now your back !!!!
Sep 9th 2008 | 11:46 pm
#16
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Re: now your back !!!!
We've been back for about a year and a half. Now we're going to start the process of returning to US. My hubby has already started packing while I'm still coming to terms with it. I know it's the best thing for us but it's not easy. It's been pretty tough over the last year but I'm not sure I regret it. I regret having to spend the money and now struggle to find the money to return. I'm not sure if it's even going to be possible. I'm glad we came back though. If we hadn't, I'd always be wondering but now I know we just can't afford to live in England, as sad as it sounds. I'm glad that my kids have come to know my family and are at an age where they'll remember. It'll be really difficult leaving everyone but I think it has to be done.
In exactly the same boat! I am still trying to get my head around going back, even though I loved it there too!
Sep 10th 2008 | 12:11 pm
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Re: now your back !!!!
Same here. We left the USA last Christmas and turned right around and came back again. I too wonder how hard it will be to afford a decent lifestyle back home. We don't expect to live the high life, just a decent life where we can pay our way.
Sep 11th 2008 | 5:41 am
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Re: now your back !!!!
How are you settling back in? How long did you come back for?
Sep 11th 2008 | 6:36 pm
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I suppose it depends on your income etc but we find we can't have a life, it's just all work to pay the bills. I work in the evenings and weekends so we don't need childcare but that means I miss out on a lot of my family life. I rarely even get to eat dinner with them. I know if we move back to USA we'll have more time together.
Sep 11th 2008 | 7:04 pm
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I think that's the hardest part of it. It breaks my heart to even think about it. I daren't even tell my dad we're leaving. But, I keep trying to tell myself that I need to put my kids first and I do think we can give them a better life in USA.
Sep 11th 2008 | 7:13 pm
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Re: now your back !!!!
Could you not explain to your Dad that perhaps they can visit you and the children, and perhaps that way it won't seem to him that he won't see his Grandchildren.
Sep 11th 2008 | 7:21 pm
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He did visit when we were there before but has since had colon cancer. Thankfully, he's ok now but doesn't like to travel too far. I'll have to try and get back this way more often.
Sep 11th 2008 | 7:30 pm
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Re: now your back !!!!
Now this is interesting and quite contrary to most peoples view on returning. I think it is a refreshing and honest view. I respect it and admire your reaction to the UK of going back to Oz.
I think that people who are glad to be back have an equally valid reaction when they are overjoyed to be there.
However what you have shown is that returning to the UK is not a guarantee of happiness.
Well done and good luck.
I think that people who are glad to be back have an equally valid reaction when they are overjoyed to be there.
However what you have shown is that returning to the UK is not a guarantee of happiness.
Well done and good luck.
Why are this persons comments any more HONEST than anyone elses? Are you saying that those who are happy on their return and say so are not honest?
Beats me why anyone would come on here and not post their honest thoughts! Be they good or bad.
As for me, definitely happier back in UK.... honest!!!
I feel safer, and far more content within myself.
Sep 11th 2008 | 7:55 pm
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All the very best on your return.
Sep 11th 2008 | 8:55 pm
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Re: now your back !!!!
The only reason we are worse off being back in the Uk, is the fact we now dont have our own home and are having to rent. Before we moved to Canada, we had been in the housing market for years and had a very low morgage and a very nice home.
But then we knew that we was risking all that before we upped sticks
For us being back home, in a place where we feel relaxed and a dam site more confident, surrounded by everything we know and trust is more important.
Canada was not the land of milk and honey for us, we was alot worse off in every way. We also found out to our dismay
it is a foreign Country
We are all so very different and want and need different things, and its such ashame it takes some of us to lose, most of what we have worked for all our lives before we realise it was on the door step all the time.
Its a very hard decision, but one we can only make for ourselves and i wish you all........ the very best of luck in whatever one you make.
But then we knew that we was risking all that before we upped sticks
For us being back home, in a place where we feel relaxed and a dam site more confident, surrounded by everything we know and trust is more important.
Canada was not the land of milk and honey for us, we was alot worse off in every way. We also found out to our dismay
it is a foreign Country We are all so very different and want and need different things, and its such ashame it takes some of us to lose, most of what we have worked for all our lives before we realise it was on the door step all the time.
Its a very hard decision, but one we can only make for ourselves and i wish you all........ the very best of luck in whatever one you make.
Sep 17th 2008 | 12:54 am
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Re: now your back !!!!
Hullo!
I've been back from Canada (Vancouver) since late June - so far, so good! I can relate to the comment about seeing home with a fresh pair of eyes.
It's so nice to be able to have a life again, without needing a car! I never thought I'd say this but *yay* for London transport!
Having experienced the rush hour crush on the Vancouver skytrain, but with no 'alternative route' to take when it breaks down, I'm loving the sheer amount of tube lines and bus routes that we have.
