moving back from USA to UK - any regrets?
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Moral of the story is: if thinking of moving to another country do a test-run first. I’ve lived in US 30 years and now in Taiwan 3 years. My dream for the last 20 years has been to move back home (not to friends and family, just to my country.) I made short trips every couple of years and watched the country deteriorate in many ways. My last trip in April was shocking and put an end to my aspiration to return. The UK seems to be circling the toilet, economically, socially, and culturally. It’s now far more crowded and congested, way too expensive, the NHS is a disgrace, the government is tyrannical and sickeningly woke, and the people seemed mostly to be small minded, lazy, and as cultured as a sack of potatoes. No offense, I’m sure this doesn’t apply to anyone here. But people seemed to be rude and as miserable as sin, which I was told was because of the “cost of living crisis.”
Obviously a lot will depend on where and when you go there and how much money you have. I returned in the rainy season to Oxford, which is probably ground zero for the decline. If I was wealthy, I might still buy one of those "Escape to the Country" houses on the Devonshire coast, but as things stand, the UK is no longer an option. Thanks for letting me rant.
Obviously a lot will depend on where and when you go there and how much money you have. I returned in the rainy season to Oxford, which is probably ground zero for the decline. If I was wealthy, I might still buy one of those "Escape to the Country" houses on the Devonshire coast, but as things stand, the UK is no longer an option. Thanks for letting me rant.


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Moral of the story is: if thinking of moving to another country do a test-run first. I’ve lived in US 30 years and now in Taiwan 3 years. My dream for the last 20 years has been to move back home (not to friends and family, just to my country.) I made short trips every couple of years and watched the country deteriorate in many ways. My last trip in April was shocking and put an end to my aspiration to return. The UK seems to be circling the toilet, economically, socially, and culturally. It’s now far more crowded and congested, way too expensive, the NHS is a disgrace, the government is tyrannical and sickeningly woke, and the people seemed mostly to be small minded, lazy, and as cultured as a sack of potatoes. No offense, I’m sure this doesn’t apply to anyone here. But people seemed to be rude and as miserable as sin, which I was told was because of the “cost of living crisis.”
Obviously a lot will depend on where and when you go there and how much money you have. I returned in the rainy season to Oxford, which is probably ground zero for the decline. If I was wealthy, I might still buy one of those "Escape to the Country" houses on the Devonshire coast, but as things stand, the UK is no longer an
option. Thanks for letting me rant.
Obviously a lot will depend on where and when you go there and how much money you have. I returned in the rainy season to Oxford, which is probably ground zero for the decline. If I was wealthy, I might still buy one of those "Escape to the Country" houses on the Devonshire coast, but as things stand, the UK is no longer an
option. Thanks for letting me rant.
…nope just not going to go there lol
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Moral of the story is: if thinking of moving to another country do a test-run first. I’ve lived in US 30 years and now in Taiwan 3 years. My dream for the last 20 years has been to move back home (not to friends and family, just to my country.) I made short trips every couple of years and watched the country deteriorate in many ways. My last trip in April was shocking and put an end to my aspiration to return. The UK seems to be circling the toilet, economically, socially, and culturally. It’s now far more crowded and congested, way too expensive, the NHS is a disgrace, the government is tyrannical and sickeningly woke, and the people seemed mostly to be small minded, lazy, and as cultured as a sack of potatoes. No offense, I’m sure this doesn’t apply to anyone here. But people seemed to be rude and as miserable as sin, which I was told was because of the “cost of living crisis.”
Obviously a lot will depend on where and when you go there and how much money you have. I returned in the rainy season to Oxford, which is probably ground zero for the decline. If I was wealthy, I might still buy one of those "Escape to the Country" houses on the Devonshire coast, but as things stand, the UK is no longer an option. Thanks for letting me rant.
Obviously a lot will depend on where and when you go there and how much money you have. I returned in the rainy season to Oxford, which is probably ground zero for the decline. If I was wealthy, I might still buy one of those "Escape to the Country" houses on the Devonshire coast, but as things stand, the UK is no longer an option. Thanks for letting me rant.
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Yeah, just a joke. In Russia (population 146 million,) 400 people were arrested last year for things they wrote on social media. In the UK (population 67 million,) 3,300 were arrested last year for things they wrote on social media, such as posting the lyrics to a recorded rap song that contained the “N word.”
