend should RUN from this guy, if only for the simple fact that he probably has never been responsible for ANY bills in his life.... no rent, no utilities, you name it. Since he doesn't have to pay bills (what with a room at his mother's and at his girlfriend's) of course he's got extra money for things, and yet he doesn't want to be generous?!
Your girlfriend should RUN from this guy, if only for the simple fact that he probably has never been responsible for ANY bills in his life.... no rent, no utilities, you name it. Since he doesn't have to pay bills (what with a room at his mother's and at his girlfriend's) of course he's got extra money for things, and yet he doesn't want to be generous?!
Absolutely. However, she lets her heart rule her head and says "my children need a father". (Their dad is now living in Oz but that's another long story).
About a month after they were dating, they were in bed and he told her that he wants her to have his baby.....
I thought 'OMG' and have pointed out to her a few times that if she does she won't be moving back to Oz until the child is 18. She already knows a model in San Francisco who can't move to NYC to work as she is divorced and her ex won't let their daughter move out of State.Unfortunately the biological clock is ticking......
Her life is one long soap opera LOL!
Feb 7th 2007, 8:27 pm
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Re: What would you do?
Well, she's old enough to be wide awake at her old age!! Plus, she has been divorced twice before. Didn't she have some custody problem with her ex keeping the one kid in Aus or something a while back?
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