Originally Posted by Englishtart

Hi there This is my first foray onto this forum and was just having a 'nosey' really, no intention of posting, but this post struck a cord with me.

I am in a similar (though totally different situation) I'm a Brit, hubby US military, we have moved around all over for the last 22 years, we have had lots of separations during our marriage too, because of his career.

Now he is retired, but still works for the Gov't, we were living in Colorado after renting out our home in Illinois, I loved our home in IL, had the best friends and neighbours ever, but hubbys job moved, so we did too. After 18 months in CO, I couldn't stand it any longer, our 15 yr old Son was missing his old school/friends etc in IL too and really wanted to come 'home'.

In December last year we made the difficult (but seemingly sensible) choice for my Son and I to move back to IL, we rented for the first 6 months as our house was still rented out, I was thrilled to be back, so was our Son, at first.
Pretty soon, I realised that things had changed during our absence, my friends had moved on (although we spoke regularly from CO) they mostly had gotten closer to other friends and I felt left out. My Sons friends had too, he found that he couldn't just move back into his group of friends and started to feel a bit lonely.

I missed my hubby desperately! We moved back into our home in May, next door to my best friend, it has been really awkward for me, I'm not working, which doesn't help, my Son isn't happy in his old school and his usually 'honor roll' grades are starting to slip! All in all, we are both pretty miserable.

We heard recently, that hubby's job is probably being phased out, instead of being worried, I am actually getting excited about his having to move, we have decided that wherever he goes next, we are going too! Hopefully soon

I just wanted to say, think really hard before you make the move away from your hubby, I'm sure you know what you are doing, I thought I did too. It's not always a good idea to 'go back' wherever back is. If you are still determined to go, I hope you have family support there and are prepared for things to be different from when you left!
Good Luck

Originally Posted by Scrundlebunny

Im on here cos i'm married to an australian man but the marriage is heading for the divorce courts, and then i have to decide whether being lonely in australia is better than being lonely at home. Someone told me today at least i would be lonely in the sun, which was so stupid, fancy staying here just cos its sunny. Maybe some people do, but i couldnt be one of them.
all his family are here but they will all be on his side, and i think a lot of my friends will think the same way and think i'm silly to be leaving him. But if i went back home i don't know if my friends there would welcome me back. Horrible position to be in. i usually post in the australia forum bit, but so many people in this uk bit seem to have the same problems as me over moving back and being married to someone who isnt British so I think i should come in here more often, even if i don't go home in the end.