Hello everyone!I'm new here.
(i've been more of a reader than a writer on BE)

I have a question (sorry if it's been answered anywhere else, but
i'm just in a very difficult state of mind and maybe you could help me)

So.. How long does it take to start feeling comfortable in a new country?
I'm pushing 2 years in the US and lately have the feeling that i borrowed someone's life, all what is happening is not real.
I also started having panic attacks
Did anyone else experience smth like this?

I went home not long ago, but had a feeling that i don't belong there anymore, but don't belong here either..It's like someone is holding you in the air..is it normal?
where do i belong?

Sorry to hear you feel unsettled and normally folk post they are unsettled because they want to go home but in your case it appears your not really sure where your home or your heart is!!

This happened to me I travelled all over the world and would go back to the UK an feel nothing like I did not belong, I have found California to suit my lifestyle and feel like I have lived here all my life its just fits some how, having said that Australia is also very much home for me maybe because most of my family live there.

Now then eveyone is different some folk just find a place that fits like I have maybe you would prefare Europe!!

What is it that you feel does not gel for you in the US!
If you can work that out then maybe you can start to resolve the issue, ie what don't you like to what you do, and where would in the world these thoughts become reality do you think!!

I can identify with your feeling of not belonging.

However, whenever I am back home it feels like home. Strange, peculiar etc.......... but still home.

What brought you to the US - are you here 'for good'?

Personally I manage by focusing on today and trying to make the best of it whilst all the time knowing that it is not forever.

Sounds like you have an Anxiety issue in general that could have arisen as a result of your move over here.
You could try some St Johns Wort, its a natural herbal supplement that should help calm you down a bit.

I find St. John's Wort helps me with anxiety.
When I first moved here I got so "out of sorts" that I was having hot flashes in the night (no I'm not menopausal) and my hair started falling out
I think it took me a good 2 years to start feeling that I belonged so hang on in there.
You'll probably have good days and bad...I found it helped if I told myself that I didn't have to live here forever if I really didn't want to...but becareful...the grass is always greener......

Yeah looks like i'm here for indefinite period of time (hubby is american)..
Such a weird feeling i must say..never knew i could feel like this.

Tried sjw before, didn't really work on me, so i'm taking different pills now, temporarily i hope

What is the most strange thing is that i have everything ppl usually want from life, and i'm not happy.

I know this can't last forever, but sometimes it's so hurtful that i can't help myself asking what have i done and what should i do..

I thought that usually it takes about 2 years to settle and feel good about yourself, but now that i achieved all and overcame all the hard stuff it feels even worse..Strange thing being a human, don't you think?

It took me about a year to feel completely at home over here, but to be honest I think it's a case of looking at the glass half full or half empty, I am a positive person have given myself over to the fact that I will be here forever (possibly) and am going to make the best of it.
It sounds to me that you may well be a little bit depressed, have you made any friends since living here, do you manage to get out and about? These things all help too.

Yeah i'm full socially established.Job,ppl i can go out everyday if i want to,
but still feels that it's not my life..

Btw wanted to ask..does anyone know any good books to read about
stuff like that? (culture shock, different pshycological reaction on life events or maybe just good books that helped you to get through some rough periods in life?

yeah it's called "Life's a struggle, so get on with it and stop being a soft arse." by Manc BE hons.

check out the sedona method at www.sedona.com

Whatever you do............. do NOT have kids unless and until you have resolved these feelings.

Otherwise you'd be truly stuck.

I beat panic attacks and depression. PM me and I'll tell you my story and how I beat it. PS. Don't worry!

LMFAO!

I can also empathise (read my earlier post about stay at home mum culture shock!). I have really suffered from anxiety since I arrived 11 months ago, but just in the last two weeks I have started to feel a bit more 'a part' of life here, with the neighbours, routines etc....
I would have loved it if my DH's company actually included a bit about the anxiety in the copius amounts of literature they gave me about coming to the US.
From what I have been reading and experiencing, anxiety can be a feature of changing countries, and it makes sense really - especially if you have not emotionally committed to a country. You are, as such, the proverbial fish out of water. Although it 2 years sounds a long time to be experiencing it, is it because you haven't emotionally committed to US?
I've had two panic attacks since I've been here, and I've never been prone to them before (had one as a teenager when I first started at uni - similar situation!). One was while driving, as I was feeling overwhelmed with the automatic/opposite side of the road thing/ texas I10 drivers; the second was in a post office, standing in line thinking about the fact I was posting parcels to my friends who are at the other side of the world. Luckily I can talk myself out of the 'oh my god am I having a heart attack' phase. I find wine helps too!
Chin up - sounds like you need to put down routes and realise you are here, it's a great place most of the time, and watch some chic flicks to cheer you up and take your mind off it when you get down!!