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Yeah, just a joke. In Russia (population 146 million,) 400 people were arrested last year for things they wrote on social media. In the UK (population 67 million,) 3,300 were arrested last year for things they wrote on social media, such as posting the lyrics to a recorded rap song that contained the “N word.”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0r7GRx8Sl-s
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0r7GRx8Sl-s
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Yeah, just a joke. In Russia (population 146 million,) 400 people were arrested last year for things they wrote on social media. In the UK (population 67 million,) 3,300 were arrested last year for things they wrote on social media, such as posting the lyrics to a recorded rap song that contained the “N word.”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0r7GRx8Sl-s
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0r7GRx8Sl-s
https://britishexpats.com/forum/take...kraine-942049/
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This thread is to discuss moving back to the UK from the US. It is not to discuss the current war with Russia. If you wish to continue with this conversation, please do so in the following thread.
https://britishexpats.com/forum/take...kraine-942049/
https://britishexpats.com/forum/take...kraine-942049/
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For our American friends LOL: https://money.usnews.com/money/retir...tire-in-the-uk
Where to retire in the UK
The United Kingdom offers a diversity of lifestyle options, from bustling cities to quaint countryside villages to coastal resort towns. Generally, there is better weather and higher property prices in the south, while worse weather and less expensive real estate can be found in the north. Across England, Northern Ireland, Scotland and Wales, you’ll find strong infrastructure, high-quality health care and historical significance. Here's a look at the best places to retire in the UK.Last edited by Moses2013; May 23rd 2023 at 10:24 am.
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We spent 3 months in the UK and decided to come back to Canada. We didn't have enough money to buy the sort of life we would like there. We did know that we would be putting ourselves back a bit but the reality of it was a big slap in the face. After being there a while and realizing we wanted to be closer by our family than we originally thought we then couldn't afford anything. Rentals with two kids and a dog where incredibly sparse and very expensive and finding one within a good school catchment even harder. If you have plenty of funds then you will be absolutely fine but we would have found ourselves living a very different life. We have moved back to Vancouver Island and live one street back from a beautiful beach. No crowds, no traffic and great schools. We just have to work hard and save to visit more often. My heart is settled and although it was a wild ride I know I truly belong here.
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No regrets, but it has been difficult, much harder than I thought it was going to be. Setting up a new life, is hard! I lived in US the for 36 years so it really is starting from scratch. I do miss a lot about the US, but I personally feel a greater sense of belonging in the UK, I had not really adapted culturally to the US. I do not find life cheaper in the UK and I have taken a small financial loss, with exchange rate, but I had prepared for it and will recover. I imagine it would be quite difficult to move without substantial savings.
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We spent 3 months in the UK and decided to come back to Canada. We didn't have enough money to buy the sort of life we would like there. We did know that we would be putting ourselves back a bit but the reality of it was a big slap in the face. After being there a while and realizing we wanted to be closer by our family than we originally thought we then couldn't afford anything. Rentals with two kids and a dog where incredibly sparse and very expensive and finding one within a good school catchment even harder. If you have plenty of funds then you will be absolutely fine but we would have found ourselves living a very different life. We have moved back to Vancouver Island and live one street back from a beautiful beach. No crowds, no traffic and great schools. We just have to work hard and save to visit more often. My heart is settled and although it was a wild ride I know I truly belong here.

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I moved back from 2020-2022
First year was covid lockdown HELL
Second year was PGCE teacher training TORTURE
Both awful years
Though I would say this element of stress of being abroad did go away...but also the excitement and feeling of life being an adventure. Everything just feels static and slightly dead and coffin like about the UK. A comfortable coffin I suppose. But I don't feel like I am getting the most out of life there. Feels very grim and yes dysoptian.
Anywhere in central or Eastern Europe feels calmer and more relaxed from my experience.
First year was covid lockdown HELL
Second year was PGCE teacher training TORTURE
Both awful years
Though I would say this element of stress of being abroad did go away...but also the excitement and feeling of life being an adventure. Everything just feels static and slightly dead and coffin like about the UK. A comfortable coffin I suppose. But I don't feel like I am getting the most out of life there. Feels very grim and yes dysoptian.
Anywhere in central or Eastern Europe feels calmer and more relaxed from my experience.
