People who've returned hom
#17
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Hubs and I met in Chicago and got married in '96 (he was on a job transfer).
We moved to England ten days after we were married and lived in south Warwickshire for eight years. Both of our kids were born in England.
We moved back to suburban Chicago in September '04. We've been back for three years.
My husband likes the US, but like others have said, we both see the pros and cons of both places.
Hubs' career is now such that there's a possiblity that we could be in a position to return to England in a few year's time.
We have time to think about it - it may not happen at all. But we're weighing everything such as education for the boys, his aging mum who was widowed this year, finances, etc.
If we decide that it would be a good move and the timing is right, I welcome it.
We moved to England ten days after we were married and lived in south Warwickshire for eight years. Both of our kids were born in England.
We moved back to suburban Chicago in September '04. We've been back for three years.
My husband likes the US, but like others have said, we both see the pros and cons of both places.
Hubs' career is now such that there's a possiblity that we could be in a position to return to England in a few year's time.
We have time to think about it - it may not happen at all. But we're weighing everything such as education for the boys, his aging mum who was widowed this year, finances, etc.
If we decide that it would be a good move and the timing is right, I welcome it.
#18
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The lesson is that you can't have everything though. There is no perfect life anywhere. You just exchange one type of suffering for another. Here we often have dull/cold/wet weather, clogged up roads, aggression, yobbishness, debt, stress, no friends nearby. In Sydney we often have heat, humidity, flies, boredom, isolation, no family at all. It may sound negative, but it somehow seems better to accept that nowhere is ideal, and sometimes it depends which types of suffering you find most tolerable!
The lesson is that you can't have everything though. There is no perfect life anywhere. You just exchange one type of suffering for another. Here we often have dull/cold/wet weather, clogged up roads, aggression, yobbishness, debt, stress, no friends nearby. In Sydney we often have heat, humidity, flies, boredom, isolation, no family at all. It may sound negative, but it somehow seems better to accept that nowhere is ideal, and sometimes it depends which types of suffering you find most tolerable!
A work colleague of mine, got the dreaded call that his father passed away and he rushed home for that. That really made me think.
For me it's more a clear thing. Trade in the easy day to day life for the rushing around and stress on the job front, but then again the trade would also include the trade of have no family here in the US to having all my family around in the UK.
Really hard thing is, if I could bring my family over to the US I would never leave. However, that's not going to happen.
#19
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Location: uk-perth northern suburbs-uk
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The lesson is that you can't have everything though. There is no perfect life anywhere. You just exchange one type of suffering for another. Here we often have dull/cold/wet weather, clogged up roads, aggression, yobbishness, debt, stress, no friends nearby. In Sydney we often have heat, humidity, flies, boredom, isolation, no family at all. It may sound negative, but it somehow seems better to accept that nowhere is ideal, and sometimes it depends which types of suffering you find most tolerable!
Thats very true
I wish I could know which is more tolerable. At the moment, for me its the UK, People make me very happy - but I worry re the next generation, whats best for my kids? Again. who knows? You have to make the best of whatever your choice is, and I expect its those who have had more life experience that find it the hardest.
#21
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I'm a returnee, well I was...I'm in the US again. BUT, I would go home in an instant, it was the best decision I ever made. I had 20 months of peace and normality which have been rudely interupted by a nagging credit card bill that won't go away on a UK nurses salary so I came back here to earn enough to clear it and save enough cash to put down a deposit on a house.
I've been back in the US 3 weeks and I KNOW I will go home again. When I went home there was no reverse culture shock, no hard adjustment..nothing. I just slotted back into society and was happy. It won't be that easy for everyone, but it really worked for me, plus I now realise that it's the US that's insane, I though I was going insane last time I lived here. It's just good to be reminded of normality!
I think many returnees find that life becomes easy again when they go home and that perhaps they don't *need* the support of a site like this and it just slips from their mind. That's what happened to me anyway.
Cheers
Paul
I've been back in the US 3 weeks and I KNOW I will go home again. When I went home there was no reverse culture shock, no hard adjustment..nothing. I just slotted back into society and was happy. It won't be that easy for everyone, but it really worked for me, plus I now realise that it's the US that's insane, I though I was going insane last time I lived here. It's just good to be reminded of normality!
I think many returnees find that life becomes easy again when they go home and that perhaps they don't *need* the support of a site like this and it just slips from their mind. That's what happened to me anyway.
Cheers
Paul
#22
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Thats very true
I wish I could know which is more tolerable. At the moment, for me its the UK, People make me very happy - but I worry re the next generation, whats best for my kids? Again. who knows? You have to make the best of whatever your choice is, and I expect its those who have had more life experience that find it the hardest.
Thats very true
I wish I could know which is more tolerable. At the moment, for me its the UK, People make me very happy - but I worry re the next generation, whats best for my kids? Again. who knows? You have to make the best of whatever your choice is, and I expect its those who have had more life experience that find it the hardest.
Regarding what's best for the kids. Really you can only see up to the point that they can start making there own decisions and then it's up to them.
