Hi everyone

Well my dream of a better life has exploded and I will be returning to the UK alone as a single parent.

My soon to be ex-husband has refused to return and my daughter is desperate to get back to the UK.

The logistics of returning alone with nothing scare the hell out of me so I was hoping that there would be someone on this forum who has done something similar. Friendly advice would be so gratefully received.

Thank you

I divorced my husband and returned back to the UK with my 2 children. I understand your concerns but there is help for you in the UK. How old is your daughter? do you have family that can help? have you been working and what are your job prospects? These all all things to consider when choosing where to relocate to.

The most important question is, is your soon to be ex ok with you leaving with your daughter? If so this will need to be stipulated in your divorce agreement/custody order and a judge will need to sign off on it.

Trust me it is scary but I would always tell myself to hold my nerve because I knew that I was doing the right thing for my children. Please feel free to PM me. Chin up it will be ok

Thanks I can't PM you yet as I haven't enough posts listed so I will do that then get back to you.

Oh yes, I think you need to have 3 before you can PM??

and another thing...don't leave with nothing...make sure you get what you are entitled to

Thanks Bromleygirl

I am returning to the UK as a single mum in 8 days, I am petrified cus my family have refused to help us with a place to stay...this is the worst feeling, I have to take the flight as I will never have the means to fly again

http://heathrowtravelcare.co.uk/ At least you can get some advice when you arrive.

I have not but I do know a few who have and it worked out for them, just stay strong and as BG said make sure you leave with everything you are entitled to as it could help you with your new life here. Do you know where your returning to? when it all seems a bit to much as it can do at times I "fast forward" and think of how it will be. I know how overwhelming any move can be for some so try and not think about the logistics if you can and look at it like a move to a different area if it helps. How old is your daughter, do you have help when you arrive in the UK? Try and stay positive, its a new year and a new start, I am sure you will get excellent advise from people who have gone through what you are going through now. Good luck

Thanks Brits1

Yes I am returning to my old home town, with my tail between my legs, so I do have a network of family and friends but I don't want to be a burden on them. The fact that this time we will be moving with nothing is the thing that really scares me and the fact that I won't have a job either.

So would love to hear from others who have survived this issue.

You should never feei like you have your tail between your legs....NEVER...thats an order....you sound like a wonderful Mother who's doing the best for her child and I bet you would be there for your friends and family if you need them....so why don't you let them help you if you need help. Take little steps....just get home first....start the looking for work, you will be able to get help and advice by just calling into our local Job Centre and asking for info and what help you need in regards to your situation, even Citizens Advice here offer great advice....just get yourself home first and then the rest will fall into place in time. All the best and stay strong for you and your daughter

Thanks brits1

You big up your wonderful new life in Canada and then he leaves and you are 4,000+ miles from home and your family and friends. I never expected to be in this situation. I have always paid my way and the thought of signing on and applying for benefits, if they will give me anything. I know it would only be for the short term until we get get sorted but it is so not me.

Luckily I won't be destitute and completely alone like some people on this forum so I should count myself lucky.

There was a programme on not long ago (I have never seen the series before but my OH was watching it) to cut a long story short, a young lady had gone to live in Portugal to work and while there met an older local man a few years later they had a daughter (the young lady had always work both here in the UK and in Portugal) fast forward 8 years and serious problems in the relationship which had led to other private problems and for these reasons (not her fault) she had to leave Portugal and come home with a Portugese speaking daughter, without anything but their clothes, they stayed with her parents (who only had a very small home) for a short while, long story short the young lady ended up with a nice flat (near parents) re educated herself and got work and all the while saying she felt terrible getting help, she certainly should not of felt like that....help is there and should be used, yes it can be used badly by bad people but thats not you. Look at getting help as a fresh independent start to a knew life for you, I am sure before too long you will be making your own way in life. All the best

sent you a PM backtoblighty

Hi everyone

Just thought I would give you guys a quick update. Myself and daughter are flying back to UK next week for a 10 day reccy - weird isnt it reccying your old home tome? I need to make sure that I can afford to return, child support etc will be much easier if we stay I know, daughter has a school tour booked, I have rental properties to view and job agencies to search out.

Thank you all for your help and advice I will update you again when we get back.

Thanks for the update Keep us posted and good luck