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Re: Went back for two weeks, can't stop thinking about it
I totally get it.
Been in the US for 17 years. Divorced over a decade, no kids. I first went back for an extended trip in 2011, things shifted and i decided to stay in the US. However, although i changed up my life, inside i still didnt feel right There are things i love about both places, but i constantly think of home, know that i cant retire in the US. Last summer i lost my dad in the UK. So, this year i finally made a decision, and let me tell you it is terrifying, but the shift internally has happened and i know i can't change my mind now. A window opened, and i am jumping through it. I am in the middle of downsizing (and giving up my apartment - a pivotal moment) right now, this month. I am fortunate that i can continue to work here, half the year, and will have affordable rent in both places. What happens next i dont know, it will be an adventure. I seriosuly needed to change up my life and was caught in the rat race here. I have much better social connections in the UK, as well as family. I am under no illusions that i am going back to a better place, its just how i feel inside. I have been coming home every summer for years, and twice a year for the last few years. I have been through many versions of myself in 17 years, and many years ago would never have considered moving back. Things have shifted and my values have changed. I will see what happens! |
Re: Went back for two weeks, can't stop thinking about it
Originally Posted by mstiggiewinkle
(Post 12235379)
I totally get it.
Been in the US for 17 years. Divorced over a decade, no kids. I first went back for an extended trip in 2011, things shifted and i decided to stay in the US. However, although i changed up my life, inside i still didnt feel right There are things i love about both places, but i constantly think of home, know that i cant retire in the US. Last summer i lost my dad in the UK. So, this year i finally made a decision, and let me tell you it is terrifying, but the shift internally has happened and i know i can't change my mind now. A window opened, and i am jumping through it. I am in the middle of downsizing (and giving up my apartment - a pivotal moment) right now, this month. I am fortunate that i can continue to work here, half the year, and will have affordable rent in both places. What happens next i dont know, it will be an adventure. I seriosuly needed to change up my life and was caught in the rat race here. I have much better social connections in the UK, as well as family. I am under no illusions that i am going back to a better place, its just how i feel inside. I have been coming home every summer for years, and twice a year for the last few years. I have been through many versions of myself in 17 years, and many years ago would never have considered moving back. Things have shifted and my values have changed. I will see what happens! |
Re: Went back for two weeks, can't stop thinking about it
Originally Posted by Expatrick
(Post 12234616)
A blip - that has to be understatement of the year!
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Re: Went back for two weeks, can't stop thinking about it
Originally Posted by Expatrick
(Post 12234616)
A blip - that has to be understatement of the year!
Whenever I complained about anything, even as an adult, my parents would say that this is just a blip compared to the 5 years of all-out war they lived through. I once read an article that compared the standard of living in England in the 100 years from 1901 to 2001 and despite 2 world wars, collapse of Empire, and crippling debt the standard of living for the average person was much higher. (Even in 1976 the debt was so bad that the £ collapsed in value and the UK had to have a $3.9B loan from the IMF). What we are going through now is just a blip. To the OP, We lived in the USA for 29 years and when we retired we rented a house in England for a few months to get the desire to move back out of our system. It only reinforced our desire to move back, and leave our 2 children in Texas and California. We moved back last year and absolutely love it. |
Re: Went back for two weeks, can't stop thinking about it
Thanks for the comments everyone, I'm glad to hear that people who have gone back are enjoying it. And that I'm not the only one who is itching for a permanent change of scenery.
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Re: Went back for two weeks, can't stop thinking about it
Originally Posted by Freshwhyte
(Post 12238414)
Thanks for the comments everyone, I'm glad to hear that people who have gone back are enjoying it. And that I'm not the only one who is itching for a permanent change of scenery.
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Re: Went back for two weeks, can't stop thinking about it
Originally Posted by Expatrick
(Post 12234616)
We lived in the USA for 29 years and when we retired we rented a house in England for a few months to get the desire to move back out of our system. It only reinforced our desire to move back, and leave our 2 children in Texas and California. We moved back last year and absolutely love it. Your story is inspiring :) |
Re: Went back for two weeks, can't stop thinking about it
Originally Posted by Freshwhyte
(Post 12232699)
Hi all, just got back from Glasgow was staying there for the last few weeks for the first time since I was 12 years old. The last time I recall I couldn't wait to get back to Canada, didn't care about seeing anything, doing anything. This time was completely different, its like I fell in love for the first time and every single day was up and ready to explore. The day I left was really emotional for me, I stood in the airport staring out the window and all I could think about was coming back, I figured the heavy emotions I was feeling would pass but it has only gotten worse.
I've pretty much become completely disconnected from Canadian culture, since getting back I watch Filmon.com (which streams live UK tv) I've only been eating foods that I brought back, or foods that replicate what I was eating here. Its literally all I can think about - almost to the point of obsession. Am I the only one who has gotten like this after a trip back home ? Maybe I need to see a psychiatrist ? Lmao I'm working towards a nice nest egg so that I can go back permanently, and have been doing so for the last while. But I'm feeling more and more like reaching that goal can't come soon enough, I really can't stand it here in Canada anymore. |
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