In my case, I firmly believe the benefit of having my family around them far outwieghs the benefit of being in the US. One thing that I will tell them is that if they do want to have the opportunity to travel through work or even move to another country, education is a huge advantage.
BTW my wife and I don't have any kids yet, but would like to in the next year or two.
#23
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I hope you get to see your family soon
(and i reckon you'll be a great dad!)
C
#24
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It's bad enough that returnees have to face the people who were at their leaving do and explain why they came home after only 1yr. I really cannot see that they would then come back to this forum and admit that they made a mistake and are regretting their return to the UK.
You never though, someone may prove me wrong..but for the most I think they are so relieved to be back with friends and family, you could throw anything at them in the UK and they wouldn't batter an eyelid.
You never though, someone may prove me wrong..but for the most I think they are so relieved to be back with friends and family, you could throw anything at them in the UK and they wouldn't batter an eyelid.
#25
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Joined: Oct 2006
Location: Suffolk
Posts: 134
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Been home nearly a year and no regrets. I can look back on my time in Perth now as good, glad I lived there for 5 years. I just knew when I was there that I didn't want to be there forever so we moved back before we got too old. I think the key is choosing a really nice place to live when you come back. We are so happy in this little town, woodbridge where we are but today i got the bus into Ipswich and it was very grim. There were some very dubious characters on the bus but I also remember very dubious characters on the night train from Freo and the trams in San Diego so same world over. It is so great for the kids where we are and they have a great relationship with extended family. Also there is great beaches, countryside, forests, parks etc around here. Not really missing too much about Perth. Good luck to everyone coming back, good things and bad in both places.
#26
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I'm a returnee, well I was...I'm in the US again. BUT, I would go home in an instant, it was the best decision I ever made. I had 20 months of peace and normality which have been rudely interupted by a nagging credit card bill that won't go away on a UK nurses salary so I came back here to earn enough to clear it and save enough cash to put down a deposit on a house.
I've been back in the US 3 weeks and I KNOW I will go home again. When I went home there was no reverse culture shock, no hard adjustment..nothing. I just slotted back into society and was happy. It won't be that easy for everyone, but it really worked for me, plus I now realise that it's the US that's insane, I though I was going insane last time I lived here. It's just good to be reminded of normality!
I think many returnees find that life becomes easy again when they go home and that perhaps they don't *need* the support of a site like this and it just slips from their mind. That's what happened to me anyway.
Cheers
Paul
I've been back in the US 3 weeks and I KNOW I will go home again. When I went home there was no reverse culture shock, no hard adjustment..nothing. I just slotted back into society and was happy. It won't be that easy for everyone, but it really worked for me, plus I now realise that it's the US that's insane, I though I was going insane last time I lived here. It's just good to be reminded of normality!
I think many returnees find that life becomes easy again when they go home and that perhaps they don't *need* the support of a site like this and it just slips from their mind. That's what happened to me anyway.
Cheers
Paul
#27
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Joined: Aug 2007
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Posts: 367
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This forum is like a replacement family for us lost and lonely souls (oooh that sounds a bit dramatic doesn't it - but you know what I mean). I don't think I even knew what a Forum was when I was in the UK... Well, until we got the opportunity to immigrate... I think I've been glued to the keyboard ever since. First trying to get out here and now trying to get back. Please god don't let me evolve into a ping ponger. It's bad enough being a US Gypsie without taking it to a global level.
#28
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Been home nearly a year and no regrets. I can look back on my time in Perth now as good, glad I lived there for 5 years. I just knew when I was there that I didn't want to be there forever so we moved back before we got too old. I think the key is choosing a really nice place to live when you come back. We are so happy in this little town, woodbridge where we are but today i got the bus into Ipswich and it was very grim. There were some very dubious characters on the bus but I also remember very dubious characters on the night train from Freo and the trams in San Diego so same world over. It is so great for the kids where we are and they have a great relationship with extended family. Also there is great beaches, countryside, forests, parks etc around here. Not really missing too much about Perth. Good luck to everyone coming back, good things and bad in both places.
#29
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Joined: Oct 2007
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Spent 4 years in Canada, been back in the UK for over 2 years now - no regrets.
I agree with a lot of the previous posts, the more you travel you realise that there is no perfect country out there and they all have negatives things about them that bother us all differently.
I am very positive now that I am back and see the positive things in the UK that I did not reconise until I left.
There are certain things about Canada that I truly miss but not enough to out weigh what I can get from here.
We have recently purchased a property in Canada to rent out so not entirely turning our backs on the place we choose to live. We hopefully intend to spend a lot of time there in the future but the UK is home.
I agree with a lot of the previous posts, the more you travel you realise that there is no perfect country out there and they all have negatives things about them that bother us all differently.
I am very positive now that I am back and see the positive things in the UK that I did not reconise until I left.
There are certain things about Canada that I truly miss but not enough to out weigh what I can get from here.
We have recently purchased a property in Canada to rent out so not entirely turning our backs on the place we choose to live. We hopefully intend to spend a lot of time there in the future but the UK is home.