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This is interesting. I feel exactly the same but in reverse about Vancouver. My Canadian wife and I sold our house and moved from the UK 2 years ago. We both have decent jobs and a down payment but I'm feeling utterly dejected by the state of the housing market. We've rented for two years now, I loved having a house and a garden and privacy but we simply cant get on the housing ladder here. Barely any choice of house below $1m, CMHC insurance premium because we don't quite have 20% down payment, interest stress testing on our mortgage, which is depressing the amount we can borrow etc etc. I just feel its very sad that two hard working people, with no debt and a sensible down payment cant buy a house. It makes me miss what we had in the UK. BC is beautiful don't get me wrong, but if im going to spend the next 20 years trying to clear a massive mortgage (if we can find a house), that makes me pretty sad.
Fast forward to 2023, my daughter was seriously struggling in Victoria despite having a good job and we were having to subsidise her. She decided to return to the UK and I went out to help her pack and return to the UK. The flights were ridiculously expensive and we had to get indirect flights to minimise the cost, she also wanted to bring her German Shepherd dog back to the UK which which cost over $11k but my wife and I thought it was the price we had to pay.
We had settled very well back in the UK and have a 3 bed semi and have an amazing view overlooking the sea and harbour, we absolutely love it here and have found the people to be very friendly. I only need to drive once or twice a week, there is very little traffic and the only hold ups are usually caused by a tractor. We have an amazing lifestyle in a beautiful part of the country and have no regrets whatsoever. I was wondering how I would feel when I went to pick up my daughter having not returned to Canada since we left for the UK. I was lucky to get the first heatwave of the season and booked a hotel very close to where we lived in Victoria. I can honestly say I hated every minute I was back in Canada, the roads where so congested, there was awful development everywhere you looked and the place had become very expensive. The cost of living has risen in the UK but nothing compared to what I saw in BC. The service in the hotel was awful and when we returned to Vancouver for our flight back to the UK the hotel was even worse. The bar and restaurant closed at 2100hrs due to a lack of staff, and the Shark Club next do had closed some time ago for the same reason. I was so glad to get back home. I doubt if I will ever go back to Canada again.
Back in the UK we have our problems just like Canada does. Our self serving politicians are a complete waste of time and the world seems to be becoming a much more dangerous place due to geopolitical issues. COVID did a lot of damage as did the war in Ukraine. But where we live is a great place to live, we have very little crime and everyone looks out for one another, something you don't get in the large cities. As for being woke, this was one of the reasons we left Canada. We found this to be forced on you in every direction in the workplace and to waste money on rainbow painted crosswalks was comical. As for the First Nations issues, good luck with that one. As for the gender issues in the workplace the white male was a second class citizen. I worked for a Crown Corporation, when I retired as a manger I was replaced by a young women with very little experience (no issues if she can do the job), she didn't actually turn up to do the job for over a year, she was then promoted to Area Manager and then went on a years maternity leave! My ex Foreman now has my old job and the Area Manager still hasn't returned to work. He wasn't very impressed. So glad I don't have to work in today's environment.
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That’s reassuring after Zeppo’s account of his experience. Although I still can’t decide which annoys me more: the sentiments behind that notice on the Tube or the appalling English.
What about healhcare where you are? That’s probably a big concern for anyone contemplating moving back.
What about healhcare where you are? That’s probably a big concern for anyone contemplating moving back.
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That’s reassuring after Zeppo’s account of his experience. Although I still can’t decide which annoys me more: the sentiments behind that notice on the Tube or the appalling English.
What about healhcare where you are? That’s probably a big concern for anyone contemplating moving back.
What about healhcare where you are? That’s probably a big concern for anyone contemplating moving back.
There are long waiting lists but I can say we haven’t experienced any problems. We got a doctor without any issues but getting a NHS dentist is almost impossible. Be prepared to pay for a private dentist! Having lived in Canada we were fortunate to get good benefits as we did when I worked in the UK many years ago.
What you will find is food was is cheaper and more varied compared to Canada, as is beer and wine. Car insurance is at least half of what we paid in Canada and property and contents insurance is far cheaper. Energy is more expensive but is starting to come down. There are areas of the UK I wouldn’t go near due to over population and crime especially my home town in Kent. The other big plus here is you don’t always need a car to get anywhere. We have excellent public transit compared to Canada. Both my grown up kids don’t drive here no does my wife. You can get by without a vehicle.