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That's fab news. Feeling trapped definitely makes one's outlook a bit negative (I've started the 'power of now' so hopefully that will help LOL) :)

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Absolutley, when you can see that you are trapped it does make it very hard to cope. Of course you can cope because you have to but it definitely is not easy!

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'I loved being back in England, for 2 years and then decided to give it another go in Canada, and now I love it here too.
Not sure I would do it that way again though! but it all worked out in the end.
I think the key to making the right choices first time round is 'knowing yourself' and what you value. Choosing a destination with a culture, people and surroundings that supports and encourages those same values. That can be hard to research beforehand.[/QUOTE]I]'


I have lived and worked in Oz for 6 months and been only on Hols to Canada. We are thinking about emmigrating but DH wants to move to Canada and I OZ. however, having moved (and left behind family and friends) from London to Edinburgh and not really settled here. How do you decide/know where is the best place to go to? I do love a bit of research...any ideas where to start?

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Yeah, we thought the same about Melbourne & Sydney and having been there on business I've seen nothing to change my mind. That said, you can't explore the place properly when you're only there for a few consecutive days, so maybe we ought to do that at some point - Melbourne not Sydney.

We're from Cheshire originally and unless we discover something special;our situation somehow magically changes; or something suddenly clicks into place, then I can't really see the four of us (wife & kids) doing anything other than returning to from where we came.

This would be a real shame as we've all worked and continue to work hard to make sure we enjoy our lives out here and we desperately want to make a go of it.

At the end of the day though, sometimes no matter how hard you try to put a positive spin on things you realise that something is not quite right for you.

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Yep. Good move. When we finally decided that Oz was not for us long term it was a huge weight off our shoulders. No more pretending. Just enjoy it for what it is rather than getting frustrated with it. Easy said than done I know. We have made a list of where we want to go before we leave because when we do go I really can't see me wanting to come back. It's nice to see this part of the world but the diversity and richness of Europe beats this place hands down.

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I tell you what mattmc,your last couple of posts have mirrored my views exactly.

That is just the way me and my wife felt when we decided to go back home.Such a weight off of our shoulders.I can't ever see me coming back here ever again,there is nothing here that merits that horrendous flight.

Like you said we will see all the landmarks and places to see before we go anyway.
Good luck with going back!

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Same here.

We plan to spend the next year, before we become *eligible* for citizenship, basically 'using' and getting what we can out of Australia and having a good time. There may also be up to 12 months after that before we are able to attend the ceremony where we *gain* citizenship - the point at which I believe we are free to leave.

It's quite liberating now that we've made this decision and can see light at the end of the tunnel. In fact I'm going out tonight to celebrate :thumbsup:

The downside of this is that it does, of course, mean that we're always going to be on the fringe of things at work (or play) as getting involved or investing anything (time/money) is going to be rather meaningless at the end of the day.

That said, something miraculous may happen between now and then whereby we decide we want to stay here after all. Our planned holiday in the UK this time next year may make us realise that returning to the UK is not the answer for us.

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Alas I think OH just saying it to shut me up & will refuse to leave when the time comes :(

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Nah nah nah, unacceptable behaviour from OH then.

Ingredients:
Duct tape,chloroform,chair.

Method:
Chloroform on handkerchief,then over OHs mouth until snoring is heard.
get him on the plane to a UK destination of your choice.
Find a house of comfort and appeal to you.
Retire with snoring OH to basement.
*Note* Bring chair and duct tape to basement.
Duct tape snoring OH to chair.
When he awakens feed him until he submits and accepts life in the UK is far better than living in the bowels of the earth.
Job done.
Live the rest of your existance in one of the top destinations of the world.
Easy.

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just touch his arm gently........................with a freshly boiled kettle until he agrees. :rofl:

janine

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OMG!!!!! Love the duct tape and boiling kettle ideas - you had me spluttering coffee all over the keyboard! I was thinking more of a bit of 4 x 2 myself (subtlety was never my strong suit!).

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maka paka and janine-you devils!!:rofl::rofl:

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I hope you don't express horror at migrants who take the same attitude when you return to the UK.

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Yes...Ditto everything you have said....great post...just how a lot of people feel about Aus.....

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"Begin with the end in mind" the 2nd of Stephen Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Meaning be sure you know what you want out of something before you start.
A good exercise is for both of you to describe the life you want, write down everything, what you want to do, what you want to have, what you want to be. It will be interesting for you to do this separately to see how your ideals compare.
Next, for everything you have on your list, complete this sentence "I want this because..." to be sure you know why you want it. Then write down a list of your values, what do you value in life, honesty, integrity, helping others, family etc.
With this clarity about your ideal life, pick a few places and see how much you can achieve on your list by living there. You can go into much more detail but being clear about what you want is a good starting point.
Good luck!