I've been back from Canada (Vancouver) since late June - so far, so good! I can relate to the comment about seeing home with a fresh pair of eyes.
It's so nice to be able to have a life again, without needing a car! I never thought I'd say this but *yay* for London transport!
Having experienced the rush hour crush on the Vancouver skytrain, but with no 'alternative route' to take when it breaks down, I'm loving the sheer amount of tube lines and bus routes that we have.
Sep 30th 2008 | 6:16 am
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Re: now your back !!!!
lol, only been back a week, so I don't think I qualify to give my opinion on this thread, but you're going to have it anyway, so there 
I am glad to be back. I have come back with a "fresh" pair of eyes, grown up a lot, and I can see the UK as it really is, not as people like to portray it.
Where people see "bloody illegals", I see wonderful diversity. Where people see "sodding rain again", I see an opportunity to splash in puddles with my son.
I love being so close to my family again. Literally everyone in my family is within 2 miles of me, apart from my wonderful husband who is in the US, I'm glad he is actually, his dad is in very poor health and we're worried about him.
I told him last night that we have forever to be together, but his priority right now is his dad. It's weird the way things happen, but it's like he was meant to be there for his dad right now.
Bacon is wonderful, as are Galaxy bars, and despite me making up for lost time with food, I have lost 7 pounds in weight this week, just shows what sort of crap I must have exposed myself to in the US!
I am a lot more outspoken than I used to be, but in a direct way instead of a nasty way. A lot of people have commented on that I seem more sure of myself now. All in all, it did me good, but I'm glad to be home
I am glad to be back. I have come back with a "fresh" pair of eyes, grown up a lot, and I can see the UK as it really is, not as people like to portray it.
Where people see "bloody illegals", I see wonderful diversity. Where people see "sodding rain again", I see an opportunity to splash in puddles with my son.
I love being so close to my family again. Literally everyone in my family is within 2 miles of me, apart from my wonderful husband who is in the US, I'm glad he is actually, his dad is in very poor health and we're worried about him.
I told him last night that we have forever to be together, but his priority right now is his dad. It's weird the way things happen, but it's like he was meant to be there for his dad right now.Bacon is wonderful, as are Galaxy bars, and despite me making up for lost time with food, I have lost 7 pounds in weight this week, just shows what sort of crap I must have exposed myself to in the US!
I am a lot more outspoken than I used to be, but in a direct way instead of a nasty way. A lot of people have commented on that I seem more sure of myself now. All in all, it did me good, but I'm glad to be home
Glad you're enjoying being back home....I'm hoping to do the move next year, after being in California for 19 years!
Deborah
Sep 30th 2008 | 6:22 am
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Re: now your back !!!!
Funny you lost weight - I always lose weight when I go home to visit family (still in the US), not because I eat crap in the US, but the fact everything is laden with sugars and large portions.
Glad you're enjoying being back home....I'm hoping to do the move next year, after being in California for 19 years!
Deborah
Glad you're enjoying being back home....I'm hoping to do the move next year, after being in California for 19 years!
Deborah
good luck with your plans.....
Oct 1st 2008 | 3:07 am
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it is funny for me to read these because i feel alot the of the same things but in a reverse way.
I immigrated to Canada when i was little and i grew up in canada.
We, as a new family, me as the mom....moved to the uk for a new start new life and adventure. After 6 years in the UK, lots of trials, tribulations and some successes, i convinced hubby life was better in canada, and that i would be happier back "home" in canada.
Now we are in the process of going back to the UK....I realize that we fit better over there.
So as you can see i am a little backwards in this situation.
I immigrated to Canada when i was little and i grew up in canada.
We, as a new family, me as the mom....moved to the uk for a new start new life and adventure. After 6 years in the UK, lots of trials, tribulations and some successes, i convinced hubby life was better in canada, and that i would be happier back "home" in canada.
Now we are in the process of going back to the UK....I realize that we fit better over there.
So as you can see i am a little backwards in this situation.
Oct 2nd 2008 | 1:39 am
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Re: now your back !!!!
Hullo!
I've been back from Canada (Vancouver) since late June - so far, so good! I can relate to the comment about seeing home with a fresh pair of eyes.
It's so nice to be able to have a life again, without needing a car! I never thought I'd say this but *yay* for London transport!
Having experienced the rush hour crush on the Vancouver skytrain, but with no 'alternative route' to take when it breaks down, I'm loving the sheer amount of tube lines and bus routes that we have.
I've been back from Canada (Vancouver) since late June - so far, so good! I can relate to the comment about seeing home with a fresh pair of eyes.
It's so nice to be able to have a life again, without needing a car! I never thought I'd say this but *yay* for London transport!
Having experienced the rush hour crush on the Vancouver skytrain, but with no 'alternative route' to take when it breaks down, I'm loving the sheer amount of tube lines and bus routes that we have.
